Just Broke Up? This Conversation Will Give You the Closure You Need (Matthew Hussey)

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“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?”

It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup.

And if you’re finding yourself losing sleep at night, replaying conversations and events, wondering if there was anything you could have said or done to keep the relationship… then this week’s video is for you.

It’s an example of a conversation you can have that will empower you to either rekindle your relationship with your ex… or get the closure you want so you can move on.

Most relationships end for a good reason. But if you really feel like he is worth fighting for, then this video will give you the tools to have a productive conversation.

If only so you can sleep soundly at night, confident that you left nothing unsaid...

This language will give you the closure you need.

Whatever happens, you and I are going to move into this next chapter of our lives stronger. I won’t settle for any less from you.

P.S. I had the best time with Ashley and Rayna on the Girls Gotta Eat Podcast!
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[Simplexmediakc]

When you wake up the next day after a breakup and the world is just grey... you can feel the black hole in your heart swallowing all things that you used to care about. Life has become a dark room with no light switch.

[irishelina]

"The purpose isn't getting them back. The purpose is to sleep at night." 👍

[techmaster]

I never got closure. Wait it out. The importance you give it will pass. And eventually, you'll learn you don't need it.

[zorelwood]

Girls & women, not every relationships are meant to be & you can enjoy the fact that you did your best.

[pixelada]

I did this a week after my ex broke up with me saying that he still loved me, and that I was perfect, but he was not available for our relationship. I said that our relationship deserved another chance, etc. He still didn’t want to give us another chance and nothing I said worked. It honestly gave me closure because I realized he was just saying nice things to save face, but he didn’t really mean them. It helped me to move on. This was a week ago, so it’s still very painful.

[lisagoeke]

I literally had this conversation last night, and we decided in the end to end it. We care about each other and love each other deeply but there are some things that he doesn't see himself being able to work on them to keep us together. The pain is still so real and I didn't sleep last night. Neither one of us did. Now, I'm looking for an apartment to move out of his townhome. So raw, just need to take it one day at a time.

[lochtessmonsterxoxo]

YEP. Had a very similar conversation right before a breakup. I asked, "I still care about you. Are you willing to work on this together?" And the answer was no, so there it was. Both of us understood it didn't make sense to continue.

[IEVAKambarovaite]

I love this. But I think too often one person is saying I'm willing to do everything you want me to in order to keep this relationship. I'm going to be the woman you want me to be. It's a dangerous territory.
Because there's a person out there that will accept you and your flaws.

I've struggled with that for years. I'd adjust the way I am based on the man I'm with. It's not a healthy place to be. I've put that in a book and I talk about it on my channel

[GSXRwx]

You need that final conversation and you need to have your say. Say all that you have to say. Open your heart with the confidence that no one can break it because no matter what they do to it, you will pick it up and fix it. Think long-term and fear the possibility of dying with unsaid words still echoing in your mind. Unsaid words give you sleepless nights and an uneasy death. So have that one final conversation and calmly and politely say ALL that you had kept locked up in your heart. It will liberate you for the rest of your life.

[worthit]

Sometimes things end because of them and not you. Matthew is right in that we need to own our parts in why a relationship doesn't work but relationships take two. Once you have done all you can, the rest is up to him. You can tell him what you need but you can not make him do it. He may just not be ready, be scared, be broken in ways you can not fix or able/willing to do what it would take for you to be together. Whatever the reason, it doesn't make him a bad person ... just the wrong person for you.

[christinasilby]

I don’t agree with this message. Why should one person make the effort to tell this to the other person who just broke up with you. If they really cared and loved you, they would discuss their problem and worries with you about the relationship before even thinking about breaking up. If they couldn’t even do that, the best solution is just leave and don’t look back. Because they couldn’t accept the other persons flaws.

[playitlouda]

I love this advice but a part of me would never allow me to say something like that ever again. I think if someone made the decision to leave you they probably thought about it some time. maybe they even imagined how you would react.

don't give them the power. if they don't want you in their life anymore say goodbye and thank them for the time. that's it. If they come back, they have to show you that they want you with your flaws..and maybe both can grow together and learn from previous mistakes.

[atme]

I agree that sometimes people don't want to speak up/have tough conversations (we can all be immature), but I don't think someone who really loves you would do so.

[specificocean]

This saved my relationship with my girlfriend I can’t thank you enough we talked about what we want to change about each other and it fixed everything

[chooseboost]

An amazingly honest conversation I don’t think I’ve ever had with a partner I deeply cared for. I like it. I have thought of the “what if’s” but never acted on them.

[c_telking]

Ya I took nothing away from this. There is no universal solution to a post break up. Everybody and every relationship is different.

[reniellechavez]

I called my ex three days after and said: I love you, I still love you. This is painful for me. I see so many wonderful things in you that I want in a partner.
He said: IT IS OVER and I don't have to say anything to you. (And other very painful things that I believe didn't have to say)
It broke me.
I knew that I had no way of getting us back and the only thing left was to move on.
Before hanging up, he said. - I love you-
On to which I reply: I cannot imagine what would you say to me when you no longer love me, if you manage to break me while you still "loving me". You are not the man for me

[sloebone]

Don’t compromise yourself after the fact. If you’re not willing to do the things you need to do while you’re in the relationship, don’t act like you’ll do them when you’re breaking up. You won’t. Just be better for the next time.

[CaptainFrandy]

Watching this back for the third time, I’m trying to grow and understand myself and the new situation I’m in. 6 year relationship currently ending

Thank you for this video and your insight. I needed this

[ichloefetti]

This video broke my heart and opened my eyes at the same time