7 Signs You're Emotionally Abusive To Others

Emotional abuse is more common than physical or verbal abuse but may be reported less because it is harder to prove, this includes narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, emotional blackmail, and so on. Emotional abuse is behavioral and emotional tactics that are used to attack the target’s sense of control or sense of self. Are you wondering if emotional abuse played a role in any friendships or relationships that have been hurtful? Maybe you are looking to change a few patterns in your life. Or maybe you are wondering if you are the abuser. This video is for you.

Trigger warning & Disclaimer: If you recognize yourself in any of these examples, please know this was not posted to shame, hurt, or trigger you. Seeing yourself in these behaviors does not automatically make you a bad person or evil. Rather, seeing yourself in these behaviors means you are able to look at yourself and figure out whether you want to change how you deal with the people in your lives. If the material in this video is too triggering or painful for you, please honor yourself, even if it means not watching further.

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[Psychgo]

Trigger warning & Disclaimer: If you recognize yourself in any of these examples, please know this was not posted to shame, hurt, or trigger you. Seeing yourself in these behaviors does not automatically make you a bad person or evil. Rather, seeing yourself in these behaviors means you are able to look at yourself and figure out whether you want to change how you deal with the people in your lives. If the material in this video is too triggering or painful for you, please honor yourself, even if it means not watching further.

[DblTap]

My mother's house was powered by gaslight.

[datboi]

1. You 'jokingly' insult people 1:03
2. You dismiss others' feelings 1:34
3. You like to embarrass others 2:10
4. You like to push buttons 2:44
5. You tell people their version of reality is wrong 3:19
6. You use your emotions to get people to do what you want 3:51
7. You use silence as a weapon 4:26
I hope I could help! :)

[cindymartinez]

I came here scared I did something like this, but I don't. Instead I learned that some family members are actually abusive and it's heartbreaking.

[pinkeysherbet]

If this video rings true for you and you feel ashamed and guilty: you’re not alone and you’re not beyond help. These things are learned behaviors, meaning they aren’t an inherent part of who you are and can be unlearned. You’re not a bad person at all. Someone in your life taught you bad behavior and didn’t give you what you needed when you were little. Now you can learn to change your behavior, give yourself the love and validation you needed as a child and find the security in yourself to be the person you really are. 💜

[aradhanahansdak]

For the 'signs that you may be videos, could you also have 'ways on how to improve' type of videos related to the previous video? Just a suggestion and I'm sure the crew has been doing something related to what I gave. Love your videos btw! 😊

Edit: Ya'll are magicians. Didn't think this comment would reach this far! 😂❤

[NauyaWasTaken]

#7 can be tricky.

Don't blame yourself for it if it's a defensive mechanism against someone's that's being toxic to you. I was about to blame myself for it too but I read some comments and yeah, seems shutting someone out of your life that's being horrible and harming your emotional well being as well as your friends isn't giving them a manipulative silent treatment. It's knowing when to stop, cut the toxic part of your life away, and start healing.

[fructosecornsyrup]

To be honest, literally almost _everyone_ I meet does one or two of these things on occasion. We aren't perfect. The point is to recognize these behaviors, realize they aren't healthy, and try to better yourself. It only seriously becomes a problem if it turns into a habit and the person committing them refuses to admit they might have a problem.

[InfomercialAngel]

"have you ever made a joke with the intention of hurting the person you're making fun of?" i live in the UK this is deadass the only way brits know how to communicate

[jamiekagemori]

I swear the universe is trying to give me signs. Would really like a video on how to improve, I don’t wanna continue the cycle of abuse anymore.

[Buttonsbeauty]

I’m 27 and watching this has just made me realize that my mom was emotionally abusive. Didn’t know this wasn’t normal. Silent treatment, dismissal of my feelings, and humiliating me in front of others. She didn’t do these things all the time, but enough times that did end up sticking with me. Freakin crazy. Kindof explains a lot of things about my mental health and self esteem issues.

[Adam-uiyn]

The silent treatment in my opinion, is one of the most destructive methods to deal with arguments. Your using someone's own fear of rejection to inflict pain. Which ultimately leads to low values of self worth and anxiety. Even something as simple as "I'd like a little time to collect my thoughts, we can talk about this later" makes a huge difference in letting the person know they're not being ignored.

[innolobaton]

7 Signs you're emotional abusive to others
1. You jokingly insult people
2. You dismiss other's feelings
3. You like to embarrass others
4. You like to push buttons
5. You tell people their version of reality is wrong
6. You use your emotions to get people do what your want
7. You use silence as a weapon

Wishing you all a prosperous, blessed and a happy new year. Hope we all have a covid-free world ahead of us next year.

[lolalina_]

I swear this was a so called "friend" and then I ended the contact to her
Even tough I liked her still
But it was just impossible to heal next to her

[wenjing]

I remember doing quite a few of these methods in the past. Usually, it's unintentional, but I still feel guilty for it. Some of them were likely to be intentional, and it took me a long time to understand it. Being emotionally neglected and abused by my family, it's no wonder why I did not see the issue until my friends and boyfriend pointed out at it. I am grateful for their input and they still stay to support me as I undergo therapy. I am glad to have them in my life as I strive to be a better person.

[caoimhejordan]

God I do a lot of these but I never have the intention of hurting anyone

My social anxiety is gonna sky rocket now lol

[zerareota]

Number one, someone sent this video to you

[Talkinglife]

Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate another person. In general, a relationship is emotionally abusive when there is a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviors that wear down a person's self-esteem and undermine their mental health

[dorothylightangel]

I have come to recognize that I was emotionally abusive towards my ex husband as a result of many unresolved personal issues due to being emotionally abused by a narcissistic step parent, as well as experiencing emotional neglect from the majority of my family. I felt a lot of invalidation growing up.
It has been and continues to be a long journey of recovery and self awareness to turn these negative behaviors into healthier, healing parts of my personality.
I hate that it took so much pain, effort, time and truth seeking, but well worth it.
I am now involved in a very healthy relationship that continues to evolve and help me grow into a more well rounded human being.
However, you have to see the truth of your actions and look deeply into yourself for answers related to why you behave a certain way, and then make changes.
Forgiveness of others, including yourself, is key to transforming yourself from the inside out.

[nicolesantiagodominguez]

I can relate to this unfortunate I grew up and a chaotic and unstable home. I still do go through this moment. I want to change for a better but the anger is so much.