Top 10 Tactics The Narcissist Uses To Get You Back in The Game

Congratulations, you went "no contact"... you think it's over, but beware! The narcissist often returns weeks, months, or even years later, trying to hoover you back into the toxic relationship cycle. In this video, I explain what it means to go "no contact" as well as the top 10 tactics that the narcissist will use to try to get you to break your no contact rule.

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Introduction (0:00)
No Contact Rule (1:18)
1: "Just checking in" (3:31)
2: Leverage (4:14)
3: Social Media (5:14)
4: "Let's be friends" (5:57)
5: Send You Things (6:41)
6: Friends/Family (7:11)
7: Begging/Pleading (7:26)
8: Bump into you (7:58)
9: Threats (8:54)
10: Empty Promises (9:26)

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[scottairhart]

" Be your own best friend" PERFECT! Be the President of your own mental, emotional and physical fan club.

[joannedomingo]

I have opened the door repeatedly. Thank you for this video. Door is closed and locked.

[LightVioletRoses]

Even if the narcissist doesn't want you, the narcissist still leaves a crack in the door so they know that they can control you mentally and emotionally.

[edwardhoppe]

When they do the "just checking in" thing, they'll act like they're doing you a favor by contacting you. Makes me laugh.

[slovelyyx]

Once you get over the weird games, the gaslighting, and the flying monkeys it’s when you begin to truly realize how sad and bizarre these individuals are. All us normal people want to do is enjoy life in the present moment, why are their brains constantly conspiring against us. Life as a narcissist just seems like an utterly sad and boring existence.

[foxygayla]

It's been 14 months of no contact. I'm still trying to heal from this horrific person. I thank God for his help in my healing journey. ❤🙏

[corasteidinger]

The narcissist seems to draw you into their darkness... I am thankful for the ability to recognize the traits and stay clear...

[christianwininger]

For weeks I got the “Are you OK” text… then after a few weeks of NC she emailed me and begged me to please call her because it was about her kids and it was urgent. I love her kids so I of course called. We discussed the kids for 30 seconds and then it was on to talking about us again. 3 weeks No Contact today and hoping for the rest of my life.

[Elevenbravo_ABN]

She contacted me after 2 months. I was kind of surprised but I shouldn’t have been. Thank God, I was able to summon up the self-control to completely ignore her phone calls and texts. The next day, I got the social media contact, followed by another call and another voice mail.

The message said “how are you? why is it so easy for you to forget about me? I don’t understand” at which point her voice broke as if she was starting to cry, then she hung up.

A very insightful female friend told me “the sadness and desperation are not an act; she’s losing control over you”.

After this, I blocked her number and her email address.

I made the mistake of returning to her twice and I learned the hard way, how foolish that was.

[gloriachapman]

I went completely no contact. He made that very easy to do with his lying, cheating, manipulative toxic behavior.

[gregj]

The key is to discard THEM first and don't look back

[rapstar]

Narcs are so hard to deal with. You just gotta remove them from your life.

[donna-jeanboulay]

I blocked him and moved 1500 miles away. I am the one who ended it

[roofmasterpalestine]

So glad you make these videos.My narc wife has almost killed me twice with my own 170 Boerboel mastiff.Drove myself to the hospital both times.Almost bled out.Barely managed to get out the door, she ran out after me and screaming look what you made hime do, as I was bleeding out in my driveway.Manged to make it to the ER in my Jeep, standard transmission.Wasnt easy, passing out on the way, happened twice, six weeks apart, thankful for life and the smell of flowers.No more terrifying of a feeling of having a dog bread to kill munching on your shoulder trying to get to your throat and kill you.Im an Army Ranger and I have never been so terrified.Thank you Lise, you give me strength.

[surfshack]

The end game with a narcissist is hurt.

[theanabolicviking]

My girl (ex now as of 6 weeks ago) dated on and off for 8 years and when we weren't together she was always texting me randomly to ask how I was doing. This last time we were together (for a little over a year) I finally realized this was completely unhealthy and that her words never matched her actions. I always felt like I was begging for her to meet my needs (there was always an excuse that she couldn't somehow because she needed to heal from her childhood trauma and needed me during that time) When I finally for once called her on her crap she made it clear that she didn't feel safe with me and that I was disrupting her peace. When she realized I wasn't going to continue this unhealthy relationship she went into meltdown mode, covered her ears like a child, and called me an abuser for raising my voice when I had finally had it with her BS. Her parting shot was... Well, now you can take care of your own needs. I got my voice back, turned to her, and said... Well, there's nothing new there, I've been doing that for 9 months, but the difference is that I won't be taking care of yours now, and don't even try to contact me again because I'm going to delete you, and everything about you as if you never existed. (Don't know where that all came from but it felt good to say what I felt for once) Now, this doesn't mean that these last 6 weeks have been easy because I know that I put my all into the relationship. It's getting easier every day. And the peace is amazing. These videos are helping to validate what I went through... Thank you!

[BokushingusKendoTV]

People, please understand no contact is not about getting them back or making them realize they messed up.

It’s about protecting yourself and moving on. Like she said, you will experience withdrawal! And man will it hurt!! But once you get over it, you will feel so much better and they will have absolutely no more power over you!

It will feel so good to be free.

[patkelley]

I'm in a great relationship now. But yeah, no contact with crazy lady!

[dazx]

Somehow...I found myself being pulled into a narcissist for over 2 years. This last time was the final straw. Thanks to your video, I can finally and fully understand what is happening. And while each time I got sucked in and while this hurts....it hurts less and now I can finally free myself. What a dark chapter of my life. Thank for everything Lisa. Moving on to bigger and better relationships now.

[shak]

I think this applies more to male narcissists. Female covert narcissist are too proud, arrogant and stubborn to ever back down after discard. They would expect to see you begging to have them back but they would never ever give away that they want you. They would rather die of loneliness than admit that they made a mistake in losing you