5 Signs That A Woman Is Emotionally Immature (Major Red Flag)

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[lanikinlywalker]

1. It's always about her
2. She never takes accountability
3. She's not in control of her emotions
4. She stays at surface level
5. She's always gossiping

[ajtaylor]

Majority of women view emotional maturity as being able to express emotions and they think they're more emotionally mature than men, but in reality emotional maturity is knowing what you feel, why you feel that way, and knowing how to express them in a way that's both healthy and self-regulated. It's not just throwing your emotions out there to some people you can feel things. The most emotionally mature people are very intra-personal and look within to process their emotions.

[JasonsAccount]

I appreciate the double emphasis on “it’s not your job to fix people.” It’s so common to think that’s the purpose of a partner sometimes but that mindset actually makes partnership impossible. We think we’re being compassionate but it’s actually patronizing for the other person to think they need us to fix them. Usually this happens when we don’t have value for ourselves so we think we have to shop for a fixer-upper from the bargain bin but really we just need to find a partner that matches us so there’s balance between give and take and both people get support as well as feeling helpful. If you’re reading this, you deserve a partner that isn’t a project.

[neonnwave]

Another sign of emotional immaturity: Constantly on her phone either texting or posting/communicating through social media.

[TheChampionEccentric]

As a man, I can identify personally with point 4, and this led to the breakdown of my own relationship. There were many things wrong in my life that I was too scared to share with my partner or outright lied about, thus betraying her trust in me.

You were very right in saying that these points aren't exclusive to women. Identifying these things in yourself, as well as in women, is key to maintaining a healthy relationship.

[basedlifeform]

These points, and some others, are exactly why it’s important to date with intention when looking for a long term partner. Also why physical intimacy should be held off until you have had enough time to assess their character.

[Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

I was friends with a girl *just* like this. She's someone who was very insecure and not knowing what she really wants. Communicating with her on an adult level was quite a struggle. I felt that a serious relationship with her wouldn't be healthy for either of us but we still talk some. Great video Courtney.

[RueA]

I'm a 20 year old young lady and Miss Courtney is the best spoken lady I have listened to, I hope to grow and become like her 😊

These are also symptoms of a malignant narcissistic personality disorder.

[hunter__]

To me personally, constant reliance on alcohol/weed to feel confident enough to socialize, as well as just doing those things because they're the "trend" these days, are a bit of a turn off.

[vedinthorn]

You forgot about deflection: when someone can't sit down and just discuss the current issue to some kind of conclusion, but instead needs to bounce around when there's a problem and even brings up other unrelated problems from other times so they don't have to deal with the current one.

[KyleBear]

Hey Courtney! I’d say another sign is ‘Avoiding Conflict’. My most recent girlfriend always pushed off any disagreements we had because she just wanted everything to be happy and positive. Of course it would be ideal to have your partner share all the same opinions as you, but that’s just not realistic. If you aren’t willing to have a conversation and compromise/work with your partner…I’d say you’re better off finding someone else or being single. Just my thoughts. Love the channel!

[sburns]

Great video.
Suggestions for part 2:
#6: constantly tests your boundaries.
#7: makes unreasonable demands/sets you up to disappoint her (aka s*** tests).
#8: refers to herself as a "princess" or "queen"

[CharleyVCU]

“She’s not in control of her emotions”

My soon to be ex wife when we were dating threw a temper tantrum at me when I couldn’t take a photo right. Too bad I was dumb enough to write it off as a one time thing. Later on during trying to plan the wedding she screamed her head off at her own mother for SLIGHTLY putting the stickers askance on the guest gift boxes.

Seriously?

[TastyJester]

A lot of what you described is narcissist stuff. My father is a narcissist (and an alcoholic), and everthing you said describes him and he is a high level narcissist - 2 of my 4 siblings have been diagnosed with C-PTSD from growing up with him. The problem is people who grow up with a parent like this either grow up like me and can spot it and call it out, or they grow up like my oldest sibling, blinde to understanding it, and get into a relationship with a woman who is exactly as you described, a narcissist. My brother is constantly trying to win her praise and affection by jumping through her hoops, but she never gives him any, and he does it because he has always been trying to win the affection and praise of his father, it is all he knows. There are so many men and women out there who are in these relationships living in hell and not really understanding why.

[johnnyf]

It was the worst relationship I’ve ever been in and hurt me more than anyone ever has. Look out for the signs and run for the hills and save yourself if you see the signs.

I ended up being emotionally abused and it was one of the worst things I’ve ever dealt with (still dealing with after a month). Please look after yourselves. I’m so thankful I got out when the signs started showing and had friends that helped me figure it out. I feel awful for the people who get stuck in these relationships for a really really long time.

Thank you for showing this Courtney, really appreciate what you do. I’m not sure if you have already but I would consider doing a video on signs of narcissism. It’s a horrible thing to deal with and I see so much damage from it.

[juliennebringhurst]

As a woman, honestly, this was super helpful. Lately, I've been more worried about whether or not I'm being a great partner. *cue Anti-Hero chorus by Taylor Swift* It was really good to listen to this and to have a self-reflection of whether or not I do some of these things myself.

[wanderinghermes]

"It’s not your job to fix people. People have to want to make themselves better."

Great quote. It's difficult because my career (software engineer) is all about, "fixing" programs, finding solutions, pattern recognition ... etc. Turning off these skills is difficult when she does #5, "She's always gossiping." She talks bad about a lot of things, incredibly defensive, and has that, "know it all, " attitude. Extremely toxic. She creates more problems then solutions. Glad I'm out of that.

Also, thanks for your channel. Randomly discovered it last year and I appreciate it. 🙏

[stayhappylittlemermaid]

Positivity attracts positivity. Keep smiling and doing things that make you happy, even when you're in a bad mood

[rebeccayeatesmakeup]

I my ex best friend had all of these traits and realised that her behaviour wasn’t right/normal and parted ways. Because she had a hard time in her life I made allowances for the way she was like this. I also recognise some of these in myself a little, especially 3 & 4. I’ve written all of these points in my journal and being truly honest with each one that I still need to work on. Taking responsibility, self improvement and healing are really important to me to become a better person.