Is the narcissist TRYING TO DESTROY YOU?

ORDER MY NYT BESTSELLING BOOK 📖 "IT'S NOT YOU"

JOIN MY HEALING PROGRAM

JOIN THE DR. RAMANI NETWORK

GET INFO ABOUT MY UPCOMING PROGRAM FOR THERAPISTS

SIGN UP FOR MY MAILING LIST

LISTEN TO MY NEW PODCAST "NAVIGATING NARCISSISM"

DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL.

THE VIDEO DOES NOT REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS VIDEO, ESPECIALLY TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION THAT THE MAKERS OF THIS VIDEO BELIEVE, OR SUPPORT A CLAIM, THAT A SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE VIDEO AND THE INFORMATION FEATURED IN IT.

[NarcSurvivor]

Yes, the narcissist is trying to destroy you. They are deeply envious of your qualities and abilities. And they don’t want you to have anything that they can’t. Such as empathy and true intimacy. The last thing they want to see if you taking that and being good for someone else.

[maryshkamiceli]

Wondering how many people no longer want a relationship after getting out (alive) of a relationship with a narcissist. Self-preservation (mental and emotional survival) becomes priority #1.

[prachiheda]

Narcissists tend to view people as objects meant to fulfill their wants.. if you deny them anything or stand up for yourself as a human being, they view it as an attack, and set out to take revenge by destroying you.. so eventually most narcissists will end up trying to destroy you..

[kaykillian]

I’m not agreeing, my narcissist set out to destroy me as soon as he saw I was doing well. He intentionally set out to destroy me, he targeted me to hurt me.

[csfiskus]

In my experience, yes. The more malignant they are, the more vindictive they are towards you. Especially if they view you as a threat or if you have something they desperately want but have no access to. Some are methodical about it.

[SabrinaCuie]

The narc I was with said “I am going to destroy you” so at least in my case, I believe he wanted to.

[zippyz]

yea I firmly believe they want to destroy your life so you have nothing and they can 'feel' superior and that you need them in a codependant manner. They're playing a game and they have to win.

[jennelleschulzeck]

It is so depressing reading so many stories about how badly people have been treated in narcissistic relationship and to think I am just beginning to understand what has been happening to me all these years.

[vaschristou]

My son's ex narc just about bankrupted him at the time of the divorce, then afterwards she pretended to care and asked him if he needed financial assistance to come to her. Now that's what i call true evil 😈

[daniYell]

That is how I describe my marriage to other people. “It was meant to destroy me.” Thank you for this.

[drsethsr]

My narcissist ex-wife drove me to the point of suicide, then shamed and guilt-tripped me while I was in the psych ward. We were separated, she said we would reconcile. She knew I had a big life insurance policy. She wanted me to off myself, I am convinced.

[cymbolichuman]

I think they are. I think it's when you say "no" that this occurs. I was told
they were going to break me. That's because I have resillience and character.

[staywellandstrong]

Destroying your happiness is empowering to their shame-based view of life

[suzyhomeacre]

My sister has been hell bent on destroying any familial relationship that I could ever have my entire lifetime.
After 60 years, they know what she is now.
Finding it out on their own…but she blames me for her exposing herself.
It’s dangerous stuff.
Just get away. ☮️

[lisarendinefirecracker]

I watched my father destroy my brother for years and it's more disturbing to me now than it was then. It's so awful.

[A.M.]

Yes, my malignant narcissist mom wants to destroy me now that I am no longer supply. She is HEEL-BENT on destroying any source of happiness in my life, been happening for several decades and she's not done. She is actually obsessed with it. Her motivation is what she wants, which is me being her supply, and I am done.

[jds]

This was the hardest concept for me to grasp. They don't care. I am an object, nothing more. Yet once accepted, it's liberating. It softens my compulsion to perform for them (they'll never acknowledge my successes unless it benefits them directly, then they want more), and get some petty vengeance (they're clueless because they believe they didn't do anything wrong). The best thing is to go DEEP and flee when possible.

[yulandarowe]

It doesn't just FEEL destructive. IT IS DESTRUCTIVE AND YES THEY DO MEAN IT. THEY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THE F THEYRE DOING! AND THEY DO KNOW HOW IT AFFECTS YOU.

[jackie]

I’m not sure about that. If they perceive you have more happiness or money, or secure in yourself they definitely want to destroy that.

[millyday]

My 1st Narc(a sibling) manipulated whole community on their side! It back fired as this person was exposed, I awoke and moved far away from their clutches and their circle, built my own identity! Freedom! My 2nd narc (a partner) played on being sick! I finally saw I was of no help and separated from that relationship after. My 3rd Narc during my 1st and 2nd Narc, was a relative (parent figure) pitting partner against me and character assassinating me with the Narc sibling! To begin with I was born in a high control religious organisation!!!Finally after 40 odd years of all this, with decades of therapy, I have implemented the no contact advice as my solution, which has been most effective! Thank You Dr Ramani and your guests for all your free advice, info and support for people like myself! My mental, physical and spiritual health is better than ever!