How To Recover From Narcissistic Mothers | Marisa Peer

Having a narcissistic mother can have a devastating impact on you, even in adulthood.

Most people don't know how to cope, let alone begin to heal from the destructive damage done. As a result, you can get stuck in the same pattern and emotional triggers for years—feeling like you've tried every trick in the book with her, but nothing seems to work...

Watch to find out how you can minimize the pain of having a narcissistic mother.


An internationally award-winning qualified hypnotherapist with advanced certificates in hypnotherapy from the Hypnotism Training Institute of Los Angeles. Marisa has completed additional studies in hypno-healing, advanced hypnotherapy, medical hypnotherapy, and Gestalt analysis.

Having undertaken further studies at the Proudfoot School of Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy and the Atkinson Ball College of Hypnotherapy, Marisa has dedicated the last three decades to researching, testing, and applying the most beneficial principles of hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, NLP, CBT, and neuroscience.

The result of over 30 years of careful and rigorous study, Marisa’s unique Rapid Transformational Therapy®️ (RTT®️) has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide to overcome their own personal challenges and lead happier, more fulfilling lives.

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[SerafStar]

Sounds easy but my mother will never admit to any abuse, she keeps calling me crazy whenever I say anything that would make her look bad in her mind she really believes that she’s perfect.

[blissyogi]

Oh no, you can’t talk through issues with a narcissistic parent. No point in even trying. There is no way to “fix” that relationship. One can only interact with them on the same level you do with complete strangers… no personal info or feelings shared with them ever! Keep them at an arms distance always!

[AD-vejt]

One can never have a logical conversation with a narcissist. Trying to talk your feelings with them will mostly end up with more hurts. They will invalidate you and stab you on your past wounds.
Maintain as much as distance.

[nivineshaar]

That sounds too perfect, a conversation with my narcistic mother about my feelings makes me feel 10x worse

[autumndickson]

I've had an idea that my mom is a narcissist, but recently it's become so abundantly clear that I can't believe it's taken me so long to come to terms with it.

She doesn't like that I'm starting to stand up for myself, and set boundaries. She is literally the only one who is upset with me trying to take care of my own family. I feel so validated now that I can point at things she has done to me over the years and say to myself, "she did this because she's a narcissist, not because you did something wrong."

[solemniti]

Oh how I needed this! My narcissistic mother and my flying monkey siblings gave me a hellish upbringing. I moved to a new country in adulthood, and her flying monkey tried to move here to spy on me. Flying monkey sister failed, and they are both raging at me. My mother is the meanest person I have ever met. Neglected, bullied, abused me all my life and drove all my friends away. When I see mothers being kind to their kids, when I see people talking about their trust and closeness to their mums, it is so foreign to me.

[Unitedflyier]

When you go no contact with your mother it means you have to be prepared to walk away from all your family as they will hear how it was all your fault and how you upset her. A narcissist has no boundaries.

[peacocklava]

Personally, this didn't work for me. My abusive mother would DARVO - deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. Any discussion would give her an opportunity to gaslight me, distress me, and gave her insight into my weak points. She enjoyed the suffering these conversations caused. Best thing you can do with an abuser is go no contact.

[marcosgomes]

I feel like creating a survival group of narcissistic mothers and fathers, because we are alone, so we could create an artificial "family" to survive in this chaotic world.

[bq]

Dr Ramani, Narcissim Expert advises the DEEP technique when dealing with a Narcissist:
D- Do NOT Defend
E- Do NOT Explain
E- Do NOT Engage
P- Do NOT Personalise

If you do any of these things you just walk away with ANOTHER invalidation WOUND.

[NadinePanici-zhtp]

I realized my mother was a covert malignant narcissist after her death at 95. I was her FULLTIME caretaker for 5 years until her death. I am the only living member of my on both sides of my family. I had an older sister who was so brilliant she was a member of MENSA. But she was fat. My mother never let her forget it. She had 13 plastic surgeries including a gastric bypass. My sister became an alcoholic and opiate addict. She never married or had children and killed herself at 55. I aam 71 now and also alone. I chose to never have children either. My mother was beautiful charming and a very successful executive. People adored her...I now learned why I have no self esteem. No boundaries and was called everyones doormat. Unfortunately there is no one left alive who knew her to talk about thiis with. Thank you to all the people who comment because it makes me feel I am not alone. I am kind generous compassionate and empathetic. I rescue dogs for they are pure love and pure joy.❤

[sparklingloveandlight]

My parents said "you had a good childhood".. Even when I bring that up emotions and feelings get invalidated. They won't listen. I tried in person, letters, everything

[suzannemaroney]

As a child the nasty words weren’t actually said, but it was in their actions of not giving hugs, or attention, or the disgusting looks I had gotten…💔

[mieksdoor]

The sentence 'Mom, I just want to love you more', it makes me sick to think about saying that to my mother. I don't feel any love. Only the everlasting guilt, loyalty and duty

[simplyjessica]

I think it was the third grade when my Narcissistic Mother said to me "I love you but I don't like you, I don't like who you are". Thank you for your videos

[明亮的水]

I stopped speaking with my mom. I still struggle to believe that I deserve to be loved.

[lisachismar]

Yes. My mother would rather buy me what she wants.

[mercedesminguell]

i cant believe that it took me 50byeats to realize my mom is Narcissistic and im glad that i never treated my daughter like that

[emacarvalho]

My mother acts like an angel to others but me she is something else. And plays the victim. I tried talking to her about what she does to me but she always finds a way to victimise herself and turns people against me.

[theskinnystallion]

Ive been wondering if my mom is a narcissist for a while. I confronted her about being a narcissist for the first time last night and it went exactly how I thought it would. It confirmed everything I was thinking. She immediately played the victim and told me her whole life story about how she struggled to raise me and did everything she could. She just refused to own up to anything. She blames me for my reactions to the things she does when I’m in pain. How am I supposed to react to pain? I told her she wasn’t there for me emotionally as a child and no matter how I explain my experience, she just can’t understand why I would say those things to her. I recorded the conversation because I’m always convincing myself that she’s not that bad and I always forget these types of conversations but now I have it to listen to whenever I start feeling guilty again for cutting her out of my life. I have a whole family of narcissists and people with mental health problems that don’t think they have any and it’s so heartbreaking. I cry everyday. My mom told me last night that everybody is disposable to me so I asked her, “ do you genuinely believe I want to have the relationship that I have with my family? Do you think I want to be alone in the world?” And she said yes.. I saw her for the first time when she said that because if only she knew the hurt her and my family have caused. I’ve been diagnosed w general anxiety, clinics depression and now possibly ptsd according to my therapist (not yet diagnosed) I can’t wait for my guilt to be gone and for me be completely healed 🥺