You Don't Have To Be Exceptional

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Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[robertmay]

If you're happy and you know it, just clap your hands.

[letsreadtextbook]

I used to think I have to be exceptional but turns out I just want to be enough...

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I love being average. It's mostly external voices pressuring me to want to become something more. I move abroad for six months and discovered that all you need to be happy is a good social circle, a healthy relationship and enough money to survive

[loust]

listen to silly voices in your head, got it doc :3

[idt]

That's what i felt when Suga said "you don't need a dream. Just be happy." Nice to see it put into words!!

[KrisRoxas]

In my teens/early 20's, people around me would call me exceptional. I was driven, passionate, charismatic and put my full weight into everything because I believed in a grand destiny. Then, I started to settle and the hunger was never the same, and now I believe I'm very average or below average at most things. The energy and effort that made me great haven't been the same for a long time, and I want to revive that part of me again.

[mrydobon]

I spent the best years of life grinding to reach the top of my field. When I got there, all I felt was regret for all the family and friend time I'd sacrificed. The money and prestige aren't worth the lost time.

[Kyouma.]

Wanting to be exceptional is just another way of saying "I want to be loved"

[GothamandGomorrah]

My 30 years on Earth have taught me that the human race is so unique, ‘exceptional’ is the norm.
We all think, self-actualise, design, create, plan for the future & love. All the tools needed for a species to collectively do wondrous things.

No one is ever too small, or too big. We all contributed to the primordial soup of life. And, to our species’ collective effort to be a wonder.

[luuketaylor]

I am so content with where I am. I work abroad with 3 of my best friends, have a massive friend group, and live in a place I love. This much is enough!

[sakurasfish]

I followed that sort of mentality during my 20's and now at my 30's (with more serious relationships and 'problems') I feel I needed to do more as I'm a little behind in life and struggling.

So I fully agree with the advice he gives here but a 'perfect middle point' between the two 'voices' would be to not stress and feel you need to excel (saves a lot of stress and energy) but to focus only in being consistent.

Whether is studying, quitting bad habits, working out, practice a hobby etc if you only do a little bit day in day out, by the time you reach your 30's, 40's etc you'll be in such a good position.

The key is not to rush. If that feeling of not being enough push you to the point of not feeling happy, that means you're not trying to improve but rather just mindlessly rush to have more based on greed and insecurity.

If you honestly and healthily want to improve and not get stuck, just do the bare minimum but focus in not stopping, focusing on the little steps and not the goal. That's what I wish I did and what has helped me the most on the past years.

Edit: just wanted to add that in my case the most distracting and destructive mindset was 'trying to be cool', pretend that 'i'm going all out on this' when I wasn't, and not putting the focus on being consistent doing little every day like the rest cause 'that wasn't enough' and the rest look lame...

In the end all of them progressed immensely over the years while I was swapping between try hard on useless stuff I considered useful due to ignorance and stressed out giving up to bad habits as a way of procrastinating and vent out frustration (and on top considering that normal or even 'cool' like 'yeah my life is so hard' wannabe)

So I insist...just do the minimum humbly and consistently over the years is the only thing that pay off, especially if your family aren't rich or you are a non attractive person (but even those would benefit from being humble and consistent cause it's also the way we're wired biologically)

[DukeJohnny]

8 billion people on earth - if everyone would be exceptional, it'd be a hell to live on.

[yuvikagupta]

Earlier my definition of being exceptional was in comparison to others. Now it's about following my gut and always expanding and creating more. I have never been happier and calmer.

[theolebrave]

Funny thing here. For years I beat myself up for not being “better” whatever that meant. letting go of that was hard but I found happiness in the everyday stuff and the voice that actually wants to do things spoke to me more and now I’m actually “working” on myself but it really doesn’t even feel like that, I’m just filling my life with more things that bring me joy

[MaybeCookieroo]

“You could be infinite.”
“I am enough.” - Yorick

[dashandtuch]

After years of work I'm now pretty good at being myself. That's enough for me right now.

[Coccoscrappy]

My Dad told me when I was about 14yrs old to so whatever makws you happy & don't listen to anyone, just live your life❤RIP Dad

[jasperborggreve]

I actually really need this right now. I have A LOT of interests, and internally I constantly feel pressured to be good at every single one of those things. It makes me stress about the fact that I’m not achieving what I want to achieve, although it is practically unfeasible to do so.
I get so caught up into this mindset that I don’t know where to start and end up doing nothing and procrastinating in return. I just need to sit my ass down and focus on the study I’m following and find contentment in that, since this whole ordeal is one of the reasons why I’m falling behind.

I wonder if this issue I have is constantly feeding off when I got bullied in primary/middle school, giving me an internal drive that is essentially burning me out before I even get to achieve anything.

[joaquin]

Being average is a blessing and highly underrated

[inkpendude]

The voices in my head scream for exceptionallity