Are You Gaslighting Yourself?

Gaslighting can be internalized and normalized in your self-talk. Here's how to know you're doing that and what to do instead!

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I'm Marshall Burtcher, and if you don't know me, I help codependents break free from therapy and double (and sometimes triple) their happiness and healing fast.

[jesseadreams]

I found your channel at a low point in my life when I was even contemplating suicide. You're like a genius to me when it comes to this stuff. I really can't thank you enough. This video alone has made my body feel calm and at peace again. Thank you so so much!

[HandS-Studios]

I have been feeling like I have been spinning in thoughts and losing my sanity. Then a friend today reminded me about gaslighting and how the toxic environment I have been in has messed with my perception of reality. Thank you for the video

[veer]

The moment this video started I paused to grab my journal. I wrote 3 full pages about this experience, the trauma i've endured and why it makes so much sense that I am gaslighting myself. I am so grateful for this video, it's helping me understand what's happening in my brain.

[rainydayinparis]

I am constantly gaslighting myself I feel like I'm going crazy

[loradietitiannutritionist]

One of the best explanations of gaslighting I’ve watched.

[stephanieg]

very impressed with how accurate this is and how you speak so fluently without reading notes.

[svatisingh]

Oh wow, the first comment here says you're a genius – I was just about to write that! Yes, thank you so much for your content. I've studied many professors, psychologists, coaches, counselors – but there's something very special about the way you break everything down and illuminate things for others. You make it all so simple and straightforward. Thank you 🙏

[TheSecretsOfDreamers]

Hello! I just wanted to comment and say that this video changed my perspective on how I have been treating myself. I thought I was in a healthy place, mentally, but really I have been gaslighting myself this entire time. Thank you for helping to explain what it is, exactly, and showing us ways to combat it. Hope you and your family are well, thanks again!

[philippagrimoire]

Yes I caught myself doing this in 2021. I’m still healing from SA and the guy kept trying to make me think I made it up!

He “took me down a notch” and eventually I started to hear my inner gaslighter showing up in my head telling me I DID make it up but I realised it’s just easier to believe I did make it up than it is to accept that really happened!

I’m about to start therapy on Monday to sort through all this.

I realised last night how terrified and scared I am.

[Tinky]

Wow, that is exactly me from a narcissistic family!

[lynnbilbrey]

It’s not just like “ oh ask yourself how you really feel and you will get an answer” you don’t know at all where all these terrible emotions are coming from I’ve been gaslighting myself for over a year

[serenahilton]

Simply yet brilliantly explained! This video just found me and explains my entire life. Especially the shame and not feeling valid.

[suzannefehr]

OMG. This was so helpful. Thank you...

[LexCraft]

This was such a helpful video and thank u for speaking on this subject! It’s a really hard pattern to go out of but u really provided some clarity so thank you :)

[philippagrimoire]

Yes the shame has shown up lately. I feel it surface when I’m in my bed at night

[swissb]

Fantastic explanation and self-help tips❣️

[lynnbilbrey]

For me I became so confused that like I just felt like my eyes were closed and I had rocks being thrown at me and I had no idea where it was coming from. It was all my ex boyfriend and when I was in the relationship I can’t even really look at things and be like oh what he did that’s so tiny like I feel this huge amount of pain and convinced myself it was something else really bothering me when it was all him

[jesserb]

I’ve been learning a lot about gaslighting the last couple of days, and although the term and explanations make sense, it makes me feel like it’s wrong to change a persons perspective. What if you’re trying to make someone understand that their viewpoint is irrational, or that something they’re doing is hurtful to you? When people talk about gaslighting it makes me feel like o should never question the validity of anything anyone feels or does.

[Donnashaunted]

How do I stop gaslighting myself and others?

[Eyeamthewitness]

Hundreds of videos later, I can't tell if I am the gaslighter or I am being gaslighted