Revenge healing after a narcissistic relationship

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[timothygenaw]

No revenge is needed. Narcissists are miserable behind closed doors- never satisfied, critical, envious, negative. That must be a hard way to live.

[shelleyd]

Here is one. He told me to “shut up” so I am speaking out. I will become a singer and a speaker. God gave me a voice and a gift.

[emmalee]

"That's DOCTOR Ramani, bitch"
Epic 🙌...this is why we love you, you are real, relatable, and remind us to stay strong and show respect to those who deserve us.

[nefarioussagittarius]

I think the best revenge you can get on a narcissist is when you live your life and leave them behind for good. They draw so much of their validation from convincing themselves that you need them. Literally the worst thing you can do is prove you don’t.

[aboriginaleveything]

We all wanted revenge for what these dogs put us through. The best revenge is becoming a better version of you moving forward. The narcissist wanted to destroy us. The fact we are here and survived! Is the best revenge.

[peteanderson]

The best revenge is a life well lived and also giving back to those who have showed up when you really needed support. Ironically I also think this is the best form of gratitude to those who helped you.... a life well lived - because that is what people who care about you will want for you and giving back because you've survived and know how hard it is. I quietly go about both these things... working on a life well lived and giving back.
Thanks Ramani
Pete

[NarcSurvivor]

When you start healing from everything the narcissist put you through, it is the worst revenge you can take on them. They become very envious and jealous of you.

[antoinette]

My malignant narcissist ex-husband laughed at me when we moved to France (his country) and although I did not speak French at the time; I told him I wanted to learn French well enough to practice law there. I was already an attorney in the United States. I did learn French well enough to be hired as a General Counsel for a French corporation and I was able to divorce the narcissist and still stay in France and financially support myself and my son. My best revenge was for me to live well and far away from the narcissist!!!

[anniejuan]

The best revenge is complete and utter indifference toward the narcissist(s) in your life.

[sharonkingston]

Feeling Indifferent toward toxic Narcissists is sweet revenge!

[ashfran]

When I was preparing for college, my mother's husband (the narcissist) felt the need to tell me that I wouldn't make it through college, that it would be too demanding for me, or I'm just not smart enough.
I was quite the academic in high school, but I was too young to realize my capabilities, and his manipulation worked.
I'm in my 30s now, and I'm working towards my PhD in Criminal psychology.
I plan to give my mother a copy of my dissertation.

[williamallen]

My "revenge healing" was to quietly exit the relationship and to limit all conversations to polite exchanges one would have with a stranger. The biggest revenge is making sure they know that their narcissistic tendencies are known and will no longer work: I see the naked wizard behind the curtain and he is Gollum.

[fishliver]

"You'll always be big, even if you lose weight."

Currently, I've lost 168 pounds and am listening to this while training for a half marathon.

"You won't make it without my money and you damn well know it!"

Yesterday I interviewed for a job
and was hired for a position with more responsibility and pay than what I applied for.

"You're all about drama!"
I was recently asked to lead a working group on how to foster communication between co-parents based on the drastic turnaround that I've made with a very contentious relationship in my life.

Revenge is a dish best served BOLD!


"You're too sensitive!"
My child woke up early, crept into bed with me and told me that he loves that I'm his mom. Then he kissed my face and fell back to sleep in my arms.

[internetpaper]

*"That's Dr Romani bitch" needs to be on a shirt. I would buy it.*

[alanalbin]

I don't want vengeance. I want justice. And that's impossible, because the narcissist can never feel the kind of pain that they inflict on their victims.

[jenniferbaldwin]

I am going no contact today. Thank you Dr. Ramani for helping me understand my life, my pain, and understanding the relationships I've spent my entire life surrounded by and how they have influenced me.

[kyandiegyal]

"Thats Dr Ramani b*tch"... I've never clapped so loudly in my life. I felt the joy for you. You are inspiring.

[alicej]

The way I see it is that it’s not about proving others wrong, but about proving to ourselves that we never had a reason to believe them in the first place. Thank you for this video, I’ve not been feeling so great recently but your videos always seem to get me back on track!

[sarahferguson]

"It's Dr. Ramani, bitch." Priceless. You are beyond amazing, Dr. Ramani. Thank you!

[meredithcosta]

Yes. At one time I wanted revenge, but then I realized the best revenge would be to let go, forgive, and try to help others who are going through this. I got into therapy, I went through the pain of no contact, and then I wrote a book and started a group on Facebook for sufferers of narcissistic abuse.

I wouldn't say I ever wanted revenge, per say. I just wanted myself back, and I realized the only way to get there was to go through it and come out on the other side.

Thank you, Dr. Ramani! You're wonderful! I wouldn't have come through the heaviest times in my no contact effort without your videos.