The Dumper Regrets More Than You’ll Ever Know

They dumped you and couldn’t care less (so it seems). Here’s a truth about your dumper’s remorse that they’ll never share:

Denise writes, “Hi Susan! I recently found your channel and I love your videos! I am the dumper that regretted their choice and came back but got rejected. It was a 4-year relationship, and I ended it impulsively. There was no cheating or some major conflict. I respect my ex's decision however I am ridden with guilt, regret, and self-blame. How do I move on from this person and these feelings?”

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[Carrollavirus]

When someone comes back after dumping you, and it wasn’t your fault, it means their other relationship(s) didn’t work out, and now you are their contingency plan.
Never take back someone who blatantly disrespected you, and put you through emotional hell.
They only wanted you as an option in their life, not a priority.
Move on. Completely.

[SusanH]

The dumper is just lonely and wants to go back to what was familiar and easy.

[sanjmalik]

Grass is not greener on the otherside. Dumpers realise its not even realise real grass but turf.

[somethingspecific]

When someone breaks up with me, I don't wanna think they're regretting it. I like to think it was the right decision and hope to find something else.

[climax]

Some absolute menace on this website in a comment I saw once said "If you love something then let it go, then if it comes back to you send their behind away because it means nobody else wanted them either" and that makes me laugh every time I think about it.

[face]

Unless they are a covert narcissist, then they don't regret anything except that they can't get you back for more supply. I've given multiple chances to one and got discarded each time. Biggest mistake of my life.

[Dean-zndu]

3 months now blocked move forward let them roam what is meant for you will be yours.
They always will be with another guy but they plan there escape long before they dump you.
Let karma do it's work.
Narcissist pure evil people move on.
Never to be trusted.
Piece of mind is always better than a stressful partner.
Let go let someone else have the misery because they will always the same person.

[annewhitney]

Thanks for shining a light on the process of "Grieving the familiar" I left a long term unhealthy relationship and spent a year grieving and didn't understand why I felt that way. I had no interest in going back but the grief was real.

[lucyloo]

Thanks for this Susan. I’m going through a rough patch with a guy that was totally into me. Suddenly, he back peddled and disappeared. I’ve been sick for a week. I can’t even eat. 😢I’m saving up to book a session with you. Excellent Video. Bravo 👏

[nicholasferrara]

Sounds like she wanted to try out different dudes. Like the grass is greener on the other side crap. She probably got dumped by the random dudes she started hanging out with and then started to miss the man that was treating her like gold. Oh WELL!

[crsantin]

There is absolutely an underlying, unidentified reason why this person suddenly dumped the guy. I’m sure he was very hurt after four years but he obviously discovered that life without her was just fine, maybe even better. Good for him.

[uberlupe]

She thought she found someone better and it didn't work out with the new guy.

[allsouls]

They have no heart so they can't regret. They have joy in being a deceiver.

[hesitantpossum]

Your blouse compliments your eyes brilliantly! Stunning as ever!

Thank you for this content.

[barrywhitesavedmylife]

Sorry to sound harsh but that's karmic justice. People these days are so whimsical and flippant with their affections, they want what they can't have, they reject what they can. It's really quite tragic.

I was in a situation late last year/early this year. Woman was whimsical, one minute she was chasing me and being flirtatious, the next she turned into the ice queen. I blocked her, haven't looked back since. This generations sense of entitlement is off the scale

[caroliner]

I’m sure some women, many women dump their bfs when they’re in the final week before their period.
This is a time when many women want to be on their own, feel less desire, may be more sensitive, feel more fear, may feel gender-less, may impulsively react and give bf space for no reason, may reflect and over think things which you wouldn’t at the start of the month.
My daughter dumped her bf during this time of the month.

[morpheus]

Thanks Susan I needed this. I just hope my hard headed DA Ex regrets her decision. There were no signs and I thought everything was going well, guess I was dead wrong. On the surface she sure doesn’t act like she has dumper’s remorse. The problem is that I’m not sure she is emotionally capable of feeling guilty? She is very good at compartmentalizing bad situations and moving on.

[Johnnyroten]

There is definitely more to the story.

[sebsebseb]

Good for him, got dumped for nothing, GOOD FOR HIM, he dodged a bullet, the bullet being a toxic radioactive woman.

[MWille-egnu]

Thank you, Susan. You've helped me thru a very dark time in my life.