ADHD Life Lesson 28

Can you relate? - lesson 28

ADHD Life Lessons I Wish someone told me after getting diagnosed, number 28/50

If you have ADHD you will often feel like you don’t deserve your success or that you’re a fraud because of constantly needing to hide your symptoms. You think any promotion must come down to luck and compliments must be fake because how can you be deserving of what you have when you actually have so many struggles that people don’t know about? It’s more than just self-doubt because you don’t believe your own abilities and you may start to question your whole existence.

This is when I learned about the connection between imposter syndrome and adhd and how to cultivate a sense of self-worth. I realized that ADHD often leads to feeling like an imposter, because you become very skilled at pretending to fit and that It’s crucial to become self-aware that you’re nevertheless worthy of success, by logically going through your achievements and finding environments that appreciate your ADHD strengths. Although I still catch myself dismissing positive feedback, I now celebrate my successes, which has finally given me a sense of belonging.

Lesson 28: Value your uniqueness

Disclaimer: All my content is based on my own experience and/or research/observations from licensed professionals. Just because you do these things, doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. ADHD behaviours are not exclusive to ADHD. If you think you might have it, please look to get officially diagnosed by a professional.

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[hey_thatsmyname]

Explaining that masking is an underlying reason for imposter syndrome just unlocked something for me. Thank you so much.

[Infrared]

Oh honey, this is me. When I was in my late 40s I was formerly diagnosed at an ADD clinic. I was put on anxiety meds and then a stimulant and it transformed my life! I finally pursued my dream of being a photojournalist. I couldn’t believe I began to edge out and surpassed my local news photogs I thought were so above me.

My clients loved me and I was in high demand.

My jealous husband began to gaslight and sabotage me. I lost my edge and confidence and thought everyone had figured out I was a fraud.

The psychosis hurt my cognitive abilities and I had to give up my passion because I could no longer process my thoughts.

We ADHDers are super vulnerable to mental abuse.

I'm 64 and divorced for 10 years. I'm just now crawling out of the shame thanks to dedicated online life coaches like you.

Please keep making these videos! You know just how to sequence your visuals and words. This is your gift to us and it really, really helps us and gives us validation and...hope!

[austinhomant]

As an ADHD in my 30s and working at a higher level in a corporate environtment. "Nah, they just havent figured out im a fraud yet. Im just lucky".

Ill get out of this mindset damn it.

[janenerbeaner]

My fav old meme is a pic of grafitti on a wall where someone wrote "Question Everything", and then below someone else scrawled "But Why?" 😅

[TaylorMae]

this video is just perfect. i wish that it reaches as many people as possible that need to hear it as much as i did.💕

[ramanderson]

I'm 63 years old and I found your channel. My heart is aching as I watch and hear all this information, wondering how I could live this long and not know what was happening to me, I didn't know it had a name, I thought it was normal. I'm hoping it's not too late for me to understand and adjust.

[shakilashanmugam]

You make me feel heard.

It’s a lonely life ( in our heads) for people like us.

Thank you.

[Haruhi]

You don't know how much I needed this right now😩

[rawat]

After 10 years being only just able to reach a point of accepting success, this hits the spot.

Not sure if its healthy but I had to create a character who is confident and can take action. So yes there is still always the impending sense of imposter syndrome but I have now a way to brush it off.

[miniwagon]

As a teenager that has been diagnosed with adhd for a while, I tend to create imaginary worlds to help me cope with something that I haven’t figured out what it is yet. I use these imaginary storylines to help me focus with work( homeschool, chores and basic needs ). I always decline compliments, awards, and anything that is a ‘gift’. I don’t mean to, but I do and I don’t know how to change that. I also still feel like I am not deserving of success itself.

[LonlyŁolf]

I'm more excited about the Gdańsk mug than the lesson

[shellyaubey]

I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 40s.
Something I've never understood is how some folks with ADHD have been able to channel it into (by all appearances of your surroundings) a successful life while others have never been able to leap that hurdle and are paralyzed by it.

[NicolesMinnesotaOrganics]

This content is gold.
You are saving lives here man

[allblack]

That's also called imposter syndrome .

It seems to be one of the characteristics that cross between adhd and autism.

[sharonisalwaysfreezing]

I just had this EXACT conversation with my boyfriend. How I often feel like I'm terrible at everything and feel like I will never have a succesful career. But, on a positive note: his encouragment makes me feel better about myself :)

[bhanacikova]

You have no idea how much you are helping people by doing this videos. Thanks to you I understood my issues and dealing with them.

[chuuyanakahara]

Almost bursted into tears just hearing those words at the end. This has really resonated with me. Thank you. So validating and wise. 🙏💕

[janettebiggs]

I honestly don’t believe people like me, despite them telling me they do. They think I am awesome, all I see is the defects.

[CasualGamerPlays]

I was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD in my first year of college but, i knew i had ADD/ADHD in 8th grade. Anyways, i always felt like i was cheating when i was successful and that was due to being able to focus on my work after taking medication. I don't take it now because of how the medication made me feel but, i never feel worthy of my successes and always question if i deserve the praise my friends and family give me.

[ursacubej]

I came accross your videos yesterday and am in shock to realize I exibit the majority of behaviours you mention. I have felt like a looser and incompetent, super frustrated with myself for most of my life. I also carry a lot of guilt and selfloathing because I feel like I disappoint people when I can not deliver what they expect of me, no matter how hard I try.
I have never considered I had ADHD, maybe because I am a wiman and it shows up differently jn men and women.
Watching your videos caused a shock, relief and sadness, all at the same time.
I want to thank you with all my heart for your posts and want you to know you are doing an amazing job to help people improve their lives.
I wish you all the best in your journey of life
❤❤❤