How to HAVE a healthy mature MARRIAGE // How to prevent Divorce

How to have a healthy marriage? That's the question we all need to answer before we get married. We all want a marriage filled with connection and closeness and passion. What does it take to achieve one?

Marriage is all about commitment and faithfulness and trust and connection and friendship and intimacy. Are you prioritizing those in your relationship? If not, there's really no point in even getting married. That is how we HAVE a great marriage. That is what LOVE requires of us. They aren't add on's. They are essential to a healthy marriage. You can stay together, but the presence of respect and emotional safety and closeness and playfulness is what makes a relationship thrive. And it's possible for you!

[catherineackerman]

Wow 😳
This is a HUGE reminder that I needed for myself. Pointing the finger and blaming him doesn’t work. I still have lots to work on and I need to be held accountable too for the success or failure of my marriage. Thank you!!

[ramblingsonlife]

Would love to see a video of childhood trauma and the impact of yelling as a form of disciplining children in the household. This can be incredible traumatic for a partner who's experienced trauma.

[shellygraham]

Healthy marriage begins with 2 healthy, mature people - haven't seen too many of those around! I'm still looking for the healthy and mature version of me! There's joy in the journey!

[JoanJacoutot-nrwr]

I just began watching your videos today, Jimmy. I absolutely appreciate them. Nice work and God bless you.

[megganhusby]

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10 thumbs up!! We have a cycle of emotional and psychological abuse, that is “my fault”. I am patient and try to explain my heart and how I need to have him receive it as I receive and am empathetic to him. He is not able to reciprocate. We have been to counseling on and off for 23 years.
I want to be friends and know that we can both be vulnerable. I was explaining this same info at minute 7:10.
He gets to a place of apology not that he totally understands what he is apologizing for but to keep me, he knows that what he must do. I don’t want to be Peter Peter Pumpkin eater’s wife.
I believe at 25 years married and 11 children that he just doesn’t know, and won’t know; he doesn’t have that wiring.
So I can choose to stay in the insanity for the sake of our children or leave (for the sake of our children) Either one is difficult and could possibly cause more children to leave and not want to come home or have our grandchildren know us. I am blamed by one child for not leaving him. But we still have 8 at home. I’m thinking keeping the peace, not having what I want but try my best to exemplify a Godly woman and wife rather than what it would look like defending myself going the other route as I’m sure he’d create lots of drama, for sure make me look bad to the kids (he already does that). He always says he just needs to do xyz and then it would help. He has trouble being consistent with anything he says. He will say we need to meet everyday to just listen to each other. But he says it, he doesn’t really do it. He knows how to keep me. I’m scared of the ugly if I do anything other than accept the offer.
Any advice?

[carolyncopen]

I have recently discovered my husband is having another affair. Your videos are helping us talk through the hurt. They really resonate with him. Thank you!

[janicekern]

I am giving up, I have tried for so long, and all he loves me for is sex.
I have tried all I know to do. What I am learning is that to make things work we need to put ourselves in the others shoes. My husband says "I don't play what ifs." If you don't play "what ifs" you can never understand how the other feels and you don't give a damn how that person feels. He wants sex, I want to be loved.
I have spent so many years trying, he went online looking for sex. I tell him what I want and need and again all that matters to him is sex.

[simplyjane]

My husband sent me this I've been in therapy for 2 years...I've been patient through lies and gaslighting and at the very least emotional infidelity...😅 maybe do a video about how coming clean to your partner will set a good new foundation for trust please 🙏 Also I've been a very giving and open minded partner who carries most of the weight with the home and children...

[GrowingMarriageFlowers]

Healthy❤ Goals
Intimacy
Friendship
Connection
Trust
Empathy
Vulnerability

[IncognitoMood-xc]

I deeply believe in all of Yours HUMBLE & SO DETAILED ADVICES❣️ Talk, talk, talk and profound analysis so that to successfully kill our mindfulnessLESS ....

[RetneEname]

Thank you for the work you've done with this channel.

[haleyanne]

Such powerful and relatable advice!! This definitely is happening with my marriage and it sucks! I hope that it's just a milestone that we both can work through before one of us calls it quits!

[EmilWibe]

I wish I found this video a year ago. Just divorced on my ex’s wish. I miss her so much and would have hoped that I could have watched this video in time and hopefully have learned from it. Alas nok I’m here missing a woman I love

[brightpage]

Jimmy, I’m curious - not why you cheated or that story, but why you stayed? Why’d you chose your marriage? How has it been since? Does it feel like a punishment or are you and your wife finding rewards?

These days, what are the benefits and rewards of marriage anyway? In a world that may be outgrowing boundaries altogether…

Why would our children want to someday participate in their own?

Seeing my grandparents was #goals. Powerful.

My folks weren’t perfect but are still pretty good after 50 years of marriage, including perhaps one child (me), their youngest) out of wedlock… I did the math after sophomore year in high school bio about eye color stats. Maybe I’m simply an anomaly, but..,

What I mean is, our kids are growing up seeing a marriage that… may be less than rewarding. Maybe more of a chore.

Is it still a blessing at all? Or an issue?

[vivifleur]

this is a comment for support ^^ .. thank you Jimmy

[confusedwhynot]

I'm in the never find out camp. Not because I want to be, but because my husband chose it for the third time in his life. That is the problem! It is his life instead of our life. Honest and loving relationships take two people that are all in. I am so sad to know that my husband can't do relationships. True love weathers every hardship if it is built on love, mutual respect, and trust. I am so broken up by everything that I have no desire to have another relationship with any man. Don't just talk and say sorry. Act on change!!

[apricity]

Thank you for reminding me that giving up will do the opposite of fixing my marriage. I just want you to know that I appreciate your videos. What do you think of the book the love dare?

[barbarabiegler]

My boyfriend has admitted that he hurts me (emotionally) on purpose. And it's usually when we are doing fine....not during an argument. It would be easier to accept an apology for inadvertently hurting me but when it's on purpose it feels worse and harder to accept the apology. I just keep trying to figure out why. Maybe he's depressed and I'm the one he lashes out at?

[janicekern]

Just found out he was taking money from the house payment and then didn't pay the house payment and now we are behind on the house payment. This is the fifth time. He is so selfish he is willing to lose our home so he can buy what he wants when he wants.

[-starguara]

I got sick in 2012 found out I had to fibromyalgia, chronic pain, osteoarthritis, positive for shoghens since then will all the pills it's like my sex drive we t completely out the window .y drive is gone he tells me that I don'tove him I told him if I didn't love him I wouldn't. be putting up with his selfishes ness