Does 'No Contact' Work On Emotionally Unavailable Men?

[SK-nopp]

The EUM will never just wake up one day and realize how great you are, what he has to lose if you walk away. You will not inspire him by telling him your feelings or waiting around for crumbs. He is unavailable at his core and likely has childhood wounds that he refuses to work on. The emotionally unavailable man is usually wounded and unawakened. He will not meet you half way. You’ll have to do all the work and STILL always be afraid because he has 1 foot in 1 foot out the door. Don’t settle! Love yourself ladies, and let him go... this kind of man is an illusion. Good from far, far from good.

[mdmmalou]

Mostly, this kind of men is emotionally available but only for themselves, under their therms. Don't lose your mind to guys who don't give a damn. Don't waste your time thinking: "I need him" or "he needs me" You need YOU, because of a big red flag in front of you..

[difal]

I like the angle you take with these issues. A lot of other videos will focus on why he isnt interested, whereas Helena tells you to ask yourself *Why are you still here for a man that isnt giving you what you want* when you think about it from this angle everything makes more sense and its easier to put yourself first again. Thank you Helena

[moonmissy]

There is no changing an emotionally unavailable man, it is his own issue which he has to work on by himself to change. Move on... I find that when I am usually attracted to emotionally unavailable men is when I am emotionally unavailable myself. Life holds a mirror to you always. Make yourself emotionally available and risk getting a reciprocal relationship commitment. Receiving is being vulnerable too not just giving.

[cuwi]

So true, been on no contact for 1 month. He really came back and said sorry for being rude in the past, he said he wanted to try again to make it work, he said he wanted to try to be calmer when things get rough. But guess what ? 3 weeks after that he started pulled away, started to be "busy" again. And the next week he said it just didnt work. Wow!!!! He was the one who built up the hope again, and he was also the one who threw it apart. Everything just like a game for him.

[christinaescobedo]

Emotionally unavailable are the key words. It’s hard but it’s best to move on.

Men are like buses, another one will eventually come along!

[rebeccabrockway]

Simple. Take your focus off the man who's not available.

[PS-xbhc]

Best thing is to let them go! Not easy but you'll regret if you stay too long

[redroses]

She is saying the truth. I'm in a relationship where he is emotionally unavailable.
We are hitting walls all the time..he is not ready

[jillseitz]

Love the comment - "Why are you there ? "  Don't take crumbs

[Suz]

So true Helena! Emotionally unavailable men are not worth our time. I don't entertain them.

[cassie]

on point...You either deal with him being stoic or just walk away knowing you deserve love and commitment from a man who shows you his true love and direct attention with emotion.

[leaahmed]

Indefinite no contact, move on and if he eventually work on his self and come back ready maybe you will be in the arm of someone else.

[SofiaSupichaya]

Why are you there? << that’s all I needed to hear. Thank you 🙏🏼

[Femininelovevibes]

Not with a narcissist. These types of men punish go away come back beg honeymoon and back to the cycle rinse and repeat.. awful

[zzzzz]

Exactly what happened with me. He came back after breaking up with me only to breakup again. No contact doesn’t work on emotionally unavailable men. The second breakup was much more painful than the first bc of how confusing and cold he was acting. Stay away from emotionally unavailable men period.

[alexandravtensek]

Exactly Helena, the question is, "why are you there?". That's what my best friend Dr John would ask me about my ex Peter Pan who was emotionally unavailable for the 6 years we were together. I didn't understand it and stayed because I thought things would get better. His deceit about living together then breaking his promise was the straw that broke the camel's back. 161 days no contact so I can heal and move on with my life. Definitely don't want him back. Awesome information Helena. 😍

[rachelmoore]

Preach!!! We can't make men do anything they don't want to do

[A-list]

Some men are inexperienced with women thus insecure and feel inadequate about themselves. Set boundaries with direct communication (often things can be resolved with good communication) let him know you like him, and you're open to pace things... however you just don't deal with inconsistent contact.

[jewelsofuniverse]

When someone is emotionally unavailable don’t blame yourself just know it’s something they have to deal with

don’t put blame on yourself for nothing you didn’t do at all emotionally available beings will show you why you operate fine