Indifference and healing from narcissistic relationships

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[ayasaudi]

Dear dr Ramani
You help me survive in a very dark period in my life
I owe you a lot actually
Thanks for being here for us

[shayjones]

Once you understand what real love actually is, you will first begin to give it to yourself, maybe even for the first time. Then slowly you realize that what you had with the narcissist wasn’t love at all. Not even close. Once you accept that, healing gets way easier and if you still feel hurt understand that it’s from being betrayed NOT by a love lost. Keep going forward everyone.❤️

[danettejones]

Indifference was easier to attain once I realized that NONE of the narcissist’s crap is mine - regardless of how much they (try) to project it onto me.

[maryamqadri]

"Indifference and independence are the two wings which enable the soul to fly."

~Hazrat Inayat Khan

[Wawelman]

Us caring is what gives them power over us. I don't wish anything upon my narcissist. Because even my bad wishes are too good for my narcissist. It's too important now that I care about myself, I have no energy left to care about my narcissist.

I now see it like in a rear mirror. It's getting smaller and smaller, and one day I won't see it anymore.

[islandia]

Indifference to a toxic person means you have so much more passion to give to people and activities that are healthy.

[gc]

"I'm not indifferent to their future victims, but it's not my job to rescue them". Thank you x

[lauramendez]

Absolutely, we come to a place where we just don't care, we don't wish them bad we just move forward and are at peace! So grateful to be out of a Narcissistic marriage of 20 years!!! Dr Ramani Thank you soooo much in being a part of my Healing! Forever grateful to you ❤

[nicj]

I left not to teach them a lesson, but because I had finally learned mine. I don't wish them good or bad - I couldn't care any less about the rest of their lives than I do. I'm finally truly free.

[juliebraden]

It took minimum 2 full years after going no contact to start getting to indifference. In the beginning, I kept a countdown, telling myself if I could just make it to the 2 year mark I would be ok. By the third year I was fully there. It's been over 5 yrs now. Indifference is empowering. 😊

[jacktaylor]

Indifference to narcs frees up all those brain cells/time ruminating about them for something rewarding.

[Kuutamo]

When you reach true indifference towards those who abused you, you have won

[Ellejas]

Healing is tough, i still get nightmares sometimes. The best way is to cut all communication, don’t stalk them, don’t check on them, cold turkey

[tracytaub]

I see “indifference” in relation to narcissism as the concept of “detachment” in recovery from codependency: it is the same as the Al-Anon concept of “letting go with love.”

[raynebow]

I’ve been waiting for this video. So happy that my indifference doesn’t mean I’m an awful person. I’m just caring for myself.

[garlandharvie]

The opposite of Love isn’t Hate. It is indifference!! Thank you!

[annarowe]

Rhett Butler summed it up perfectly. "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn!"

[ivanamiljak]

"indifference" is a powerful feeling, its the end of one cycle and the beginning of a happier one. But it takes lot of suffering and learning about yourself to come there..

[provencepoppy]

Thank you, Dr. Ramani. I like the word, "detachment" from the narcissists in our lives. Practicing detachment for me, is how I free myself from the narcissist. It's like letting go of a big boulder. Putting the boulder down, leaving it behind, not carrying its crushing weight anymore, which frees me and all of victims of narc abuse, to move forward on my/our own life path(s).

[LaniTayvl]

"The opposite of love is not hate, they are two sides of the same coin."
"Hate is love frustrated."