Signs Of Emotional Dysregulation And What To Do About It

Emotional dysregulation means you can't control your emotions. This may be due to trauma or ADHD. Or maybe as a child, you weren't taught how to handle your emotions. If not treated properly, emotional dysregulation can have an impact on your social life, work life, school life and relationships. So here are a few signs of emotional dysregulation and what to do about it.

DISCLAIMER: Remember, these videos are for information purposes only and is not intended for any self-diagnosis. Please reach out to a mental health professional if you're struggling.

Writer: Caitlin McColl
Script Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Sun Biscuit
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Emotional dysregulation/ Mood fluctuations or mood swings 1:12
2). Flouncing 2:03
3). How does this affect us 4:12
4). Positive changes 4:40
5). Develop psychological flexibility 6:27
6). Mindfulness 6:50
7). S-stop and pause before reacting.
T-take a deep breath.
O-observe your thoughts, physical sensations and feelings.
P-pull back and get perspective.
P-practice what works, proceed method 7:31

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[objctv]

Me still watching this knowing I have ADHD and has studied everything I can do to regulate my emotions just to end up not being able to do them: 👁👄👁

[funnytv-]

As you keep going through tiny steps, day to day, you are rewiring your brain.purpose can reveal itself when you replace that judgemental voice in your head with a compassionate one

[kaykaybigcat]

As someone with intermittent explosive disorder, this video was very accurate. I can have unnecessary outbursts and react grossly to a situation even if it's something not that big of a deal.

[nickmarch]

Activities you should follow to keep away from impulsivity.
1.Take a time gap before taking any wierd decision.
2.Write down the tentative consequences.
3.Talk to someone to hold you accountable.
4.Have a power nap.
5.Stroll in nature and have a sceneric view.
6.Jot down your goals.
7.Excercise and push your limits harder.
8.Organise your calendar.
9.Listen to soft music for soothing effect.
10.Do not hurt or injure your body or consume any pills which would prove lethal.
All these have helped me lower my impulsivity and hope so will relieve you too.

[gantitejaswini]

Im a really impulsive person and my family always told me to change. It was very hard for me. I used tp research techniques to calm myself down but it never worked. Soon i realised that to calm myself down 1st i should be aware of what im feeling and to just observe and then take a needed action. It really helped me control my emotions.

[Kakmanmartinez]

As someone with BPD, this is something I struggle a lot with. Mostly impulsivity and emotional irregularity. I can't just tell people "Hey yeah please be patient with me I have BPD". They wouldn't get it. Not even my family does and it's hard to really talk to them about it. They think I don't have anything I need to be emotional or depressed about. I don't tell them everything that happens in my life. They just judge. I'd like to think if I found a better place to go, my mental health would improve greatly. I just feel like this prisoner in my own house.


Edit: I finally moved out with a friend and I started going to college. I just got broken up with a few days ago so my mental health has been spiraling. But, I hope everyone's doing good! To anyone who has BPD like me, I hope you know that you're valid and loved. This disorder is hell but trust me, we will survive! ❤️ We may have BPD but it doesn't have us.

[amyhoover]

I used to have ADHD as a kid, and then I was re-diagnosed later in life with just ADD. My emotions as a child didn't show themselves as much a problem except for maybe one or two tantrums, but now that I've seen this video, part of me wonders if my ADD still proves to be hyperactive when it comes to my emotions.... it would explain a lot of things.

[novinovi-]

Unpredictable outbreaks defined my childhood. I have adhd and autism, and I was diagnosed in 2nd grade.
I would constantly become angry and unpredictable. I wasn’t able to control myself, and after I would do things in the moment I would feel AWFUL. It led to self harm and even an attempt in second grade. My meds are a blessing and I definitely am way more regulated than before. Even so I need to be aware of that side of me so I can remove myself from situations and prevent impulsive actions! It is a part of who I am and I can’t erase that. But I’m still going to be my best.

[dantesinfernocirclesofHELL]

Yep, I think it's safe to say I have this. Mood swings, depression, anger, substance abuse.... I avoid confrontation until I explode on someone and I hate that I'm like this!!

[echillykahlil]

The music in this one set a rather... It set a mood. Like walking in the dark while angry. I always feel guilty walking away and slamming the door, but I also feel super empty walking away silently. I'm pretty impulsive tho, but it's a cycle I think. It gets better each time the good comes around, and less bad and severe every fall. It's management basically.

[kirabourque]

I really needed this.. as someone with cPTSD (and possibly BPD + ADHD, not yet diagnosed) feeling like my emotions are within my control is one of my biggest life struggles. It's crippling, even if I excuse myself from others to keep from blowing up *at* them, I'm still regularly having meltdowns.

[TylerLarson]

Wow. The content and writing quality of this video is kinda amazing. You put a lot of effort into making this one, and it shows. You've managed to capture and present a level of insight that goes beyond just the research, beyond just the information. You've helped your audience make connections that are not obvious and see patterns that can change lives. Congratulations on some excellent work.

[craven_the_crow]

It's hard to control my emotions sometimes... Though I have my friends point it out and they know about it:)
I want to get therapy anyway, and one of my friends will help me with it
Though without you psych2go, I wouldn't have known there was something wrong, so thank you💜

[xrdmx]

As someone with ADHD, BPD, Bipolar and very likely Autism, this hits very close to home.

[ticklemebreathless]

Woah. I seriously needed this. I've had this issue my entire life, and recently was told I might have ADHD. I wasn't going to get tested for it, but now I'm confused and wondering if I should. Maybe getting diagnosed could help me with this aspect of it?
Thank you so much for covering this topic. I appreciate it greatly!

[Jockstrap]

Yes! This was very helpful and I will share this with everyone I know because this is what happening all around us all and I believe this is the answer I know I’ve been searching for!!

Thanks!!

[Glitch-Out]

Please keep doing what you do, your mission is really helping people and thank you

[foxyloon]

Just had an emotional breakdown last night, noticing a lot of parallels between what I went through and what is discussed in this video. That’s when I started to recognize all the times I was having trouble regulating my emotions over the years.

If anything, I’m realizing I need to seek professional help at this point. Been without a job and recently lost access to health insurance, so I frankly don’t know what to do at this point.

[ez]

its honestly quite shocking, that the simple reason for every mental health problem is either ignorance or having been hurt yourself, everything else is just a consequence of one of these, at least as far as I can see. But the ones who are ignorant wont change and the people who are hurt think it is normal, so there probaply will never be a solution for trauma, no matter where or when