5 Signs You're Emotionally Immature

Emotional immaturity is when one's behavior that clings onto childish behavior when their physical age is well past their emotional age. Someone emotionally immature will find it hard to effectively communicate or process their emotions and can often appear selfish or aloof. Wondering if you're emotionally immature? Emotional maturity takes time and it is normal to be at different stages from time to time. In order to become more emotionally mature, we need to be aware of our behaviors and why we do the things we do. So, we've created this video to help you identify whether you might have certain behaviors to note so that you can become a better version of yourself.

Disclaimer: Please note that relating to one, two, or even more of these points does not automatically make someone emotionally immature. These are simply guidelines and patterns to watch out for, but they are not meant to guarantee anything. We are all human and are all let emotions get the best of us from time to time. If you find that a number of these signs pertain to you, don’t worry: you’re not flawed, and you’re definitely all alone. You just might be in a different stage of the growth process, and that is completely okay!

Writer: Ria Parikh
Script Editor: Monica Taing, Adam Lai
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Evelvaii
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

Gibson, Lindsay C. “Emotionally Immature People Can Make You Feel Something”. New Harbinger Publications. 20 May 2019.

Heitler, Susan. “Can You Spot 10 Signs of a Childish Adult?”. Psychology Today. 04 March 2016.

Jogsan, YA. “Emotional Maturity and Adjustment in ADHD Children.” Journal of Psychology and Psychotherapy. 2013; 3:2.

Lamothe, Cindy. “How to Recognize and Deal with Emotional Immaturity”. Healthline. 30 March 2020.

“5 Signs of Emotional Immaturity”. The School of Life. Nd.

“5 Traits of Emotionally Immature People”. Exploring Your Mind. 03 December 2017.

[winningsmile]

I’ll admit, I’m pretty sure I have low emotional maturity.

[beardpandaa]

I don't really know how to get more emotionally mature when my generalized anxiety, ptsd, and depression take over. It can be really hard in those moments of feeling like i'm the worst person to not become overwhelmed by my emotions. I know I've been immature in my relationship but I want to be better. Hopefully my therapist can help me with that.

[feiyang]

1. Can't keep their emotions in check
2. They're often defensive and manipulative
3. They deflect
4. They can be hostile
5. They have a strong need for the presence of others

:D

[nicoleonfeels]

Sometimes talking about your feelings can make you seem weak, when really it’s one of the bravest things you can do!

[MAIONNAISE]

YOU TEACH ME BETTER THEN ANYTHING SO IM THANKING YOU

[PlanetPsych]

"Emotionally immature people always want to win an argument, even at the cost of a relationship."
"Emotionally mature people would rather save a relationship, than lose it over something petty"
What do you guys think?

[JewelzStudios]

Okay, it used to be nice if one or two people would give a summary of the video. But can we please chill out with those comments? For me, they're are popping up every other comment.

[RosheenQuynh]

I have this weird love/hate relationship with being alone. I like not being disturbed but dislike being lonely. I'd rather be alone with someone who loves me than be all by myself...

[kshrvpz]

1. They can't keep their emotion in check.
2. They are usually defensive and manipulate.
3. They deflect.
4. They can be hostile.
5. They have a strong need of people pressence.
😔🌻

[roar]

I’m going to edit this as I go so if I’m missing some then don’t worry I’ll update it!

1.) They cannot keep their emotions in check. 0:45
2.) They’re usually defensive and manipulative. 1:16
3.) They deflect. 1:53
4.) They can be hostile. 2:20
5.) They have a strong need for the presence of others. 2:37

Welp that’s it! I know there are other time stamp comments but I find these helpful and wanted to add more so people can find them easier. Have a great day everyone!

[apsionicbrush]

Me: Wait, you've always been fine?
Friend: Always have been

[saamnkosi]

I had a friend like this I just ended the relationship a few weeks ago. I tried to set clear boundaries because I felt like I am not respected in our relationship, he had an outburst and starter shouting at me and saying hurtful things ( which is something he usually does when I don't want to do things his way) I was sad to end the friendship with him but it was time, I'm glad I no longer have to be around him anymore. 💔😔

[dawna]

the little guy waving at the beginning is adorable and friendly!!! Love it...friendliest person i saw all day to tell you the truth LOL

[LogoFreak]

I wish I was just simply emotionally mature enough to blend in and it not be so obvious that I'm immature for my age. I'm 26 going on 27 but I'm emotionally/mentally 12-13, largely as a symptom of my autism. I often even have times where I initially don't remember that I'm an adult and the fact that nobody my age is as kiddish as I am really serves to highlight my emotional development deficiency. The only thing I have going for me is my high IQ, but what good does extensive and esoteric knowledge do for someone who cries loudly everytime she's emotionally overwhelmed and still has hobbies that most people outgrow by high school?

[marissagiberson]

Signs you’re emotionally immature:
1. They cannot keep their emotions in check
2. They’re usually defensive and manipulative
3. They deflect (more info in video!)
4. They can be hostile
5. They have a strong need for the presence of other people.

Note* just because you fit a couple of these DOES NOT mean you are automatically emotionally immature. Enjoy the video!!

[natiwati]

My teachers give me hours of assiengments that keep me from spening time with my family so i stopped doing the homework because it started overwhelming me and i dont like that feeling so i am now getting bad grades ;-;

[selfhelpchampion]

"Emotional maturity involves the ability to be self-aware of one’s emotions and be able to filter them before acting on them. Whether you are relatively unemotional or life feels like a constant, erratic roller-coaster, emotional maturity involves being able to respond wisely in each moment while staying true to yourself."
Charlotte Maloney. 🙏❤️selfhelpchampion

[briannaevans]

Could you guys talk about chronic suicidal thoughts, I struggle with them day by day for 6 years and I think it would be a very interesting video

[sleepyote]

Sounds like the emtionally abusive ex I had in highschool.

[queenjulianalovesherfatban]

The thing is I'm very empathetic when other people are crying or upset, but I can't be empathetic to myself when I'm struggling mentally. I'm comfortable with giving myself a hard time just for struggling