Gaslighting | The Hidden Signs

Gaslighting. It's a term you've probably heard before, but the signs can be confusing. In this video, Dr. Ramani Durvasula and MedCircle host, Kyle Kittleson, discuss identify and discuss the hidden signs someone is Gaslighting you.

Topics:
What is gaslighting?
What does gaslighting behavior look like?
Why do narcissists gaslight / what is the goal of a narcissist when they gaslight?
What are the 3 signs someone is gaslighting?
What is deflection?
What impact does this type of emotional manipulation have on someone's mental health?
What should someone do if they are experiencing this type of narcissistic abuse?
What SHOULDN'T someone do when they are experiencing gaslighting?
Why don't narcissists like getting caught?
What is the #1 surefire sign that you are being gaslighted?

[zandrarose]

Best response to a narcissist is none. No contact ever again. Ghost them.

[Sckvictor]

The thing with the Narcissist, you never get to have a conversation with them. They deflect, project, spin, crazy-make etc. until you have no choice than to abandon the conversation. You CANNOT win with a Narcissist!

[cookiepie]

I'm currently going through this and I'm the one looking crazy. I'm the one lashing out, because I'm not being heard..and I'm getting really tired of talking and begging for change.

[kouranko]

The person denying your experience doesn't even have to say anything in words, they can say it in expressions, inappropriate laughter when you express your feeling, any way that negates you. I just realised this is what someone has been doing to me.

[ko]

I hate when someone says "I'm sorry you feel that way" instead of sincerely apologizing for doing something wrong.

[luzcastro]

I played this in front my narcissistic parents and they started yelling at me haha

[muradatlixanov]

I wish I have had someone telling me all this before I got married. My husband of 25 years used to behave like a dictator and all the red flags were there. Emotional abuse is a serious problem in a relationship. From emotional abuse, cheating started.Thank you *Coherent Recovery* for posting this time to get me all the evidence.

[eoncatalyst]

There is one red flag when you’re dealing with a narcissist, when you tell him your opinion, and he starts judging you by telling how wrong you are and then starts lecturing you.
There is a huge difference between “I disagree” and “you are wrong, your opinion is wrong”.

If you somehow got into conversation like that. Take a notice at this red flag.

[StarfleetUnderground]

My mom's boyfriend had me in a chokehold up against the wall and my feet were not touching the floor and I couldn't breath. My mom and sister had to pull him off of me and we all fell to the floor. Not 10 mins later my malignant narcissistic mother told me that her boyfriend was more a part of her family then I would ever be (mind you I'm adopted). Ever since than my malignant narcissistic mom swore that event never happened and I was making up the whole thing up. I disowned her because of that and went no contact.

[umutgames]

That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him or her so you just dealt with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one-- living and seeing him everyday anticipating when will he or she do it again. Your videos are incredibly well done. No critique, thanks for doing this *Future Imperative Corps*

[savcaltun]

Saying “thank you” is not enough to show my gratitude to you *Coherent Recovery* . It’s my honor to work under your guidance. Thank you for everything. Under your guidance, everything seems so easy. I truly appreciate your effort and advice that you give to us. You are a great support for us. All your hard work and dedication have paid off. You are an inspiration to other Expertise like you. Thanks for your great job. I’m proud of you getting access to my spouse phone! Thanks💯

[cathywolfe]

There’s only one way to fight a narcissist effectively. With your hat. You grab it, wave goodbye with it as you run out the door and slam it shut behind you. And move on!

[jessicahuston]

Trying to have an adult conversation with a narcissist is like beating your head into a brick wall

[carolyntorres]

Anytime I spend time around them, I end up feeling like something is wrong with me… like I’m weird, or going crazy, or disliked… it’s very isolating and unsettling. My anxiety levels shoot up and I feel like I am unlikable. I feel an undercurrent of tension and rejection and contempt that I can’t explain. Like I have done something very wrong, but can never pin down what. I also end up talking too much or sharing too much, then worrying that somehow, my words will be used against me in the future. It’s happened before. I’m blamed for things I don’t think or feel. It’s exhausting and rips into my already fragile self-esteem.

[csco]

*”I don’t know why you are taking this so personally!”*
...continues to personally insult and minimize you.

[shafaqali]

I suffered the classical signs as dr ramani says, wanting to record, wanting a witness to be present, confusion, selfdoubt and second guessing, almost became insane.

[emirkk]

First of all. Thank you for making the work environment so friendly and taking your responsibility seriously and completing the work gracefully! You deserve so much. He does what he says he is going to do and his ethics are of the highest quality. *Future imperative corps*

[mrd]

Another thing a narcissist will do is to accuse someone of not being over something when in fact it was never resolved. For example, they emotionally abused you a few months ago and try to accuse you of the offense. Nothing was ever resolved a few months ago, but when you try to bring up the offense in order to salvage the relationship, they will accuse you of being bitter, angry, unforgiving and say "oh my god, you're still hanging on to that"! That's a sign to move on and forget about trying to resolve anything with them. What they are really trying to do is avoid dealing with their own emotionally abusive methods in interpersonal relationships. To verify it's not you, just watch how they relate to others because they simply cannot help themselves.

[KellyKristin]

gaslighting is so damaging. The good thing is once you learn what it is, you can heal, validate your reality and move on. DO the work to raise your self worth, that is where the magic is.

[savasdural]

Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is a partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you *Coherent Recovery* for making me see target phone activities