THIS Is What Trauma Bonding With A Narcissist Does To A Decent Person

If you've ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know how difficult it can be to break free. Narcissists are experts at Trauma Bonding, which is why so many people find themselves trapped in these toxic relationships for years. In this video I'll explain what Trauma Bonding is and how it affects decent people who get too close to narcissists. If you're struggling to leave a narcissistic relationship, this video is for you.

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[stevenzinn]

Intermittent reinforcement kept me hanging on for years had me believing everything I was dying for was just around the evil

[sandrawright]

Yes..its horrible and I'm not the same woman I was before I married him. I have physically, mentally, and spiritually, went down hill.

[CLHS]

I’m suffering PTSD under care for it due to the ex a covert narcissist traumatizing and terrorizing me.
NAMAslay!

[lucybraun]

For me, a big challenge is fixing my access switch to allow newcomers in. My having been connected to so many toxic people, and I don't want to leave the comfort of isolation. Like ever again!

[suejohnson]

You never knew what personality you was going to get one minute to the next. It's not my fault . Happy 😊 Sunday Rebecca & to everyone here. Thank you Rebecca for you being here with all your videos & thank you everyone here with all y'all's comments here . I Hoped you Rebecca & everyone here to have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 day.

[LifeChangePlans]

It was not my fault. Took a long time to understand this. When I worked that out things got better.

[carolineblechasseur]

Great video. Left my narc husband 4 months ago. On top of it extreme insults and yelling. He would tell me that the whole world hated me that I was a fake. I worked my derrière off for this guy. These videos are life saving for me. Thank you.

[robertswift]

as an empath myself, , i never experienced anything like it and i have dated many women in my life, , , i now know what a rape victim must feel like since my soul was literally stolen....i am a survivor, , focus on self healing and stay strong, , you are not alone, , , , and stay no contact from these people, , , they are dangerous.

[Manyfires_BurningBrightly]

Blessings Rebecca 🙏🏻❤️
I'm so glad you addressed the physiological component in the bonding. So often, survivors are well informed about emotional attachments and (through no fault of theirs) go to therapy and can't understand why they aren't "getting better".

While emotionally they are in check, visceral responses keep flooding them leaving them "drowning" in the sea of confusion in which they find themselves..

Best advice: Find that therapist who has specialties with narcissistic behavior!

Survivors have the authority to interview ANY potential therapist.

Do it> research qualifications, interview those who fit the criteria, only choose the one with which you "click" not only because they passed the snuff test but because you can feel calm, comfortable and confident being your true self in their presence.

God bless you Rebecca and all who read this comment today.
❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻.

[Jim_Berry]

If only I would’ve known this 30 years ago, life would have been so different. Because of you and a couple others on You Tube, I’ve learned that I was targeted by an older woman in my early 20’s and I’ve payed a very heavy price at the hands of this narcissist. And it’s still ongoing.
It’s not my fault, but I need help.

[amberfuchs]

Rebecca! Amazing video!!

It is not my fault!!

[cherylsibson]

I've done a lot of work on myself, it's not my fault.

[yukio_saito]

It's no use working with therapists who are unfamiliar with abusive relationships. My former counselor was a trauma therapist, but she was not sure of toxic dynamics. I terminated the therapy after she gaslighted me.

[lauraschoeller]

My question is this. Situation: What if you know that if you receive a reward (gift) and he expects to receive sex in return (certain acts).. You stop wanting those gifts The anxiety builds because it's something you don't want to do. What does the brain look like then. I have had such anxiety of the anticipation of what I had to do, it got me sick. I never wanted any of his "gifts". We are now in the middle of a very ugly divorce. I finally couldn't take it any more. And "it's all my fault". This has been years in the making. I was trauma bonded when my kids were little. But now that they are 27 and 23, I am done. So done. He walked out 3 times and I came running after him. This last time he walked out, I shut the door. And he said I left. He lives in his own world of lies. I'm done.

[dianevitale]

If I had the money and the means I wouldn't need professional help, I would have divorced my covert narc husband and ran like Hell

[yichispiritual]

I felt anxious when waiting for the result from a job interview and calmed down immediately when they told me I didn’t get the job. Same in trauma bonding in relationships. It is not about the relationship result nor the process of learning more about the person and myself. It is about the anticipation during unavailability.

[Lglaze]

It is NOT MY FAULT! I have recovered but it took a long time.

[nancydowling]

It is not my fault. 'Physiological level' is another phrase that I've also been using recently, because some days it truly takes every fiber of your being to navigate the insanity that they bring to the table. And then eventually, every fiber of your being is so strained, hence the fatigue and the hopelessness. When something reaches your brain though it's really hard to flush out. Thank you for what you do!

[popmonika]

My own experience was general confusion and simply wanting an explanation (that made sense) about their behavior towards me.

For example, what was your point to be nice and then suddenly go Jekyll and Hyde on me and then pretend nothing happened??

Also, why can't you admit simple things that you do??

And when I do try and walk away from it all ... Why did you find that offensive??

But once I understood their behavior and the patterns it all made sense. Although the emotional trauma still haunts me.

[ladyvirgo]

Tears. It's not my fault.
My husband discarded me after 12 years, he's currently shacked up with the secretary from his work.
They will never be alone to heal.
Thanks for this. I needed to hear this, this morning