Are You Gaslighting Yourself in Relationships?

Are you gaslighting yourself in relationships?

Gaslighting is not just an abusive behavior that is done to you but gaslighting is also a behavior you can do to hurt yourself. Learn how to spot signs of gaslighting and one simple strategy to stop gaslighting yourself so you can start to heal and build self trust.

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00:00 Introduction
00:29 What is gaslighting?
00:42 In relationships, gaslighting yourself looks like this
00:55 People who use gaslighting are narcissistic or alcoholics
01:20 Reasons you may be gaslighting yourself
01:43 How does gaslighting start?
02:27 You may not recognize gaslighting with narcissistic or toxic people
03:14 When feelings get denied it hurts self-esteem
03:46 Gaslighting examples
04:10 How to stop gaslighting
04:39 One tool to stop gaslighting yourself
05:37 Not honoring your feelings

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Michelle is a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management, specialist. She’s been featured in The Daily Positive, BossMom, Psych Central, The Good Men Project, and Your Tango just to name a few. Her relationship recovery helps people go from relationships that don’t serve them, to learning how to trust themselves and create mutually satisfying connections that work. Michelle loves creating online products and courses on relationship skills, codependency recovery, anger management, conflict resolution, self-esteem, and self-trust.
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[Gothicforever]

Omg I was thinking yes actually your truth can be wrong. Based on our trauma we can misread people sometimes but really we do know

[reneerose]

This is so on point. I was told he drank bc I was a bit...or he hurt me I wouldn't listen

[RoadRunnergarage]

I care too much about what others think of me .. What others think of me is not my business... But I still care too much about what others think of me anyway.

[jameswarda]

So good. Had never seen this topic addressed before, especially in this compassionate way.

[suefinnerty]

Another great video Michelle! "The other person is blaming us and making us feel like we're the problem". Speaks volumes! I feel anger in my body when somebody does this to me. Probably from my childhood and family of origin. Was conditioned that others' needs and opinions were far more important than mine. Was shamed with comments like "Who do you think you are?". Has taken a long time to unlearn these toxic messages.

[juliehale]

I think that dysfunction causes a person to focus too much on what is going on around them. Thank you for pointing out that we need to get in touch with our truth within our bodies. I denied myself so much as a teen that I developed an eating disorder.

[diannewelsh]

I always ignored those feelings in my body... much to my own detriment. I now pay close attention.

Thanks again for explaining these things in such a clear and concise way.. so helpful!

[juliemcmillian]

Another Excellent video... I was a "truth teller" growing up and everything you said is true. Wish I could blast this video from the mountain tops for all to hear and learn from. Thank you for posting this!!!

[YOU-niter]

Thank YOU! For this & confirming that our truth for OurSelves can never be wrong! This will now help me ENORMOUSLY!
So grateful you’re helping us with your great work!

[shenedadenney]

I’m the truth teller and find myself playing that role as an adult. I question myself constantly is it me? But when I dissect the situation on paper- I see it clearly. Next day….. I gaslight myself!

[triciadevries]

I get my Truth from scripture. Jesus tells me that I am loved, excepted, not abandoned and victorious.
Thanks for the video!

[Mindsetolympics]

It’s really hard as a codependent to know what is taking accountability versus being too responsible for a relationship.😢 It can be quite hard to discern that in certain situations I’ve fallen into