10 Signs You are Trauma-Bonded With A Narcissist

In this video, I provide 10 signs that you are trauma bonded, as well as 3 questions to give you clarity about the REALITY of your situation. At the end of this video, I will give you the ultimate test to know when your trauma bond is broken.

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It's my intention that everyone who watches gets at least one important take-away. 🙏

About Me
Hi! I'm Lise Leblanc. I am a therapist, life coach, and author of 9 self-healing guides. I have over 20 years of experience in therapeutic, educational, and leadership roles.

Introduction (0:00)
Trauma Bond (0:32)
10 Signs (2:03)
How to Break the Trauma Bond (6:21)
3 Key Decisions (7:13)

#narcissist , #NPD, #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, #covertnarcissism, #femalenarcissist

[Zoxion]

"If their absence brings you temporarily peace, that's worth thinking about." ❤️

[scotttully]

11 You find yourself constantly try to explain to them what represents healthy and happy behavior, as if you were talking to an infant.

[CanwegetSubscriberswithn-cuit]

The worst is when they do a "quiet discard". They have someone else, but keep you around for their comfort.

[cwie]

Trauma bonding is real. It's scary. You would not believe what you would tolerate just for their validation

[ravneiv]

6:33 "Love does not make you feel like an obsessive, addicted, anxious mess."

I didn't know that. Thanks.

[Campfire]

1. (2:01) You’re convinced they are a good person despite evidence to the contrary
2. (2:53) You’re walking on eggshells
3. (3:18) You greatly appreciate small signs of kindness from them
4. (3:30) You’re overthinking
5. (3:46) You don’t recognize yourself anymore
6. (4:12) You’re contributing a lot to the relationship and not getting much
7. (4:40) You feel addicted to them
8. (4:58) You’re tolerating things you never thought you would
9. (5:27) If you confided in friends, they’d either tell you to leave OR believe you’re the narcissist because the other person has already been smearing you
10. (5:45) Even if you leave, they can get you back with an apology or other small gestures

[GreatHouseAtreides]

I consider myself to be a strong man. It’s confusing to me that I fell for all of this. Love the videos.

[cynthiabauer]

Yes! So much yes! The horror, the horror! Please, if you're lonely listen to me, I beg you: it's better to be alone than with a narcissist, than in a bad relationship. I promise! It's the worst, I've been through illness, loneliness, suffering even suicidal depression, NOTHING is worse than being in a relationship with a narcissist! Please! Pay attention to the red flags, trust your instinct, if in doubt it's better to be alone than sorry!

[robertswift]

as an empath i never saw it coming because i never had to deal with someone like that, , , , i am now a survivor, it wasnt easy but but i people are very bad to good people with big hearts

[tinman]

What a bitter thing, that after lost years of pain and abuse, the empath's biggest regret is often that "I couldn't save him or her!" And it's an especially harsh reality to grasp that you fell in love with someone who wasn't really there.

[khoakdoan]

I felt at peace whenever she wasn't messaging me. Now I'm happy that she's out of my life for good once i blocked her.

[aquious]

My past relationship with a BPD woman is still in my head almost daily. She was abusive to me, but I still love her. It's crazy making.

[dan_gabriel]

I made the entire checklist. I'm trauma bonded. She's not looking for me and when she writes something i go wild. I am on my way out of this. Goodluck to all!

[ericechevarria]

Finally a video that talks about this subject without solely blaming, targeting or attacking males. People need to recognize that both males and females can become victims of this toxic and harmful behavior. That season/stage when one finally can feel at peace without having to find a rebound relationship, an expensive vacation or a new item is truly liberating - and a lot of people will disagree with me or call me religious, but resting in God’s powerful Word and truly seeking a relationship with Him is what truly makes the difference.

[Socoolral]

I just want to cry 😞.
I think I’m going through all of this.
You nailed every point.
It’s a hard pill to swallow but I need to take your advice and get myself together.
I feel so sick, what a mess .

[frankcatapano]

To the tee. This is me. Every morning I watch a video about my Toxic relationship. I ruminate all day long, why. So intense because I suffer from anxiety, O.C.D., and depression. Trying to figure it out. Spinning my wheels. Started therapy. But haven't been able to be completely open yet . Working on it.

[redrumrose]

It's because we want to believe that they will get help, and change. We cant really accept they cant change because we saw the glimpse of good, and cant accept it as fake. But in reality they're a ghost they never existed. You fell in love with the mirror, and in the mirror is you. Its really you that you miss, not the narc. I remember whe i first dated the narc, before the abuse cycle started, i told him i love him because he remind's me of me we're so alike and got each other... i look back to that, he was mirroring me

[saosintheyperch]

Sign 11: you tell them you want to leave and they nonchalantly respond with ‘ok fine, bye’. Impacted by this reaction that she seemingly doesn’t care, out of reaction you feel you want to find a way to emotionally hurt her back so to evoke some sign from her showing she does care if you’re gone from her life. If you show your vulnerability enough, she will show she does ‘love you and needs’ around the moment she realises you really could leave. But this is her exploiting the slight bit of hope that you hold in her living up to the ‘ideal future’ she has always failed to live up to. She doesn’t care about you, only the function you serve for her.

Lesson:
Wake up from the fantasy, leave, block her, and you’ll finally be able to reflect on everything objectively and realise how much of a fallible romantic idealist you really can be. Also, a narcissist magnifies what ever little bit of narcissism you may have in yourself; I guess you can thank them for highlighting to you an aspect of the self you weren’t aware of before.

[surfrby]

My God, this is me, and I’m in the middle of it right now, sent me into a deep depression last two weeks, it’s like this video was custom made for me to see at this moment, it’s opened my eyes, thank you 🙏

[edgreen]

Nothing you can do for them. Save yourself.