How to break a trauma bond using 6 steps.

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Trauma bonding is a psychological phenomenon that occurs when a person forms a strong emotional attachment to an abusive individual. This bond is often characterized by intense, confusing feelings of loyalty, affection, and dependence, despite the fact that the abusive individual may be harmful or dangerous or even just very neglectful.
Overcoming trauma bonding can be difficult and may require professional support. Here are some steps that may help:
1. Acknowledge the abuse: Recognize that the relationship is abusive and that the abuser's behavior is not acceptable or your fault.
2. Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance.
3. Create distance: Limit contact with the abuser and avoid situations that may trigger memories or feelings of attachment.
4. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, and healthy eating to manage stress and promote healing.
5. Identify and challenge negative beliefs: Work with a therapist to identify and challenge negative beliefs and thought patterns that may be contributing to the trauma bond.
6. Set boundaries: Set clear boundaries with the abuser and communicate them assertively.
Remember that healing from trauma bonding takes time and effort, but with support and self-care, it is possible to move forward and build healthier relationships.

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[somerhimpson]

I hate missing them. They treated me so bad :(

[lulunumelin]

all i can say is distance is so hard. i wish it were that easy

[luckygirl]

6 steps
1. Acknowledge the abuse 0:42
2. Seek support from loved ones, or maybe even professional support 0:44
3. Create a lot of distance between you and the individual so that those feelings that you have for 0:47
4. Practice really good self care, show love for yourself 0:56
5. Challenge the unhelpful beliefs that you have about this situation 1:08
6. You want to set boundaries with this individual 1:29

[Chloelicious]

If you find out someone you know is a narc. You need to run fast and never look back. Always choose yourself. It is better to leave earlier because the trauma bond will worsen the longer you stay.

[noturbo]

oh man its so horrible and yeah time apart with no contact, the truth about the situation and for me not going in to idolizing her which really sucks i so have to work on that.

[toniadoornberg]

I am in no contact for 3.5 years now, I blocked him (again) a month ago...I still feel love for him. When does it stop? I have enough to do every day, I practice self care a lot...but when is he out of my mind and heart? I don't know what I can do more...

[dragonclaws]

He downgraded me, but wants to be FWB. This is very hard for me, I do not enjoy being used. All I ever wanted was a husband, pets and a stable home. I don't ask for much but that will never happen if I keep waiting for him.

[mohammadrafi]

This is common in most long distance relationships.

[manojchandwani]

Thank you, I hope I will be able to break out of this trauma bond break free once again and distance nyself to go no contact and reject my unhealthy attachments created via the love bombing and very endearing name calling used by the narcuasistic abuser from my toxic family

[rosemarysharp]

i’m dealing with breaking one right now. i was in an abusive relationship and i can’t seem to let myself out. it’s like my body won’t let me. i’m terrified. i’ve tried to break up with him multiple times and end up getting back with him days later. i know he’s not what i want and i know he’s not going to change but still. hopefully using these steps will help

[salahben]

I cant im hurting too much he ignored my message im hurt hurt hurt 😭😭😭 i need to see him

[SherylJPharr]

Living with an incurable disease is so hard, but you just have to live life day by day as it goes by (Cancer sucks)

[AliceD.Pittman]

love video, just cant believe my wife left me after 18 years, she just left me. she doesnt even want to talk to me anymore. Ive tried everything possible to get her back, but nothing seems to work and I cant stop thinking about her Im frustrated I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I cant I dont know why I'm saying this here, I really miss her and just cant stop thinking about her

[PeacefulWarrior]

Please dress professionally. Good grief... 🙄