10 Signs You are Emotionally Immature | Is Emotional Immaturity a Mental Disorder?

This video answers the questions: What are the signs of emotional immaturity? Is emotional immaturity a mental disorder? Is emotional immaturity a personality disorder?

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[NihadH]

I used to be a severe narcissist. But I matured and got rid of that. Now I am perfect.

[moraim]

1. Lack of empathy.
2. Over reaction to life lessons.
3.Failing to take responsibility. Blaming somebody else.
4. Immediate gratification . Financially irresponsible.
5. Self centeredness. Can't see past their own desires
6. Hostility, personally attack other people if they don't agree.
7. Deception, criminality, manipulation.
8. Shallow
9. Difficulty setting boundaries.
10. Individual has no room for growth, they think they know it all.
No room for personal development.

[waterdrinker]

Number one sign I am emotionally immature: I am too scared to actually watch the video.

[dianavaldez]

Emotionally immature adults are no joke. My brother is emotionally immature at age 60, and has wrought destruction on our entire family for decades. He has every trait that you mentioned. Thank you for posting.

[DELIVERANCE-TODAY]

Most relationship problems stem from emotional immaturity. Great video!

[kw]

So you're telling me as a child I was emotionally mature... just to grow up to be emotionally immature

[kimpettersson]

In emotional intelligence we see 5 areas
1. Self insight (understanding your emotions and why they appear)
2. Self regulation (being able to calm oneself down or cheer oneself up)
3. Self motivation (motivating oneself to do boring tasks)
4. Empathy
5. Relational skills (being able to initiate and keep relations to other people)

[fernforwood]

I’m realizing as I watch this that I’ve matured emotionally a huge amount over the last five years.

[julesmbc]

Who else just realized they have a few of these traits 😬🙋‍♀️😣

[hannahpumpkins]

This is my father, who was diagnosed with Malignant NPD, and my mother when she was alive (she never went to a therapist because she thought she was completely perfect). Just the other day I asked my dad, "hey, when you're at Walmart today can you pick up a kitchen garbage can? as I just got out of the hospital and am still dealing with a bad infection). Immediately he starts screaming at the top of his lungs about how he's so unappreciated, and that's he's very special and important but nobody is giving him a mansion on a private tropical island because they don't value his worth to society (he does nothing), and then of course come the barrage of insults - calling me every filthy word you can imagine (and I used to be in law enforcement and have been called a lot of things - but my own father is much, much, much worse). So yep, losing his mind for 1 1/2 hours over a garbage can.

[iconoclastforever]

I was fortunate to be an offspring of parents who were very mature, especially my father, tested by adversity and having excellent abilities to put off gratification and exercise self-restraint. What a legacy.

[natashamudford]

*10 Signs of Emotional Immaturity*
1. Lack of empathy (2:46)
2. Overreaction to life circumstances (3:12)
3. Failing to take responsibility (blaming) (3:42)
4. Need for immediate gratification (4:30)
5. Self-centeredness (5:36)
6. Hostility (quick to anger) (6:08)
7. Deception (6:42)
8. Shallowness (7:20)
9. Difficulty setting boundaries (7:38)
10. No room for growth (know everything) (8:06)

[universe]

There’s always a place for improvement when we talk about emotional maturity. Thanks Doc for this interesting video.

[stephenrussell]

One important fact to recognise for anyone falling into these traits, is that regardless of how many negative traits they have, if they are willing to recognise these weaknesses and make some positive changes then that is a sign of emotional maturity. At the end of the day it is all about self reflection and emotional intelligence. Just start with learning to love yourself and others....

[gergs]

I feel a little embarrassed to share this, but it’s genuinely caused me a lot of grief for a long time, and I’m sincerely hoping somehow my story will help somebody else.

I was not diagnosed with ADHD until adulthood, and though it’s been hard to recognise these patterns in my behaviour (about 8 years since I first realised that something was wrong, because my peers had all overtaken me socially and emotionally), I am now starting to see that I am unlucky enough to still be very emotionally and socially immature, I think it’s likely a byproduct of ADHD.

I’m self-aware enough to know that my current level of emotional maturity at twenty is about the same as it was when I was ten. I’m not proud of how I behave, and I see my psychiatrist weekly to try and work out these things about myself, which has already really helped me to understand myself and my flaws, and where I should improve. Unfortunately I’m still trying to figure out the “how”, but I think I’m happier than I ever was just being able to understand that everything I went through in school, especially the confusion, anxiety, self-doubt and depression was likely tied to this reason. I’m not better, I haven’t matured yet on those fronts, but I am getting help now and I just want to be seen like a normal person even though sometimes I can’t help but act like a child.

(And unfortunately yes, I experience all these signs discussed in the video. It is always nice to have explanations though, thank you Dr. Grande!)

[snakesocks]

I'm not emotionally immature! *_You're_* emotionally immature!!! *Times infinity!!*

[Marcelube]

Always Grande, never grandiose!👏👏👏👏👏 Thank you always Dr Grande

[RsRj-qdcg]

Most people are emotionally immature until about age 27. But learning emotional maturity at a young age from a good parent or mentor is like a superpower.

[MarshaDeans]

love this man, his voice is so calm and reassuring he doesn't judge he just gives you his own insight to the situation. M. D. X

[dave]

10 Signs of Emotional Immaturity

1. Lack of empathy: failure to feel it or use it.
2. Overreaction to life circumstances, the tendency to move towards chaos: connected to external locus of control, acting on emotions, and impulsivity (contentiousness).
3. Failure to take responsibility and/or blaming others: inability to take ownership.
4. Immediate gratification and failure to plan ahead: connected to impulsivity (neuroticism), financial irresponsibility.
5. Self-centredness: inability to see past one’s desires and acknowledge effects on others.
6. Hostility: quick to anger, pronounced hatred of others, failure to dissociate people from their opinions.
7. Deception: criminality, manipulation for money and fame, pathological lying (extreme form).
8. Being unable to experience and understand deep feelings and needs specifically to shallowness.
9. Difficulty setting boundaries: failure to break up toxic/damaging relationships or habits.
10. Belief in having accomplished personal development and growth: disinterest in learning deeply about life.