Do NOT Confess To Your Crush

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[pukeskywanker]

dear algorithm, suggesting this a week earlier would have been FUCKING FANTASTIC.

[thephoenixsystem]

A monk, a psychiatrist and a meme walks into a bar

[fullmetaltheorist]

"Love is stored in the balls."

[Kyrrinx]

imagine this is all an elaborate plan to stop anyone from confessing to his daughter

[TsubikiKoya]

I had a rule for myself after childhood crushes that if I started catching feelings for someone I needed to ask them out within 2 weeks. I got rejected most times I did it but it still felt worth doing because it lowers the emotional stakes a lot. It lets the person know that I'm interested on the off chance they change their mind while allowing me to move on and not make further emotional investment on that person in a romantic context.

The pain of rejection is nothing compared to the pain I experienced having long-term crush on a friend during my adolescence. I struggled with it and it made me hold off on opportunities I could have had with other people.

[williamhamilton]

Better advice.
Don't be covert and sneaky about your intentions. If you flirt, flirt. But don't try to sneak into a relationship by being a

[crenfick]

"Hey, how would you feel if I asked you out on a date?" is so much better than some big confession of feelings. It's easygoing and flirtatious, and frames it like no big deal if they say no.

[dalailarose]

Dumping your feelings on a crush is like when *a cat proudly drops a dead mouse on your feet.* I know it means a lot to the cat, but wtf am I supposed to do with this??

[justagirl]

Definitely do tell people you are interested. Just do it casually
"Hey I like you. Would you like to go out sometimes? It's ok if you don't. Just let me know."
Best case scenario they are interested.
Worst case scenario they aren't interested and you can move on instead of keep crushing on them like a fool that's too scared to go out of thw friendzone.

[yourijika]

the vine boom caught me off guard lmao

[kevinbrown]

Did Dr. K just kill all romance anime?

[andiykvk]

Absolutely agree! Receiving that dump is sooo uncomfortable. I had multiple crushes as a teenager and in my early 20’s. Trust me you - you don’t need to confess your love. Chances are that you’re emitting strong (and potentially awkward) vibes. So that person very likely already knows you like them. They may either choose to avoid you like the plague or they might choose to still remain friends with you whilst not telling you they know. If you need to tell them, then keep it simple and definitely don’t dump your emotions on them. If they agree to go on a date with you, take it easy and slowly, giving them the time and space to get to know you and like you for you who truly are. If they don’t feel the same way, it’s not a bad reflection on them, it’s just not working for them and you haven’t found the one just yet.

[kathleenhernandez]

Funny. That’s actually how I chose my partner. He confessed his love for me and that’s what I needed. Nobody did this for me because they were trying too hard to keep the leverage in their ball park. I personally hated it because it became a game of who can be cooler and less caring than who. My man completely opened up to me and lost all leverage in this game we call love but I loved it because I knew it wasn’t a game. Now we’re the happiest we’ve ever been.

[you_dont_wanna_know]

"You can't dump that shit on people, come on!!!" 😂😂😂

[SuperGoose]

I followed your advice about having a discussion rather than confessing, and while disappointed that my best friend didn't reciprocate my feelings for her, I'm extremely relieved that our close friendship remains stable and she isn't weirded out by me. And I'm okay with us being friends and not something more, because as friends we're still damn close and really appreciate each other's company.
Thank you Dr. K 🙏

[VampyreJellyfish]

i confessed to my partner using a powerpoint… for multiple reasons, i didn’t want to just say it out of the blue. we were also 100% texting at the time (long distance) so i didn’t want to send a message saying, “i have something important to tell you” because i thought that’d be intimidating. so, i made a powerpoint explaining how i feel decorated with stock images to lighten it up. i made sure to affirm that whatever he feels is fine, i cherish him all the same. also, that he could reply whenever he wanted, i could wait. so, i sent it to him without saying what it was. and now our fourth anniversary is coming up. he still has the powerpoint..

[withinthrall]

The other week a buddy of mine went into a store and he made a joke about a song by creed playing in the store. He goes up to the girl and tells her he’s sorry she has to listen to bad music. She said she made the playlist and loved creed. We all laughed, it was genuinely the funniest moment of foot in mouth I’ve seen from him.

Flash forward to last week, we went to the same store and saw her. She recognized us and started playing creed. We laugh about it, but then, out of the fucking blue my buddy goes, “the joke was really funny. But I’ve been so love deprived lately that honestly I love the attention!” And her whole body language changed. Then he suddenly started just dumping about a bunch of emotional stuff. From the look on her face, you could tell it was a, “woah, this is a little too much.” Then after we left, he had the audacity to look me in the eyes and say, “I was gonna ask for her number, but I got nervous because she was at work. And I didn’t want to make it weird!”
Like my dawg, you just fumbled harder than you’ll ever know.

TLDR; don’t just dump emotionally heavy stuff on strangers, especially people you have a crush on. It’s mad dumb.

[melima_]

Dr. K as always spitting facts!! I've had it happen once maybe twice to me that someone out of the blue backed me into a corner and confessed to me. It was awkward and always destroyed the friendship. It doesn't take the receiving person's feelings into consideration.
In my current relationship it was a slow build from our friendship and it developed into something more through glances and touches then having a mature conversation along the lines of: 'I've love spending time with you and I would love to see where this goes, what's your opinion?'
Instead of being blindsided and quite literally ambushed by someone you only considered a friend. And now you have to retrospectively reevaluate all your interactions with this person. A confessions like this out of nowhere and completely lacking any maturity and is putting so much pressure and anxiety on the receiving person. You'll most likely end up ruining the relationship you have with that person

[SpaceMonke]

This feels like a personal attack. When I was 15 I sent a girl a letter. A fucking letter, gushing about my feelings for her. It went down like a lead balloon, as 24 year old me would expect.

[dangerxbadger]

The overdramatized Indian accent mimicking Bollywood/soap operas oh my God I can't!😂😂😂😂