Dr. K Tells You Why You Can't Get Over Your Ex

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[methanesulfonic]

Sometimes you dont miss the person, you just miss the way they make you feel. I dont miss my ex, I just miss spending time cuddling and watching a movie together for a whole day. Fortunately enough, I still can do those things with other person beside her.

Always remember why you guys broke up, dont let the "good memories" tricked you into thinking that they're worth it.

[JayyK.]

Gentlemen let her go. If she’s not choosing you don’t choose her.

[ShaunDreclin]

I don't want my ex back, I just want to get over the psychological damage he did to me.

[zackwalker]

Something that helped me was realizing that letting them go doesn't mean I have to stop loving them. I do still love them, but I've accepted that they're gone and won't be coming back. Having love is always good and you don't have to stop loving one person to make room for another. There's always room for more love

[RafaelMunizYT]

I clicked this video knowing damn well I got no ex lmao

[Stavvy]

Don't put the time, effort and energy into someone that won't do the same for you. It's a really tough lesson to learn but very valuable.

[BebbaDubbs]

Love is SO MUCH about timing. Letting the wrong person go is key.

[incongruous]

I miss my ex though. It's been years, I don't want her back in my life. But I still miss her.

[gwouru]

That's not always the reason, though it is a big popular one.
Sometimes, you're just lonely, and that ex, was the last person you were with.
You don't miss your ex... you miss having someone else in your life.

[Mly_aaa]

Learning to let go of other people’s judgements of you (which aren’t even what you think/assume they will be most of the time, you’re usually wrong when ur anxious/nervous) becomes really soothing. Compared to myself a few years ago, I’m not aggressively confident and self-respecting but, I’m comfortable and relaxed and open to hearing feedback about myself too (as long as it’s constructive and not destructive).

[ACloudWithoutAir]

the heart wants what it wants.
the self degradation isnt your fault, people are going to degrade you regardless if you respect yourself or not, and regardless if you notice it or not.
If you want something, but get degraded for wanting it. That is the world's problem to realize, Want what you want, and live with it to the bitter end, even if you never get it back.
The world we live in today, the post-modern society that we have evolved into, likes to make our actions blameless and leave it to mere happenstance, cold hard hearted stone of calculations. But I say to you-- Hold onto your fire that burns in you.
Stick to your guns and stick to what feels righteous to you. Don't let the world tell you what to do and what to feel.
Some people just don't have the same level of passion as you, some people are weak and feeble minded when it comes to the things that matter to you.
Sometimes the past is better than the present.
But that doesn't mean the present has nothing for you.
Take what you can get.
Embrace the darkness you are in.
Live in it.
Thats part of life.

She was everything to me, as she was to you.
And thats fine that you feel that way.

Its ok to not be ok.
The world doesn't have your answers, you already made them.

[Brave_SJ]

Life hack: avoid missing your ex by never having a girlfriend and spending your entire life alone

[SoundsSilver]

I am finally at a place where I just want to get over her. I will keep the memories but not the person. I just want to be free to live my life again. I don't want to remain chained to the fantasy that she ever truly loved me.

[SS-yjle]

If they don’t choose you, they are just a waste of time.

[knightofcaliban]

Took me a while to get over my ex. After cheating on me multiple times and inflicting major emotional and psychological damage to me, she definitely deserves to be a social pariah. Thinking back at it now, I have learned to forgive her. Not for her, because that harpy doesn't deserve it, but for me. The biggest thing I learned from going through the year of absolute hell, which included the latter half of the relationship and the months following the messy breakup, is to not look at relationships with rose tinted glasses, and to have some goddamn self respect. If she's going to fuck around, don't put a ring on her. Throw her in the sea where she belongs.

[MrLegionst]

In some point I told to myself: no is a no and continue, in the way that if I confess my love to someone, and the person do not feel the same, accept it and not beg for love, as well as if I was in a relationship and it ends, yes, it will hurt, but move over, and really, it has been better that way. Ironically, it hurts less than wanting to recover what I used to have and and suffer for it.

[raremist]

Dr K dishing out harsh truths every day. Thank you for your service

[adoof]

They loved me a lot at first, then less and less as the years went on.
I loved them _more_ as time went.

It's been three years since they left, and I've only _just_ accepted that they're gone and don't want a thing to do with me.
I've never had so much lingering pain, nor have I ever felt so unworthy of a happy life, than after accepting that loss and being alone.
People assure me that I am doing the right thing by accepting it, but it feels so wrong and disgusting.

No wonder people remain lovesick and delusional... At least there you can have happy fantasies/memories. Maybe you even kid yourself into becoming a friend to that ex just so you can be a tiny bit happier, despite ignoring your heart (which can also bring pain to the other person).

No wonder people give up on love and make fun of others for being in love, too. You're playing with death if it goes wrong and hurts you enough.

[meagain]

That’s the difference between self respect and others respect. Lolz it’s not always the same thing. So true. Thank you Dr.K it’s a great reminder

[st_dynamic_]

Can you make some videos about “Doing everything by my self syndrome “ I feel like that I always doing everything by my self and feel guilty to ask for help because I don’t want to disrupt other people with my own problem but when the time is limited I know that this really make my life a lot harder. If I can just asking for help it will be easier and I will have more free time. (I am currently studying in EE Engineering)