How do you communicate that you're serious with an avoidant?

How do you communicate that you’re serious with an avoidant without scaring them?

In today’s video, Thais will teach you the small nuances that can make a big difference!

Have you tried this? How did it go? Let us know in a comment!

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[johnnelson]

Put it this way people. Whatever fear you most fear. Heights, spiders, your own shadow whatever it is. Think about what you go through during that time. That's what it is like for them. Lead by example. You cant force it. Are you going to turn and be the opposite with your fear in a matter of weeks or even 2 months. Answer is NO.
Get them to acknowledge. Make your intentions clear every time you need to. And lead by example.

[astridprojection]

It's a challenge though, because if you aren't dealing with an avoidant, and they are a player/narcissist you are just asking to be a doormat.

[jasonbeyer]

Took your advice in that seminar about the power of stay! I am very truly thankful cause of your lessons! The epiphany and enlightenment is beyond words could describe. A lesson Im forever in debt towards this replacing fearful advoident! Never imagine the hunger towards changing a chunk of stainless steel to a desk could be the breathe I needed to gain breavement and leave a bit of a upheaval life behind!

[briankaos]

Avoidents are like cats. Pet them love them but when they need there space let them go and they will be back when they are ready 🤔

[sammilou]

I did this, asked for exclusive and 4 months later still wasn't clear. What a waste of time and heart space

[AG-bxcc]

Isn't there a risk with this though that the FA thinks you just want to change them (and therefore that how they are now isn't good enough, which is already a big source of insecurity)? I've kind of been here with my FA ex and despite saying I wanted to work on our attachment issues together, she usually got defensive, and I think that's a big reason why she did.

[nuez]

It really triggers me uneducated ppl comparing borderline with avoidance and narcissism. To your interest, there are videos which show the difference between and 2. Be thankful you didn't have an borderline personality ex otherwise you would be at court or at police station now where I head next at court!!! This just needed to be said

[nuez]

I can't stand expectations. All my life I has to sacrifice myself for my addictive narcissistic parents and then those men who were immature kids. I often postpone decisions cause I then don't feel the pressure to decide immediately.

[HB-olwu]

No it’s just anxious at least care about people to not think let’s hurt them before they hurt us. They have empathy. It’s something you can heal so stop dating until you’re 100% healed or stay alone. Avoidant also cause people to become anxious it’s gross making the dating world worse

[Mrkrabs]

Just don’t even date them, problem solved.

[gwen]

Sounds like a big waste of time . No thanks 🙄

[nateo]

inb4 toxic "LOL Avoidants are all evil just forget about them" -_- Sigh...the ccomments always sound like anxious preoccupied folks...