5 Signs You're Gaslighting Yourself

Do you constantly find yourself going back and forth trying to determine whether the hurt you feel is real, or if it’s just all “in your head?” Are you tormented with self-blame and other negative thoughts about yourself?

Being on the receiving end of someone else’s gaslighting can gradually cause a person to gaslight themselves as they internalize the blame and false accusations into negative beliefs about themselves. It is important to be attentive to the way you view yourself and whether it may be self-gaslighting.

DISCLAIMER: This video is intended for educational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose or treat anything. If you are struggling, please seek professional help.

Writer: Syazwana Amirah
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[chynabarbieeeeee]

What's scary is when you realize you gaslight yourself, smh. Self love is such a long journey.

[moonflower]

The hardest part of gaslighting yourself is when you try to be okay, to try to get better because family and reality issues seem just so much bigger, louder, more REAL then your own.
I currently and have been suffering with this most of my life, it doesn’t stop me from having a good time in life the whole time- but it will charge back in randomly and then pull me down for months and months on end. It’s a constant fight to try not to fight yourself.
And it’s okay to lose sometimes, we all do. You’re not alone, part of getting up is falling and hitting the hard ground.
Don’t give up on yourself guys alright?
We’ll figure it out one day.

[NotKloi]

I’ve actually been wanting to learn more about gaslighting, so you basically read my mind! Tysm! ❤️

[DeadbeatGamer]

The reverse of this is when people feel their problems were worse than yours and they dismiss any of your own suffering.

[rotcoric]

0:32 ; Video warning ;; only for educational purposes and not meant to diagnose or treat with anything
0:38 ; blaming yourself [ 0:48 - 1:08 also gives a brief overall example of what self gaslighting is ]
1:16 ; minimizing your own experiences
1:51 ; excusing others when they dont deserve it
2:34 ; believing you’re too sensitive
3:10 ; negative beliefs about yourself
3:55 ; ending

[nickolashessler]

All these points hit home to me, and yet I'm still stuck saying to myself "I'm not really gaslighting myself", "every bad thing I say to myself is actually true", "I really am unworthy of love", etc. Trying to escape my own gaslighting just makes me feel like I'm walking in circles and it feels impossible to make any substantive progress sometimes.

[queso]

Timestamps for rushers:

0:37 - Blaming yourself

1:13 - Minimizing your own experiences

1:51 - Excusing others when they don't deserve it

2:32 - Believing you're "too sensitive"

3:09 - Negative beliefs about yourself

Stay hydrated and eat a snack! 😊

[christinelee]

This is exactly what I went through during my Ph.D. studies. My original supervisor bullied and harassed me, but when I tried to tell people what he was doing to me they all said that 'I imagined it' or 'Are you sure?' and 'You must have misunderstood'. Turns out that several people had complained (before he became my supervisor!) about the exact behaviours that I complained about. And everyone knew that I was telling the truth, but they were all willing to let me go on believing that it was all my imagination. I replaced the asshole with a much better supervisor, I graduated from my Ph. D. studies, and I now know that I am not crazy

[Mordeairayne]

You're videos really help me through my severe depression, thank you for doing what you do.

[chynabarbieeeeee]

I can relate to this so much. I always do this to myself and then tried to blame others for my actions. I'm glad you are actually covering important stuffs like this for people like me or in a similar situation. Thansk psych2go

[benbovard]

Yeah...minimzing my experience is something I do a lot. I don't like attaching the word "traumatic" to my experience because I feel like it pales in comparison to other people's experiences, but then I have to remind myself that I wouldn't act the way I do in relationships if I hadn't gone through what I did. Trust issues, problems with self-image, doubts about self-worth...I sort of put a lid on those feelings for four years throughout high school and college since I wanted to forget it ever happened, but man, does that not work in the long run. It really comes back to haunt you when you least expect it. It took me those four years to recognize what had happened for what it was and stop lying to myself that it was anything different, but all that time I felt as though I didn't deserve to treat it that way because I "had it better" than other people. Lesson learned: treat it for what it is - trauma.

[barelyhere]

Let’s see:

Blaming yourself ✅
Minimizing your own experiences ✅
Excusing others when they don’t deserve it ✅
Believing your to sensitive ✅
Negative beliefs about yourself ✅

Me: I’m fine 😄

[santastic_f]

All of these points described my girlfriend when I first met her, the second I noticed she looked down on herself, I became her supportive friend until I became her supportive boyfriend and now we’re very happy together, she really appreciates that I’m always there for her :)

[kendallcuster]

I didn’t know you could gaslight yourself. I’ve been going to therapy for things that happened while I was in school, and the topic of gaslighting came up. I just wasn’t aware you could do that to yourself. Thank you for explaining

[PBlague]

This has been the thing that I've been struggling with for years now... maybe even my whole life... and it was exactly today(although after a few months of therapy and talking to people) that I realised that I was doing this to myself... and now... amazingly, even though I have not seen any video similar to this on your channel... you make this... it's just... it's like a miracle... I don't know how you guys can come exactly at the right time... but it's just amazing... and I just want to really really thank you!
Thank you for making these videos... and thank you for being soo right on the time lmaoo! Keep on making them, because you make the world a better place!

[neofulcrum]

Me: Today is a good day

Negativity: *I SAID WE FEELING GUILTY*

[khalilahd.]

Oof I felt this one. I feel like this is something I used to do all the time. Taking your feelings seriously and listening to your emotions is so important 🙏🏽💜

[maddigrace]

I remember one time I was so upset at myself I basically just repeated some extremely negative things over and over again. I said things like, "I dont deserve my mom, I dont deserve my brother, I don't deserve my step dad, I don't deserve my bio dad, I don't deserve anybody. I don't deserve to live. I should go kms deep in the forest where no one will find me, where no one will have to pay for funeral, where no one will have to cry over my dead body, where nobody will notice I'm gone. I should apologize for not dying sooner"

That was a rough time. I'm better now, at least a little better.

[kaseyburgess]

This one hit me hard as I highly believed that I’m gaslighting myself and I got that due to bullying and verbal abuse from a family member. However, I’m starting to learn to speak positive to myself and to love myself. Sometimes, you have to be the one to tame your brain. Bless you all.❤️

[linksoni]

This describes me perfectly, i went through a years long toxic friendship that was constantly breaking appart and getting back together, and whenever i talked to someone about it i always made excuses about the person who hurt me, saying maybe i just took it the wrong way, maybe i'm the one making a huge deal out of it, and saying that she didn't trully mean anything she did, she was just in a bad place

even when it ended for good, i only felt guilt, thinking that if i may had been stronger, i could've put up with it and make the relationship work, and i felt worthless afterwards, for many years