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[zsuzsuspetals]

It's funny how the people who say "Friends/family should help one another" are ALWAYS the ones who need the help. Never the ones who give it!

[LoveBeliefTruth]

This is my father, how he lived he's life. He just manipulated my mom into marrying him. Has no intention to be a good husband or good father. Just leech on my mother. Hr even said it straight to me! That it's he's strategy in life to find someone like my mother to offer him everything. I really find him very repulsive. It's disgusting to have a father like him.

[sevenone]

My ex did something similar to me. We had only been dating a few months if even. I'd moved to a new state for a job and they had a home buying program so id always planned on using that benefit. Simultaneously he started convincing me to move in together, and that this is what it looks like when a man is serious and wants to get married and not use a women...he wanted me to move into his place (a rental), but I still wanted to own. So he said "fine" we can live in my place. So he starts looking with me, then told me that I was being selfish for not putting his name on the home. He had bad credit and didn't manage money well...plus we haddnt known each other long. He said he would have done it for me because he would want me to feel protected. I felt so bad. I felt guilty with my successes as it was...being a black women from the hood that "made it out." I wanted to help, but none of this sounded right. If i had bad credit i wouldnt want to put that on someone i barely knew. Plus i couldnt imagine being this forceful in general with getting my name on someone elses property. I didn't know I was being manipulated at the time. I partially listened to my gut by not putting his name on the place but offered numerous times to sit with him and draw up a rental agreement so that he would feel protected and would even get a lawyer. He kept putting it off. Again I had no idea that this was not really about protection...he was trying to leech and own a place. Oh and get this, around the time where I was starting to have doubts about even moving in because he was pressuring me about owning, he started "losing his rental" for unknown reasons and was going to be homeless (him and his daughter)...so I had to help right? He also told me that I was narcissistic because of my success which was already a sore spot for me...because everyone knows that our society puts narcissists in positions of power. Long story short he ran up credit in my name, took down my credit score, tried numerous times to isloate me from frienda, and ate at my self esteem over time. I finally broke it off.
I know this is long but I hope you read it because your channel has saved me in so many ways.

[beerkegaard]

Many people dealing with narcissists “don’t want to be an asshole” and question their actions. Good thing I enjoy being an asshole.

[bridgettetraveler]

Throw that freeloader out! I've known many of those kind of ppl! They see u have a big heart & they want to misuse u! They'll take everything from u & do nothing for u!!!

[jabressdolath]

Dr. Romani, your mannerism, voice and a little bit of your facial features all scream my Mom. She is a very brilliant woman, and I can listen to her all day everyday. I love listening to you as much as I love listening to my mom. Thank you for your insight

[amypola]

3 months is good notice, and who in the world would expect free rent?

[spokenwordpoetries]

THANK YOU for stating how harmful toxic and narcissistic roommates can be. An old roommate was the reason that I vacated my entire apartment that I loved because I needed to be away from them and know that they didn't know where to slit my tires or track my movements or harass me as they saw fit. However, God took what was intended for evil in my life and used it for good. I made a lifelong dream of living and working abroad come true! I liked it so much that I'm still abroad all of these years later. People minimize roommate trauma/abuse/intimidation because they don't understand. DON'T LISTEN TO THEM. Stand up for yourself with the truth that they don't actually know about what they're speaking about. They shouldn't give you advice from their ignorance. What you are experiencing is REAL, but you can heal and move past it. There is much more ahead for you than this. God bless.

[Anonymous_Anon]

Narcissistic/toxic flat/house-mates/roomies hit different, they really do. It doesn’t matter what you do for them. They’re too entitled (for one thing) to appreciate much.

[malindarayallen]

I swear, if one more narcissist says "I thought we were friends." to guilt you after you set a boundary.🤦🏾

[di]

People that comes to your mind after watching this video is definitely one

[mrln]

Narcs love to negotiate with you over your own stuff LOL

[aratneerg]

Yup, the roommate is not prepared for adulthood at all!

[maoriprincezz]

So many toxic red flags… how presumptuous of the flat mate to say that she’ll save money and she’ll live in the bigger room… 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[whatsupchannel]

We gave a friend a home for six months because she was unwell, homeless and broke, I lent her money, gave her all her meals along with everything else . When she left to go to her sister and aunt she then had money, she never gave us a bean or did her family for taking care of her, her own son who couldn't take her in never even came and thanked us . That's entitlement, we were taken in as fools but in our hearts we did not want her to suffer she was soon housed and got everything she needed from other people . Never paid the money back and barely keeps in touch .

[blessedstar]

I dated a narc. He lived in a small 1 bedroom apartment. I live in a beautiful big house. He wanted to permanently live with me and he wanted me to add him to the deed of my house. Not me. This sick side-stepping giraffe is twisted. They aren't afraid to ask you for anything. They feel entitled to your hard work. Always looking for someone to elevate them. He had me all wrong. Stand your ground and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.

[GrandmaEllen]

That entitled person has no scruples. Get her out ASAP. Easy for me to say at a distance, but entitlement enrages me also. 💜

[ElRegulus]

Wow. No, I think at 26, a person should know nothing is free. Who goes "hey, roomie is buying the place, so now I don't have to pay... anything at all"?

[kimsell]

An, the intelligence behind the toxicity.It really helps that you unpacked this behavior and helped sort out the pieces of the manipulation

[crongusclips]

Dr Ramani: How did you get to be so awesome!