The Trick To Remaining Untriggered By A Narcissist

As part of their need to become "superior" over you, narcissists love to trigger you into unnecessary and erratic emotional reactions. Dr. Les Carter is onto their schemes, and very clearly describes how you can stay away from their pitfalls and their gaslighting.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[shewho]

“Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you” -unknown

[dlv]

What I’ve noticed is, if I allow my emotions to gain control, and I lose my temper, not only does it give the narcissist the ability to play the victim, but it gives them great pleasure to see me upset. So not only am I left feeling guilty that I lost it, I’ve made their day.

[D-rzqz]

I've learned the hard way... the best thing for me to do with my narcissistic family is to remain silent.
My new boundary: "I will not invest myself in people whe refuse to give me a voice."

[davidyardley]

Our misery is their joy. Our joy is their misery.
There is no action the narcissist takes or words they speak without an agenda.

[cabowabo]

When they try to trigger you, just say "Whatever". It drives them crazy.

[LightBeing]

Silence is the best answers to those who don't value your words ✌🏼💗

[aaronkwolfe]

I became untriggered when I realized the lies were intended to cause me to react. In essence, I unloaded their weapon, so a trigger did nothing.

[chipchippie]

They want a reaction out of us. That's why they're always attempting to get some type of negative reaction out of us. That is because their main objective is not to make us happy it's actually quite the opposite. The best thing to do is get used to not reacting to them, and not giving them food to feed their fire of narcissism.

[shaninphxaz]

Narcissists will always bring out the worst in you if you let them!

[Canadian-Carnivore]

Don’t walk away, RUN away and cut off completely all narcissists. They are damaged and beyond repair. Narcissistic parents are the worst. They don’t love themselves or their children, they just manipulate. And their children spend a lifetime seeking that unloving parents love. They don’t have it. Quit wasting your time and live a healthy happy life without them. ☮️❤️

[sharonsalyer]

This is more difficult to do than one might think as they attack your character, intelligence, and your very being. It hurts and injustices bring out the anger. I think it helps at times to pretend you're dealing with a 5-6year old in order to try and detach some.

[pynkneka]

An emotional empath is a narcissist piggy bank. Please if you feel depleted or drained repeatedly after spending time or even conversing with some…PAY ATTENTION. Protect your heart, protect your spirit, protect your mind, protect your energy.❤

[wordswordswords]

One more comment here: after reading through some of these comments I feel so relieved that so many people understand the hell of dealing with this. It is such a depressing and isolating thing to deal with a narc, but reading the comments gives me hope at least that I am not alone in this. Stay strong everybody.

[lc-bbbd]

Losing your emotions in front of them gives them what they want

[mermaid]

Gus is an example of being unbothered by narcissist behavior! 🐾😂

[toucheturtle]

When you respond in a flat unemotional manner to a narcissist, they go silent…

[D-rzqz]

I don't have to justify myself. Amen

[arasyard]

I realized that to be discarded is not at all that bad, it is a blessing because its means the narc is leaving you alone..

[Giulia_]

When we react by screaming we are asking to be seen. But they can't see us. They can't hear us. They are busy with themselves

[GrantOakes]

Just consider what they are and don't take their behavior personal. Knowing that they have deep seated and hidden emotional damage should help you to understand why they are the way they are and you should feel sorry for their pitiful existence and STAY AWAY from them!