The Hardest Person in the World To Break up With

The hardest people to break up with are those who tell us they love us while, simultaneously, not in fact behaving in a loving way towards us. They force us to eject them from our lives while denying us the sense that we have any right to do so. They say the right words without ever doing the right things. They play dangerously with our minds. Here is a short guide to extricating ourselves and saving our sanity.

FURTHER READING

“Break-ups are almost invariably difficult, but that isn’t to say there aren’t different degrees of complexity at stake in different constellations. Nor does it preclude the existence of a cataclysmically painful but too-little known type whom we can call the hardest person in the world to break up with. A relationship with them begins like this: you’re very drawn to them. Perhaps they very much attract you physically and their personality is compelling as well. You admire them and, in areas, feel a lot of sympathy for them too; there’s probably something in their past which really interests and touches you. You have no desire to break up, and in fact, you’d love this to last till the end.”

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[christophe_gallant]

The hardest person to break up with is the one you created in your mind.

[dovahkiin]

Let's not forget these "partners" may sometimes be us. It's always important to self-reflect

[alisonchristinewebb]

The best advice I ever got was, “breaking up with him doesn’t mean you don’t love him. It just means you love yourself more”.

[hannahcb]

One thing I learned from my past relationship is that sometimes love isn't enough

[slightlyatistic]

“when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags” - Wanda, Bojack Horseman.

[emmyetyet]

The hardest person to break up with is that person you've been thinking about from the moment you clicked on this video.

[lilagemstone]

Let's not forget also the 3rd type of response - the hurt - the person who may accept the criticism at first but then quickly begins to talk about how awful the criticism has made them feel. They make you (deliberately or more often not deliberately) feel like it was selfish or wrong to even have the concern let alone voice it

[laquan]

Always remember...Being understood is a form of intimacy. When someone refuses to be understanding, they are either selfish, inconsiderate, or prideful or all the above. None of these traits will lead to a long lasting healthy relationship.

When you have a controversial discussion, you can gauge their willingness to be understanding💕

God bless in Jesus name!🙏🏽🙌🏽

[bighiu-tofanchris]

The hardest person to break up with is an emotional manipulator, who plays the victim and makes you also addicted to them.

[AuthenticSelfGrowth]

You'll never heal by going back to what broke you

[irishdude]

Man, this hit hard. As someone who ended a relationship 6 months ago because she lied to me several times over 2 years together, this video helps. I constantly battle with the feeling she was the best I can do. The most physically attractive, the one woman I shared so many common interests with. I also recognise the fact that I wasnt the best boyfriend at times either. So I never knew if I was being too sensitive or if I had good cause to be upset.
But I also recognise that she would pretty much always make me feel like the bad guy, or she would say sorry and that she would never repeat a behaviour, but then she would do it again a while later, exactly like this video says. My ex also threw herself a massive pity party when we broke up so now all mutual friends think I'm a dick, when I was just looking out for myself. It's like they don't even realise how damn hard it was for me to walk away. My ex doesn't seem to realise that either.
I wish she didn't lie to me. Maybe things could have been different. It's so frustrating. I compare new dates to her but nobody gives me the same feeling, never the same chemistry. Like a moth to the flame, I know she's bad for me, yet I can't help be attracted to her.
I have decided to move on though. I know, eventually, I'll be glad I walked out of that relationship. When I have a partner that doesn't lie to me, that respects me, and that I have no doubts about. Better to be alone then be with her again.

[Lexaproathlete]

let's not forget, loving YOURSELF means RESPECTING yourself, and how many people in the world will ask you to disrespect yourself for their own sake

[ossen]

*Respect yourself enough, to walk away from someone who doesn't see your worth.*

[minervaloves]

Without ever raising a hand, let alone a finger, one human can badly damage another! So true.

[jesswhat]

I no longer base the value of a relationship on how I feel about them but how they make me feel.
I can love someone and hate how they make me feel. I'm not leaving out of lack of love, but to feel better again.

[iv]

Watched this video while married for over 3 years and realized I had to get out for several reasons. Now divorced for 3 months and I'm so proud of my courage to get free. Yes, it's hard but it's definitely peaceful and that's what I missed most. I pray anyone feeling trapped finds the willpower to do the same.

[Ghostofanoutcast]

I finally left freaking finally. And I must say I am so READY to regain myself, the person who I lost in the 6 yr relationship.

[enya]

Note to self: Work on yourself. Avoid hurting this girl you really love.

[jaimiemartinez]

I was in a relationship like this for 7 years. It's only been 5 months since it ended, so I am still affected by it. He was the denial one. The only time he blamed stuff on himself was when I left. I try to surround myself with good friends, positivity, doing things I love, and crying when I am sad. I'm taking it day by day.

[SetTheCurve]

I hate to have to bring this up, but don’t get caught up thinking you need to walk away just by watching this video. All relationships take work and communication. Love is a skill and it requires practice and going through ups and downs. Make sure you don’t get caught up thinking you have to break up if the person *is* making positive changes and you two are trying to work it out for real. Give it a chance and some effort before you bail.