Why don't narcissists get the help they need?

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[hgd]

They literally don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, in fact, they believe there’s something wrong with you.

[NarcSurvivor]

It’s too painful for them to accept their issues, so instead they avoid accountability by blaming their victims.

[liambraithewaite]

'I'm not the narcissist; if anyone's the narcissist, it's you' - the narcissist

[makaylahollywood]

They think everyone else is the problem.

[ClassicRock-SER]

I believe MOST Narcissist don’t think they need help.

[tabbylivvy]

They have to want help, but they’re too busy GASLIGHTING and JUSTIFYING THEIR ACTIONS; no matter how bad they are. So sad!! 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[Niles-Guy]

Getting help requires self reflection, atonement, and accepting the truth. Something a narcissist can NEVER do nor face because they would be forced to acknowledge that all this time they were the monsters in the manipulationship. They are emotionally undeveloped people who lack the ability to process pain nor understand the full impact of their decisions. It’s just easier for them to create a character and pretend rather than face reality .

[kwigley]

Because society enables and rewards their awful behavior! Lundy Bancroft sums it up best when he speaks about how they turn everything around on the abused. It's way too easy to let them bully everyone else out of fear of becoming a target. We need to Collectively STAND UP to these bullies!

[strugglingmillennial]

They have the emotional intelligence of a toddler so they have no self-awareness. If they have no self-awareness then why would they get help? As others pointed out, it’s always someone else’s fault.

[barb]

My husband agreed to get therapy "once his insurance started at his new job" and when that time came, I saw panic flicker across his face. He then projected the entire mess onto me and the grand discard began.

[chocolatemousseslice_]

Because they don't think they need any help. Everyone else is the problem and needs the help though, obviously.

[lucyharris]

I can answer this before watching. They don’t think they need help.

[ooostarbrryooo]

For every narcissist there's a few enablers. My dad always tries to blame everyone else when you hold him accountable for abusive behaviors. Meanwhile, here comes my mom always cleaning up his messes, explaining "what he meant", and excusing his behaviors. 🙃

[jaykaycee]

Why do I think narcissists don't get the help they need?
My soon-to-be-ex-husband thinks he doesn't help from ANYONE. He only went to the doctors when it was a dire need. We went to marriage counseling and towards the end, he asked ME (the one who was emotionally and financially abused our entire married life) if the counseling was helping me change. Um, WHAT?

[glizzard]

My narcissist is perfect. In fact, he spent a few hours "soul-searching" and came to the conclusion that he has no issues to work on. Rather, all of our problems are 90% (that's right) my fault. The other 10% was due to chance, but absolutely none of the blame for our problems belonged with him. Jaw drop.

[Nancy-ywrr]

My ex doesn't make any excuses for not getting help; he doesn't see anything wrong with his behavior. He believes every horrible thing he does and says is justified, and he says so.

There is no epiphany for narcissists no matter how much chaos and real destruction they bring down upon themselves and their families. They truly live in an alternate reality.

[louizad]

Because, as he himself used to say, they “didn’t do anything wrong.” It’s always everyone else’s fault. I might also add that the occasional try to placate others was met with “I think that therapist doesn’t like me” to excuse not going back.

[lasphynge]

There's this snarky saying that says "When you're dead, you don't know you're dead, it's only difficult for others. It's the same when you are stupid" ... I'd replace "stupid" with "narcissistic". It is precisely the core issues of narcissism that make them so impervious to feedback, self awareness, introspection etc. Even if there existed a free magic pill that could fix the problem in one take, I'm not even sure many of them would consider taking it.

[lee-anndixon]

Dealing with narcissistic people my whole life from narcissistic mother and her golden child to abusive relationships. They believe that they are better than everyone else and nothing is their fault

[maryellendelong]

My narcissistic soon-to-be ex-husband will never get help. I am so thankful to be divorcing him. The sooner he is out of my life, the better.