ARE THEY AVOIDANT, OR SIMPLY NOT INTO YOU?

It’s true there are people who are not that into you and it’s a remarkably safe, compatible, boring and tepid experience. But when it’s an avoidant attacher, the feelings are highly ambiguous at best which is the cause for the confusion people feel where they can both be into you and not into you at any moment’s notice. #avoidantattachment #anxiousattachment #emotionallyunavailable
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[Aufwiedersin]

I sometimes start to thinking in a loop was everything on my mind and go back to his first messages read them again. He was chasing me, scared to loose me even called me his other half.. then he said we were just talking and its in our imagination and end everything. He was into me into certain point but then suddenly changed. He claimed he never changed but he did and it drives me crazy with self doubt.

[RainFall-wzyp]

Isolation is a huge thing for PTSD

1) My life is a horrific nightmare

2) I am completely trapped inside of.

3) Just hell. No escape.

I have been severely brutally raped: my whole life (all 45 years so far)
red hot white burning homicidal rage: surges through my veins
I wish eternal suffering: upon all those whom I loathe
I'm in hell: and there's no escape

This might seem random
but...

I CANNOT
stop obsessing and ruminating

and I have absolutely nobody to talk to about this
and I need to get it off my chest

(and I'm also willing to read responses,
if anyone feels called to respond...)

I had a HORRIBLE therapist

HORRIBLE HORRIBLE HORRIBLE

the worst

but here's the thing...

it's twofold:

1) he's wildly successful
(and I can't for the life of me figure out why or how)

2) I saw him for almost all of 2023,
I was so traumatized when I went to see him,
that I just kept going,
because I had nowhere else to turn...

In the end, he really fucked me up.
Instead of helping me, he traumatized me further.

It's over 10 months now,
and I can't stop obsessing over how he's traumatized me,
and all the money I wasted, etc. etc.

I can file a formal complaint.
But the process seems long and arduous,
and brings me no particular benefits...
It's just that I can use my voice,
and he can potentially get reprimanded...

But if I do this I have to do it soon...

I don't know what to do?

Any thoughts, anyone?

[norswil]

My dear DA ex, oooh boy, yeah no mistaking the “i’m-into-you” feelings. Almost a full year of unrelenting pda and diving into closets and cars to smooch it up, etc. Absolutely horrific behaviour, but probably the most exciting, loved up year of my life. Then the abrupt bu after 2.5 years, I will say though that the attraction and sex maintained the whole way through, just in comparison to other DA accounts I hear where it dies after .5/1 year.