Why Narcissists HATE When You Stop Reacting to Them

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Why narcissists hate when you stop reacting; respond don't react, when you go no contact, when you abandon the narcissist, when you take your power back from narcissistic abuse, when you no longer are emotionally affected by narcissists rage or anger, narcissists use anger to control you, narcissists regulate their emotions through you, empowering yourself after narcissism

[PeterAcrat]

This is why a healthy relationship with anyone narcissistic is a No-Win for peaceful people.
Get out; Stay out.
Find someone authentic who thinks and feels more deeply, and values stability and their personal growth.

[peterknyk]

The narcissists anger and bullying increases when I do not or try to not acknowledge her or her existence....her need for "attention" is so overwhelming....she will use just about anything in her "bag of tricks" to let me know how angry or hateful she is....

[crencottrell]

I will ALWAYS remember years ago I was standing outside in a church courtyard, minding my own business, looking at some bushes. A covert narc I had drama with stood next to me and stared at me for 15 seconds without blinking. I guess she thought I was supposed to instantly stop what I was doing to acknowledge her. As I kept looking at the bushes, I could feel hostility coming from her the longer she stared at me. A few minutes later, I slowly turned around and saw her staring me down 60 ft away with her shoulders hunched like she was trying to get a reaction...I just stared at her and smiled and then she turned her back to me as fast as possible 😯😅🤔

[izawaniek]

It is very important not to explode which is enabling them to regulate through us. It is being CALM and NON- reactive that is absolutely SAFE not when we explode which is the narcisists aim to later be able to blame us for being agressive or irrational.

[ritadoran]

When I'm doing zero to argue or fight he would rage out of no place and it was very intimidating

[LadyLibra]

They hate because they know they don’t have control over you anymore

[chryselene]

Ah! So starve the beast. If you starve the beast, after a while, they will see that you are no longer a source of the sustenance that they crave. It's like they feed off of your heart - your soul.

[MandiMomOfChannel]

Thank you for this 🙏🙏 This is so true! A while back, I saw on a different channel that "if you stop reacting they'll stop yelling". And that's such a lie! I was so confused because everyone in the comments was agreeing. But my malignant narcissist rages way more if I'm quiet. I really appreciate you bringing this to light!

[rvh]

This is exactly what happens. You stop reacting and grey-rock or ignore, and then yelling turns into cabinets slamming, doors slamming and stuff getting kicked or thrown across the room. And you're just sitting there, holding on to your composure for dear life. I checked out a long time ago. Heart breaks for my three kids.

[Nick-csyc]

It takes beyond extreme discipline to deal with an ADULT TODDLER, aka a narc!!

[ziplocktheimpostor]

Just do what they do best ignore em...
Their rage is their own undoin and becomes their own sufferin

I learned to Just stand my own true ground....

Never let fear of em dictate your lifestyle etc

Simply realise your own authencity is prio 1#

[danielfisher]

I used to pour my heart out to a girl i loved and had feelings for through messages and she was horrible back to me.... i started realising every nice word i ever wrote was to myself. I was writing to myself. Im amazing, i can do anything i set my mind to etc..
Word after word which was nice was to me.
And her words to me were horrible.
She was writing to herself.
I feel good about who i am.
Hense the thought 'return to sender'
My love returned.
Her hate returned.
Choose your words wisely.
👍

[isiahwashington]

It is a life of suffering. How to handle the suffering is to 1) never react 2) ask for nothing 3) know this is temporary and some day you will be free 4) start living a completely independent life. They will then realize they have no power. They can try to divorce and you will be free but have costs or if a so called friend will become bored with you. Either way focus on self control, accept that life will be miserable but temporary. Pray every day for strength and to do Gods will.

[michellevelasco]

This is So True and perfectly said. If at all possible do the work to reprogram your subconscious mind so you can keep moving forward.

[johnmcvicar]

This Short-clip reminds Us, To be aware, that Narc's need to manage Their inner-dysregulation, through Your emotions. Expect Narc to use every trick in the book, especially now, as We Enter the Trickiest Time of Year (Holiday Season). Ounce of prevention, is worth a pound of cure. Good Timing, Thank you.

[feliciadunlap]

There is a belief out there that narcs choose people because of their empathy. If this were true, then we wouldn’t also be seeing narcs get together with other narcs, borderlines, and sociopaths. Narcs like reactivity, empathy would be a bonus. If we stop reacting to narcs, they will eventually get bored and go away.

[natashaevsimon]

Narcissistic Abusers do break the law though

[julietamalo]

I can't thank you enough for bringing this topic to light, Michele. Have a wonderful day and God bless you 🙏💐🎉

[rodvan-zeller]

Another excellent video, thank you.
What you describe is what we call an "operant conditioning feed back loop".
When you finally explode you reward the narc's behavior, when you don't you get punished by the narc for your behavior.

[jane-ewjh]

When u react u will think u r a problem when they ghost and u will look crack and when u dont react u will see them ghosting but ul know u r not a problem