Do Emotionally Unavailable Men Regret Losing You Later On?

[hxudxen]

They only miss when they realize that you gave more than other people after you. They miss what they got from you, but not you as a person, who you were - only the way you made them feel so special. And also the nostalgia hits, they only want you again because now they know you are gone and they cannot have you. As soon as you give them another chance, the same behavioural patterns play out. You ladies deserve so much more and the man who will truly want you, will do anything to be with you. Very simple.

[lelelovebug]

I want him to try to come back so I can ignore him

[corinaluanavlad]

Do they regret?! Who cares?! My life goes on. I do not waste my time. If they are unavailable, they have to work on themselves. It's not my problem at all.

[corinaluanavlad]

They are still hoping to have me in their lives. I said: "No. I'm not the same person and my feelings for you have changed. You've had your chance and you did not appreciate me, so I left you. That's all."

[IamBarati]

All very true. Women we have go learn to cut our losses. Time is too precious to waste on men who don't know what they want

[liztowers]

i literally JUST cut off a year solid of a FWB, we hung out, watch movies, hed make me steak and we would have drinks....we would hang out with his friends at the beach, like a group of buddies. we got real
i fell in love, i wanted MORE...he flat out said his heart is dust from bla bla bla bla. basically emotionally unavailable. i wanted him so bad:(
i just stopped it all. i couldnt keep sleeping with him without a commitment, after a while you feel UNWORTHY AND CHEAP, im worth more, i deserve love, he even told me "you deserve someone who is more emotionally available, a shoulder you can cry on someone whos able to give you what you need, i cant be him, my scars are too deep, im not ready and probable never will be, i can see myself single rest of my life"

i walked away...and it hurts.

[paige]

One-thousand percent! According to so many men I've asked this same question to, yes. Of course this only applies when there weren't any other major challenges or arguments between you both. If the only thing was not being ready for a serious relationship, they kick themselves down the road and realize they should have committed to her or married her... usually after she commits to and marries someone else. She could be the perfect woman and make the perfect wife/mother of his children, but he would still leave or walk away if he isn't ready to settle down or get more serious. Even if he's a really good hearted, genuine guy. There really is the right person at the wrong time, according to men. Super frustrating!

[jspisces]

When I’m done. I’m just done. There is nothing for them to come back too. I’m gone.

[Omen]

As an emotionally unavailable man, yes we do.

[bethmalakoff]

He wasn’t available and then now he is in a relationship so it’s not that he wasn’t emotionally available he just didn’t want it with me. It stings but time to move on.

[corinaluanavlad]

Elliot, you're so damn right!
That's what I did.
You're not ready for me, so you're free to go. I'm a free woman, too.
Thank you for your good advices! I do agree with them.

[catspyjamas]

I understand the principle, but I think it’s misleading to say that most men will regret letting a woman go. Most of the time, whether it’s men or women, we don’t regret letting someone go. I can’t think of a single person I regret letting go. There is one I miss terribly, but I know better than to try again.

It’s only that “one who got away”, and they’re in the minority. Anyone can have a bit of doubt as to whether they made the right decision, but we all know if someone may be “the one” or not. Coming back in order to keep you on the hook isn’t regret; merely about their ego.

Sometimes people get labelled “emotionally unavailable”, and it’s more the fact that they just weren’t interested ENOUGH to commit. I think it’s best to assume that if he’d really wanted to seal the deal, he would’ve done so, and the right guy would never risk letting you get away. Holding out hope that the last guy will somehow fall madly in love just keeps US emotionally unavailable for a better guy.

[CrayolaCoffeeBean]

I hope my ex doesn’t miss me/regret leaving. He was a good man, but he was so hurt by his ex-fiancé leaving him that he said he didn’t think he could ever love again (which I don’t believe will be the case… he’ll meet someone that will give him that security). I hope he finds a loving, happy, fun relationship like I have since him!

[guitarsinger]

I believe they do. If you treated him with respect, was kind, and tried to make it work, he will absolutely regret it. A lot of times men like this can be prideful and full of ego, not all but many. My "ex" was like this, I never slept with him (waiting until marriage) which is one of the main reasons he ghosted me because he "thought" he could do better. Long story short my suspicions were true he was with someone else. He tried to build with her and she ended up cheating on him four months in, gave him possible STD, and could possibly be having a child by another man but saying its his. 

Now he's calling me from different/unknown numbers, making fake text scenarios, etc. Doing all this but when he had me all he did was make excuses to not even be around me, literally didn't even try.Though I wished him well in life all he had was dust and became a ghost. I'm a firm believer in respecting the dead. Well he lost out big time and he'll never have access to me again simply because he doesn't deserve me and I don't feel the same. You snooze you lose.

[joancollins]

I like you, I enjoy spending time with you and I care about you… whilst ignoring me, not wanting to spend time with me and breadcrumbing. Told him thanks but no thanks, worth more than that. He agreed, repeated the I care about you, I like you crap, gave me a load of compliments then ghosted me after I pointed out if that’s what he thought then he wouldn’t be behaving in the opposite manner. 🤷‍♀️
Absolute mind job.

[Thelashaymarie]

I think the last dude is starting to regret it

[shaylagoogle]

So right. If he's stable then the knows what he wants. When you are starting a relationship then you are consistent. If he wants to come and go as he pleases show him the door and don't open it again. Great Video Elliott, you are definitely right. Hope woman listen to this.

[AnotherFontenot]

Three and a half months of bliss until one day he pulled a complete 180 on me and said he wasn't ready to fully commit. I genuinely don't feel like he was
manipulating or playing games with me but I'm still so confused as to how someone can change so fast. This video gave me a bit of clarity. Thanks Elliot.

[guacgirl]

You give very good advice. Common sense but when you are in it you forget sometimes. Thank You for all your advice. 😊

[Mixedbeauty]

That a good question, my ex made no effort to reconnect or talk again. So, it’s his loss I been stop chasing him. I’m on dating sites, trying to meet other guys. I got a whole glow up, new doors opening for me.