How to overcome self-hate | Paul Conti and Lex Fridman

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Paul Conti is a psychiatrist.

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[LexClips]

Guest bio: Paul Conti is a psychiatrist.

[eliasdskill]

I am struggling with it really hard lately. Basically things are on repeat in my brain over and over again :( exercising helps but I feel so stuck and I can't get organized or focus to really break free.

[nellkellino-miller]

The moment I realised that I’d met my soul mate, and that I could trust her enough to tell her ANYTHING!…. We’ll at 29 years old the true deep healing has finally begun.

I’ve realised how traumatised I’ve been. much pain. How could I not see that before? We learn to hide our pain to avoid more pain. We build walls around our regrets and guilt. Around our inner children… our trauma. As social animals we need trust and love to heal each other.

You CANNOT do it alone. I tried to do it alone all my life and all it did was make me sick and miserable.

Find the others.

[johnnyutah]

Really like Paul haven’t known about him long but very interesting listen

[anomie]

Some people just can't be helped, I'm one of them

[bluesque]

After all the Devil lives in our brain!
And, God in our hearts!!
...It is medieval to talk about God and Devil but it helps sum up the thoughts!!

[cat.batshon]

Self hatred means you hate your taste and you just assume that everyone you like is terrible, purely because you like them. The amount of times I’ve felt seen and loved in the last 8 years have been few and far between. It’s a difficult thing.

[iorekby]

It's great to hear more men talking about their mental health. We have to normalize that until it's like talking about sports or movies: It's something we all do and there's not judgement about it. And speaking to a therapist should be as normal as going to the dentist.

[georgelookas]

My own belief is we as humans think about ourselves extremely too much and it includes self criticism, if we focus on others the self hate/criticism fades. Abraham in the Torah focused on others and he was called G-Ds friend. This is not to ignore ourselves, but we do focus on ourselves too much. Think about what you’ve done or said every day, but for only 5-10 minutes.

[Moriningland]

I just don’t think I’ll ever be able to shake my self hatred but I’m going to try with therapy. The fact that I have no friends who want to hang out with me and no intimacy is objective proof that use to fuel my self hatred.
Don’t get me wrong, I have a nice life doing things I enjoy on my own but I think I can only go so much further until I’m just done

[moppypuppy]

Our brains really are terrible.
It's a computer that actively tries to malfunction.

[dawnjohnson]

What IS he saying? He just goes on and on. Ugh.