Addressing Self-Hatred and Low Self Esteem | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Tips

Live discussion with Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on coping with self-hatred. Dr. Snipes provides general relationship advice and discusses what boundaries in relationships are, problems if you don't have boundaries in relationships and steps to take to improve boundaries

Hate=Anger=Threat
Pay attention to your triggers
What don’t you like about yourself?
Where did you get the message that was unacceptable?
Do you believe this issue makes you unacceptable or unlovable?
Is it something you can address? If so, what is one thing you can do to start addressing it today?
If your child or best friend had this “flaw” what would you tell them?
Challenge negative thoughts
Specific, changeable
Cognitive distortions (extreme language, personalizing)
What are 5 things you look for in a friend?
Which of those qualities do you have?
What type of person do you want to be?
In what ways are you already that person?
Loving Kindness Meditation
May your life be filled with love, happiness, health, and peace.
Develop self compassion
Would you be critical of someone else for this?
Explore your behaviors as communication. (I was impatient today because…)
Practice positive self-talk and affirmations (What would you want a nurturing person to say to you?)

#selfesteem #copingskills #support

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[DR-nhoo]

I have learned to cope with my self hatred to some degree, it is the distain from others that I cannot deal with so well.

[kaziquefly]

Thank you 🙏 I’ve been hating myself all my life, since I can remember. I know I need to work on it but even listening about trying to love myself triggers that inner hater that says “yeah? But not you”. It’s so damaging. On an intellectual level I know, recognise and understand all what you teach, but my heart abs soul are poisoned. I’m determined to change it, but a question haunts me: how can I love myself if I don’t have any of that in me? And then I realise I am the creator of my own destiny and only I can find it, being compassionate, bit by bit, day by day. It’s a huge inner work. For anyone reading it, if you see that pattern in yourself, I see you and I totally understand how it feels. But just a mere fact that we are here means that this love wants to come out and express itself in our lives. It’s there, we are just not seeing it clearly and not exercising our “love muscle” for what it is.

[billthelen]

Thank you Dr. Snipes for the work you do on your videos. I totally relate to self hatred. My self hatred started in childhood. I find that I still hate myself and find it hard to forgive myself whenever I'm impatient and irritated by others. Guilt takes a big role in my self hatred. I have been through a DBT skills course where I learned the loving kindness exercise. When I practice this, I find that self love slowly begins. Positive self talk is very helpful to build self love.

[DrDebi]

Perfect! This is what I needed to hear. Your lectures are so informative. So appreciative of all your hard work.

[samshidoesmusic]

I absolutely love your internal question "what is the function of this behaviour". Its helped me be a lot more of a self aware BPD sufferer which is harder, but its important to progress.

[Deathla]

My childhood and health issues have led to a lot of self hatred. It's an uphill battle, but I have reached a point where if I'm not supposed to exist then I would be taken out without having to do it myself.

[sherryripepi]

Knowledge is power and understanding is wisdom. This is an educational post. Its educational tools will help save lives both literally and figuratively. Thank you for sharing, thank you for Being, You are Enough.

[JoanFFF]

Best mental related phd lecturer on youtube

[VoidDweller]

I feel in certain cases that maybe someone else, someone better should have been born right in my place.

[QueenCraftsChannel]

Great content! Lot’s of good topics I need to address within myself. So o glad I found this channel.

[WoolleyWoolf]

I like that she’s real and doesn’t beat around the bush.

[davidwhitcher]

I don't have children but i imagine i would not be friends with someone like myself.

[zehisap]

What if you don't have a child or a best friend?

[Anon-fzcb]

Have listened to so many of your presentations. The last one just now was the one about saboteurs...I saw my ex and myself. Toxic guilt which unfortunately is killing me inside.

[beckyward]

What if you don’t know how others perceive you? Like, I have no idea why others are my friends. I feel like people only stay around cuz we known each other for so long. I truly don’t believe they actually care or think nice things.

[amyheart]

Omg thank you… finally, a solutions-based self-hate combative video

[louisskulnik]

I consider myself the ugliest human alive. I start therapy on Wednesday. My entire goal is to make me palatable to those around me. I want zombie drugs to keep me shut up.

[Unit]

This is all such positive advice. Not very helpful for the people it's supposed to be geared towards, but for normal levels of discontent and a healthy base level of self esteem it would be useful.

[RJCE]

I ate a shroom chocolate bar and realized I was being a dick to everyone that ever loved me. Now I'm just haunted by memories of mistakes and wish I could kick my own ass at least two times a day.