3 keys to recover your confidence after narcissistic abuse

Do you find yourself full of doubt when you try to make a decision?
Do you feel more like an impostor than like you belong in your own life?
Do you question whether you matter?

If you answered yes to any of these questions then you may have had to sacrifice your own self-confidence to survive narcissistic abuse. Although I don’t think it’s possible to offer a prescription for how to recover self-confidence in one fell swoop after narcissistic abuse. It is possible to identify and practice the conditions in one’s life that can allow for the experience of self-confidence to come forth. In today’s video I’m going to explain these 3 conditions that are necessary for your self-confidence to return. By practicing these conditions in your life you might be able to:

Feel more confident in your ability to make and sustain new safe relationships
Take on personal and professional goals that are important to you
Believe in yourself even when others disagree with you

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[arabianprincess]

i’ve never felt more broken in my life yet i definitely am more woke than i ever was.

[carospereman]

Finding people that aren't narcissistic is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Tried many avenues, joining a church, going to work, being friendly with neighbors, joining a meetup group. It's very difficult. I don't want to give up, I know good people are out there. I guess what keeps me going is that I can now recognize manipulative and control patterns of other humans, which keeps me safe.

[homiekeen]

Been 10 years now and just noticed that I still have the narcissists opinions in my head

[izawaniek]

If we want to recover from narcisistic abuse we must surround ourselves with non- narcisistic safe and healthy people and we must give ourselves patience and compassion. God bless you❤

[lexa_power]

Moving 3000 miles away from my abuser was the best thing that I ever did for myself! Better to be alone with no safety net than to lean on an abuser. No safety net is worse than abuse and a fake safety net that’s actually sabotaging you.

[lydiarosebrita]

I find my confidence grows when I do something that makes me feel like something bad will happen but then I do it and things work out fine 🙂 it's one of those things that is practise I think!

[rascallyrabbit]

We become our own potter creating our own self on our potter's wheel. No more letting another be our potter.

[laurenbatson]

Jay, you are saving my life. You are telling me WHAT I CAN DO to heal the things I can't recognize yet are even injured. Thank you so much!

[aquariusstar]

I can't even express how invaluable this information is to me. Shape-shifting daily was so exhausting and depressing as a child...being confident at school amd pretending to be small, timid and stupid at home. It's enough to make a person split off and become a bipolar personality. It's no wonder I find myself "snapping back" into these unconfident personalities within a few hours after feeling so sure I can rise to the challenge! So much extra effort to live a normal to extraordinary life after narc abuse as a scapegoat child😢

[TeaLaRee]

Fostering curiosity in myself, what do "I" like? What do "I" feel about something or someone?

Big steps in my recovery has been to stop abandoning myself to others and holding myself accountable to my goals. Anyways, best wishes.

[KeraaRose]

The age of 28 I finally woke up and realized I was under narcissistic abuse since a child. I went no contact months ago. It’s been so hard but I hope things get better.

[MJ-qbph]

Making sense of what happened? Wow, not sure I will ever be able to do that!

[AwakenedOne-qu]

Who wants to recover, I always want to remember what the culture is really like. Letting your guard down is a death sentence

[diontrott]

7:40 - 7:52. WOW!!! Nail hit!
Had to replay that several times!

[rascallyrabbit]

so, i had one session with Jay, and that session broke open my rusted shut door. i realized how my family had this thin veneer of morality which they projected onto me and the world while living a life in opposition to that veneer. For whatever reason, i could not look behind the curtain. crazy making s h i t. Growing up, I lived similarly with a thin veneer of morality which destroyed my self confidence because it made me, like my family, a hypocrite. Now, i live my deep moral beliefs even if it alienates others. Better to be a free self than a codependent slave. As the song says, i once was blind, but now I see..

[The_green_zebra]

Thank you so much for this information. You always give me a new perspective, and a little bit of hope when this all feels so overwhelming.

[jackilynpyzocha]

When I complain to my narcissistic dad, he invalidates my reasonable complaints, is condescending, dismissive and controls/lectures me. He won't apologize(he thinks an apology is unnecessary and demeaning). I have nil to no-contact. He can be sarcastic as well. He is verbally abusive to me, and then he tells me I have no right to complain. He's an asshole!

[Alexandriaofchicago]

Dating after discard and noticing alot of ppl are like this it's scary

[ioanasilvia]

Thank you so much for your videos! You are saving souls and giving back sanity! ❤️

[rachelmaxwell]

Thank you Jay, you help me feel sane with these videos! 🙏