When An Avoidant Realizes They've Lost You /What Will They Do?

When An Avoidant Realizes They've Lost You /What Will They Do? While people with an avoidant attachment style can give many mixed emotions and behaviors, it can also be predictable. Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Victoria have tremendous experience looking at how avoidants behave after a break up, and in this video they share some key things to be aware of. If you make understanding Craig's work on attachment theory a priority, you will learn to have healthier relationships with anyone you date. And if you're going through a break up, it's crucial you learn the skills and strategies Craig teaches to re-attract your ex who will test you.

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[CoachCraigKenneth]

Do my Creative Healing Course and you'll transform your life. Heal your attachment issues, process the breakup, and you'll start to feel like heaven 😜

[willgaye]

Your most powerful weapon is walking away and living your life. Love yourself more than them

[Karl-wxzx]

I feel like I’m being breadcrumbed just to see if I’m still there when they miss me enough. Then they get their fix and nothing changes

[Misagonna]

My ex started to contact me again after three months of silence. He then started to message me. He said he was frightened to reach out to me. He ended it. I sent a message back, saying I was fine. Then it escalated. Sending memories to me, sending me poems, missing me. Then nothing for three weeks, so I changed my number and blocked him on everything. I can sense his frustration and I know he’s tried to reach out to me. I will ignore. Been three months and he doesn’t get access to me ever again. It does get better!! I promise you. X

[kimberlykachel]

Never give an avoidant another opportunity to disappoint you.
💯 they will.

[erichminkle]

Unhealed avoidants want everything on their terms.. and they’re cold enough to just leave if they don’t get it.. they seem emotioless and uncaring.. and that’s a hard thing to experience .. Unhealed Avoidants should be avoided.. you’ll save yourself a LOT of heart ache and pain..

[rcasas]

If u love someone set them free. If they come back RUN means nobody else wanted them either 😃

[marioct]

Avoidants need to heal themselves. I am so tired of having to deny my needs and well being to accommodate the harmful behavior of the avoidant.

[SkterChickxx]

They reached out after 3 months. I took them back and now we broke up again 3 months later. Lesson learned. Don’t take them back even if they tell you how much they changed

[quantumreality]

3 months of no contact it’s videos like this that remind me to stay strong and wait for them to reach out rather then listening to my urges and reaching out myself. Thank you for your work!

[rcasas]

9 months of no contact and at this time zero desire to make contact. Doesn’t mean I don’t think of them but I’m ok with not being with them. 😅

[nadlat]

After after 7 months of NC, i can honestly say i dont think he is going to reach out but thats ok, i learn to heal on my own and looking back im glad i never reached out.

[Harfista]

Avoidant won’t miss you cause she or he will go for a rebound and then another rebound and in the end someone else will avoid them, and that will be the first person they gonna long for.
Avoidant only love things that are beyond their reach.

[tonyasherrod]

I have been NO CONTACT for about weeks. I haven't had the need to talk with my avoidant. I have given this time to work on me. I got a promotion. I just feel like this is my season. I will not budge when it comes to NO CONTACT. He is a member of my church and in the choir. He is not a stranger to my family. He has known. Them over 30 years. He is also 10 years older than me. Yes, it was wonderful at the beginning. But soon, everything changed. I crave deep conversations, consistency are very important. He never asked me how my day went. I figured that maybe because he is a retired firefighter. Idk, but I noticed that he doesn't show emotions. I talked to him about this. He said he knows he needs to talk to me more. But it went one ear and out the other . I liss him, but i dont miss anyone with these traits. Loving someone shouldn't be difficult. There should be no confusion where you stand in his or her life. Im nobody option. Im the damn priority. Point Blank Periodod!!

[canis]

I found myself waiting, constantly waiting for an avoidant. And realised, that life is too short to not be happy and spend it with someone You love. How much time You lost in contact? Hoping they will reach out? Sure, work on yourself, but You can work on yourself during relationship. Time flies guys

[deborahgloria]

These types of people are so very exhausting you can go years with this type of person. You cannot waste years with these people, they need to get help. In order to have a long lasting relationship. Get help!

[wendydaniel]

Get a cat or dog. At least they are consistent and real with their love, with no BS. ❤

[QIKWIA]

I refuse to be anyone's option!
Fk em!
If you don't want me, then i will give you the same energy.

Not happy with my presence...🤷🏾‍♀️
Then i will bless you with my absence...
Damn.

[MonsterTomten]

Avoidant or not, my ex got in a new relationship a week after she dumped me. Yes, he had been in the picture to a degree for some months.
She doesn't feel any separation anxiety. I was the one who had anxiety, Meanwhile she was happy and excited in her new relationship. Their relationship have at this point lasted almost as long as ours did.
Sometimes you just gotta count your losses and realize that the universe is not fair or takes favourites and that she might not ever feel any separation towards you

[Kdgs_gdb]

Im 17 and just lost my first love, my best friend of 3 years. Coach Craig you have saved my life. I've watched hours of your videos and they literally keep me sane. Im so grateful. My ex and I had a very healthy relationship and he left so out of the blue. We never argued and we were best friends. He left 2 months ago and Ive been doing a month no contact. Im seeing him tomorrow at a mutual friend's birthday party. Because of you I have the strength and the correct strategies to face him again. I feel strong enough to be unborhered by his presence and to not have a breakdown when I see him. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!