Why Do you Lack Emotional Confidence #AskATherapist

Why Do you Lack Emotional Confidence #AskATherapist //

What is emotional confidence? It is a belief in yourself and your abilities. It's how you feel about yourself no matter what is going on around you. It's trusting in yourself. And, oh boy, has this been a struggle for me. Watch this video to learn what to do if you lack emotional confidence.

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[chriscecil]

The most powerful, uplifting relationships thus far in my life have been with outcasts. I have never felt more heard and validated than when giving someone who doesn’t get to play with the clique crew a voice and friendship.

[belindaweber]

Your childhood narrative is so very similar to mine. But without the high school friendship group development, instead I ended up voluntary-mute and a loner.
I'm so very glad I found your channel now - better late than never at 45yrs old to try to build on my emotional confidence and resilience again.
Thank you

[KarnodAldhorn]

I don't want to be thankful for the bad things that happened.
I actually wanna hate that bad things happened to me and be grateful that at least some good came out of it.

[RobinNicoagain]

Wow. Your school story is very similar to mine. I was bullied heavily and then I found another girl who was bullied and tried to hang out with her. Then I found more and more people in any classes and ages and pulled them along so they didn't have to be alone either. It also helped to decrease the bullying since instead of one person, the bullies had to face 10 people all at once. At the peak we had about 20 people in our group.

I still haven't found anything I'm good at but that archievement is the only thing I can put my finger at and say "I'm proud to have done that."

[bitchenboutique]

Bullies from the 80s were the worst because most adults in authority took their side. My best friend (and podcast cohost) was bullied and beaten up daily in school and when he would talk to teachers, he would get in trouble for his “attitude.”

[fathomgathergood]

That is a very mature way of looking at childhood bullying. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[annemariefraser]

This is exactly how my school life was like I did exactly the same thing and when I left I bumped into a teacher to find out that the teachers nicknamed me mother goose for that reason

[nastiaj]

He's so sweet and sincere i`m crying

[Amy-xbib]

Jonathan, I can relate to your childhood story of feeling like I didn't, and still now as an adult, fit in with the crowds around me and that bit about being bullied. That's really impressive that your group of 5 became a group of over 200. I think people need to realize that the front they put on themselves to fit in doesn't serve them in the long run and that being yourself is a gift we give ourselves and the world.
Thank you for sharing this meaningful video.

[kelliehorn]

Alicia is THE poster child for Growth Mindset 👏

[libusehikesova]

With that terrible hand-eye coordination - it is possible that you might've been an undiagnosed dispraxic. It's about having issues with either hard or fine motorics, sometimes both, and the person who has dyspraxia struggles to learn coordination. So it isn't as noticable later in life, because the person just learns slower, it doesn't mean they won't ever learn, and an adult usually learn most of their possible moves. So that's just an information for you, from one dyspraxic who loves your channel here <3

[digitalgold]

I really like these kind of videos. This last year has had a big impact for me, even to the degree that I've started a second university, psychology. Point is, I've learnt who I truly am and what i really want.
Thank you again for the videos and the content you're sharing

[christiangirlcirhiri]

I had such a similar experience. Unfortunately though, I couldnt find many other rejects to fit in with as much as people being my friend for a year or two then dumping me and turning everyone else against me (me moving three times to local towns, going to a different elementary, middle, and high school), and always being the talk of the school, thus being an outcast, until I finally found one friend in high school then come to find out they actually liked me more than a friend but then a few years later when I was in college and he stayed at home to work before college, found me to be a totally different person than i was in high school (also me being a Christian that i didnt communicate during high school) due to me refusing to give into social "norms" anymore and just starting the process of accepting myself for who I am, until i found my friend in college.

Anyway, it is so impressive that you were able to find other rejects and teach others in a passive way, who were in the other cliques that they found it to be too much effort to keep pretending to be something they are not, that it is okay to be yourself and that is the greatest thing you can be is the way that God created you to be. You chose to not wallow in self-pity but to channel the pain you were experiencing through bullying and not fitting in to extend the invitation towards other "rejects" and create a group of your own so you could all come as you are and not feel judged. It is just so inspiring and flat out amazing! Thank you so much for sharing this video!

[tracyzimmerman]

Johnathan
I had a very similar road as you growing up. I also have the same gift of accepting anyone and making them feel comfortable. The thing is I rather be around the misfits than the cool kids. The problem is that society makes a big deal out of who your friends are. You start wondering if there's something wrong with you. Between being bullied at school and abused at home I had no one but my grandma in my corner. You got to love grandmas. She was my best friend.

What do you do with yourself when you learn that how well you can do in a task...ECT says how much you deserve to be loved and accepted? It's not just being able but it needs to be perfect. Also if you were punished for not being able to do something that they knew darn well you weren't even capable of....
To young to understand how and/ not physically strong enough to complete
One thing I need to stress is who you are is not about what you can do. We are human beings not human doings.

[rovicfamily]

Thank you for such honesty! This video is seriously motivating for me 😊

[AngelMacleod]

Jonathan....you sound just like me. Wow, so much of your life experience syncs with what I have gone through.

[jj-fdzb]

I told my husband I wanted to see a therapist and he got angry at me. He was offended that I would need someone else besides him to talk to. He thinks therapists are a scam and that he is All I Ever Need. Any advice on how I can get help without offending and hurting him? I tried to explain that it's not his job to be my counselor, but he disagrees. He has zero experience in therapy and could probably benefit from seeing a therapist himself. But he refuses to go and says it's a hoax. Super stressed and don't know what to do

[tenaawii]

Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge and experiences that you gained throughout your life.
I struggle with applying this knowledge into my everyday life. I know that I'm not dumb, but when something troublesome happens, it might throw me off so much, that I can think of me only in a negative way.
I try to work on this, but it can be so hard sometimes, that I lose my faith in myself.


(sorry if there is any mistake in the text, I am not native speaker)

[georginacopley-taylor]

I love your videos so much. I would absolutely love if you did an analysis on the relationships in gravity falls

[willlumi]

I was needing this video so bad, thanks!