Psychiatrist Explains How To Get People To Love You...

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[ThePotaToh]

Look at the person in the mirror and treat them like your friend. Then start loving them. Then clone yourself or go back in time so that you can make love with them. Then do step 1 again because you went back in time.

[LadyMorrigan]

Theres nothing more attractive than someone who loves themself but like, to a healthy degree. You can just tell when someone has that inner shit worked out lol

[per]

The moment I stopped freaking over being alone, and instead focused on enjoying where I was in life and feel good about being alone, and suddenly I wasn't alone

[codyrap]

Just don't fall in the trap that ONLY IF you love yourself, you can love somebody else. They can go hand in hand, loving another and the another loving you, CAN teach you how to apply it to yourself. It was like this for me

[BillyHudson]

This idea used to piss me off before I started going to therapy 😆
Then I learned to validate and comfort myself and I was like

[XZXZ]

Please do a video on learning how to love yourself

[artifundio]

I listened to this for at least five minutes 😮

This clip made me think that loving one's self is a system of many layers, because I know I have learned how to love me in some very noticeable way, but I still sabotage myself in the way I present myself to people interested in me. It's like anxiety lowers my self love in a heartbeat. It's like I had all the clues to know this by my self, but it didn't hit me untill now.

I wonder how many more layers are there. Omg. When will I be ready to be loved? Now I'm not that sure about my efforts being enough. More anxiety, and I will probably end up eating and over eating.
🤯

[GlorifiedGremlin]

If you don't love yourself there's typically a reason that started those feelings in the first place. Sometimes it's a legitimate reason. Dont try to force yourself to feel something you dont, change those things about yourself that you don't like so it comes naturally

[humourlessjester]

I really understood this in my last relationship. I realized that the only reason I was holding on to it was because I believed I could not be loved and I finally found someone who could, even when the relationship started to become more and more toxic I held on to that idea. I've sinced learned to start loving myself and I'm making steps to be proud of the person that I am. I don't think I'm there yet, but I think I'm almost there.

[kennedylove]

I think finding my self worth in the fact that I _can_ and do have the ability to change has helped me vastly more than accepting the notion that I am always good enough no matter what I’ve done

[Avon]

I'm all for "loving yourself", it seems and feels like the correct approach for several of the problems we might be facing. However, the help pretty much stops there. How do you "love yourself"? What is there exactly to love? What if I have a very low self-esteem but I (feel like I) can base it on sound facts? How can I go looking on a mirror and not feeling like I'm seeing an enemy there but at least an acquaintance?

[Iudicatio]

Ok but how? I intellectually recognize this on several levels but I don't feel it. Please do an entire video on this!

[cas]

Also doing what you want in the short term is often times preventing you from getting what you want in the long term.

[resilientruby]

Here's the overlooked problem guys.

If you baked a cupcake and gave it to another girl without tasting it, do u know how it actually tastes?

If you don't love yourself, do you actually know if you are giving lovable vibes to the other girl?

I hope it makes it make sense.

[IsaiahSenku]

Fax, I've had this same thought process recently, I want this thing but I can't skip over the actual issue at the core

[Michael-kppe]

That’s interesting, I guess it’s more about how it manifests / is presented to the other person, rather than how you actually feel. But that also leads to people pretending like they’re confident and that backfires even more. I do think that being authentic, even if you have unhealthy self-esteem, still works better than not being authentic and pretending like you’re confident / comfy with yourself.

My lack of self-love manifests in caring a lot for others, being a “giver”, so that actually helps me find relationships, instead of harming.

Plus…loving yourself is gonna take forever. If it was out of 10, with 10 being love and 0 being hate, I think being in the 5-6 range (basically neutral) is fine. Not confident, just comfortable. Even if you dislike yourself (<5), it’s still possible to have a healthy relationship, as long as you’re aware and actively working on your trauma.

[Lillith.]

That's why I chose to stay single. I didn't feel good, I didn't like myself, I wondered why I even had friends. I overcame my depression for the most part and became friends with myself. If there was a second me, I would be friends with them. It sounds like a lot of fun and easy motivation.

[evedotcom]

Yes! I see this so often. Putting the cart before the horse. I’m grateful that you’re putting this message out there so clearly.

[frankkennedy]

The problem I find with "Self Love" is that I liked myself just fine until people started shitting on me. Now I wonder "do I really hate myself, or am I just surrounded by assholes?"

I don't completely believe you need self love before accomplishing things. I've loved and lost at a time where I wasn't happy, so does one really need to come before the other.

[Vladimyrful]

Thing is, this is EXTREMELY difficult to explain to someone who's desperately lonely. Granted, you DO need a partner, however and to use a quote from "The Boys": if you have "...the bottomless pit of insecurity you call your soul" you will have great difficulty enjoying the relationship because you believe you're not lovable and that people are going to leave you - even if you get the EXACT partner you want. I've been people-watching and noticing how people who have the kind of life I'd like to have are - they all have some baseline comfort level with who they are and they don't seem to feel the angst of inadequacy I seem to feel (especially in social events). So there's a lot of wisdom to this.