How To Be Trauma Bond Free From Narcissists And Abusers

How To Be Trauma Bond Free From Narcissists And Abusers.
In todays video I am going to provide you with seven guidelines to healing and a ten step process to break your trauma bond from a narcissist or an abuser and show you how to give their pain back to them.

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Hi, I'm Kenny 👋

I specialize in helping you heal from emotional hurt so you can elevate your life by helping you get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.

I am an advocate for truth and healing. So naturally, therefore, my emotional mastery method might initially feel a bit rough. But, when you start finding answers to the questions you ask yourself (even those you're afraid of), break free from self-destructing behaviors, and begin loving yourself and living your best life, you will feel powerful and empowered.

If you have looked everywhere, are desperate for a solution, and you're ready to stop being held hostage by your emotional misery, your journey to emotional mastery starts here.

It's the secret to finding yourself!

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[samme]

Wow.
"This is not my pain. I give it back to you."
So very powerful.

[SMA]

When I was just beginning to learn about narcissistic injury, all the narcissistic experts were 100% focused on the characteristics of the narc without ANY mention on how, or why, we get involved with them in the first place. At the time, I had been deeply involved with a disordered personality type who idealized, devalued, and discarded me. He moved on to another woman in just 5 short weeks. My head was spinning. I read everything I could get my hands on in regards to narcissism. After studying the subject for a while, I really wanted to understand myself and my part in the relationship. You are one of the rare professionals that is addressing this issue on a deep level. It is so needed. I understand that at first we want to learn what the heck just happened, but when we remain focused on the narc's undesirable traits, we get stuck in the victim phase and never learn about ourselves in relationship to our own personal power. I also know to heal takes a strong desire and commitment to do the work as it is not easy, but neither is staying stuck in old wounding. So thank you for your work, it is tremendously helpful.

[megandavis]

I love this: She’s still trying to “love” me but now I want a different kind of love “. It’s so true. The narc tries to “love” with shame and blame. This gave me such insight

[Graceme]

1. What am I feeling?
2. Where on my body do I feel it?
3. What is my first memory of this feeling?
4. What belief/thought did I create?
5. Grieve. Experience pain and let it go.
6. Express empathy for abusers and self and Forgive yourself.
7. Hold them accountable. Give back to them. See my own responsibility and how did I attract and create this.
8. Anger work. Write rage letter and judgement and swearing.
Express physically.
9. Self forgiveness for how did I adapt? What dysfunctions did I develop?
10. Envision how you want to see yourself. I am safe. I am okay.

[Dynamic_heart]

37 years I’ve been with a Covert Narcissist. At the beginning, I thought he was less pain than my childhood. After 10 years, I thought it could be worse at least he doesn’t hit me. I read a book, “ The Four Agreements.” It stated that one will only tolerate the amount of pain one has inflicted upon oneself. I must have tolerated a lot of self inflicted mental pain. It’s getting very close to lack of tolerance. Or possibly I am implementing boundaries because I recognize my self worth. I can’t wait to read your book. 📕

[tiajohnnaforeman]

My opinion is some people are broke and broken that they can’t afford what you’re offering. I appreciate you providing this video but I want you to acknowledge that some people can’t afford to do these things.

[sarahcouture]

I feel the same way about pedophiles. My biological dad (whom I’ve only just met a few years ago, he was in prison for 18yrs) he was a child molester. I asked him to tell me his life’s story while he was still locked up, so he told it to me in letters. That was one heart wrenching tale of trauma, severe abuse and sexual exploitation. It is a learned behavior. The behavior is so wrong and damaging, and they are acting out their own horrific trauma.

[geri_aloha]

These videos are helping me so much, these past few days. I'm so grateful I stumbled upon your channel. I feel like a hostage to my own emotions and toxic empathy. Watching these videos are making it easier to understand, what is happening to me.

[Taylor_Frenchiebaby]

this video saved me. i couldn’t get over the toxic person i wanted to spend my life with. i realized thru watching this video that my childhood trauma mantra is “i am inadequate, i am not good enough”. and that’s exactly what i felt that would keep me up at night and made me just want to die. i felt worthless because she made me feel that way. and so did my childhood.

after watching this video, i feel so close to indifferent about my covert narcissistic ex. i love her so much, but i’m pretty much indifferent to her decisions and the way she treated me now. she did the best she could with the love she was taught by her parents.

[God_Leads_My_Way]

I didn’t think I had trauma either but when I look back at my childhood it’s exactly what happened to me

[pueblodonna]

I am guilty of the thing you describe and I to pick men who reinforced my own self destruction - your childhood is something you spend your whole live getting over but the long term damage we do to our self

[b.aknd-hmn]

There are some abusers that are not traumatized but sick and enjoy abusing others for the power.

[nerdiedude]

I am in the crying phase. When I did the journey to talk to my inner child he told me "can you help me I don't feel safe" Made me just bawl my eyes out. So freakin crazy.

[kateryan]

I've been in this process for the last 5 months. I've been crying everyday since the start. Still cry often. I appreciate you revealing your traumas and process. I finally saw that I've been disassociated because of my childhood trauma.
I really like your way of processing trauma and forgiving yourself and the abuser.

[alexandracharlesworth]

My Mum was abusive as a child and after a trauma bond for the past 6 years to a similar person, its opened my eyes to what I need to work through to avoid these relationships in the future.

[knightjunior]

Developing the ability to recognise & have compassion for other peoples traumas and subsequent behaviours is the first step to being truly able to look in the mirror and offer yourself the same compassion. When you do this, you can then objectively search & discover the pinnacle moment during your childhood where your worst day cycle was imprinted into your emotional limbic system. From there you can then figure out the boundaries you need to support the management of this discovery. I would never had pieced any of this together without Kenny. This man was the missing link for me. Thank you Kenny!

[claudiahirvonen]

I just want to say: Thank you. So much. This video came to me exactly when I needed it.

I am the only one, who can heal myself. No one else.

Thank you ❤

[irisbutler]

I went through severe childhood trauma, neglect being just one of them. I've recently left my narcissistic partner.

[michaelcale]

Been with mine 37 years. This is your therapy.

[darrelmiller]

I saw this yesterday, and it was JUST what I needed right then. I was starting in my cycle, and listening to this helped me get outta that funk. This information resonated with me in two ways:

1) You said something like "we get the love we think we deserve". That hit like bricks. And instantly reminded me of a CS Lewis quote "The door to hell is locked from the inside." That has certainly been true of me cause I stayed. I didn't leave. THAT was my choice. And I am grateful to be far enough along in my recovery to own MY choices and to see that it is only MY choices that will get me out. Self acceptance is salvation.

2) Empathy with the Dsyfunctional person. That one I never got. I was like "HOW?" they are doing mean sh!t to me. But the way you phrased it helped me put it in this fashion: the person who is doing dysfunction things feels horrible. They want to feel good. So they do things that make them feel good (about themselves). THAT just happens to be being toxic to those around them. Its 1 upping - and a person likely only 1 ups, because they feel 1 down. And I said that to myself again "THEY feel HORRIBLE about themselves". And I think I felt some kind of love for them, some kind of forgiveness, because I've been there. I've felt horrible and I tried SO many things to feel better (mainly about myself).

It doesn't make me want to hang out with them more, it just makes me not hate them - not be enmeshed/codependent with them.