20 Signs You're Emotionally Mature

However old we might be, none of us is ever quite emotionally mature - but having a list to hand of what maturity consists of might be a way of keeping score and nudging ourselves in the right direction. Here is a comprehensive list of what maturity might comprise.

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“1. You realise that most of the bad behaviour of other people really comes down to fear and anxiety – rather than, as it is generally easier to presume, nastiness or idiocy. You loosen your hold on self-righteousness and stop thinking of the world as populated by either monsters or fools. It makes things less black and white at first, but in time, a great deal more interesting.
2. You learn that what is in your head can’t automatically be understood by other people. You realise that, unfortunately, you will have to articulate your intentions and feelings with the use of words – and can’t fairly blame others for not getting what you mean until you’ve spoken calmly and clearly.”

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[vicycross]

I'm mature enough to realize I'll never be 100% emotionally mature

[spoicydeemer]

"You are not better than anyone else and you can be wrong sometimes"
*The entire internet has left the chat*

[mynames..]

I know I'm not when I saw Hitler at first glance.

[MattlikestrainsOfficial]

Were failing art school with this one 🗣🔥🔥🔥‼️‼️

[Rootschannel]

am I the only one who thought that the main character looks like Hitler?

[stinkywizzleteats]

And most importantly your inner voice has a British accent. At that point you have fully matured. Well done chap.

[casualpotato]

"wow I'm so mature!"
*Seconds earlier:
Hahaha that drawing looks like hitler

[jayeshwadhwa]

I remember seeing this guy in my art school....

[victorashul]

maturity : understand that this video is also made by people who could be wrong

[giorgigudiashvili]

1. You realize people are never good or bad, they are traumatized and complex. Complexity is interesting.
2. You learn to articulate your emotions to get your point across.
3. You acknowledge that you are not perfect and learn to apologize.
4. You learn to be confident without being narcissistic.
5. You forgive your parents for fucking you up so, because you keep remembering they have gone through the same.
6. You make important decisions and initiate important conversations only when you are completely rested from various indirect stressors.
7. You forgive people who hurt you, even if they don't understand after your explain why you were hurt.
8. You cease to believe in perfect life and perfect people.
9. You don't keep your hopes up too high in general and learn to be comfortable with it.
10. You understand that other people's weaknesses are always balanced by their strengths and learn to concentrate on them.
11. You don't fall in love for superficial qualities.
12. You understand that you are just as big pain in the ass to be around with, as the other people seem to be.
13. You learn to forgive yourself regardless of how you suck at everything.
14. You make peace with an immature version of yours that shows itself once in a while.
15. You seek satisfaction in tiny achievements rather than in monumental ones.
16. You stop caring what others think of you.
17. You appreciate healthy criticism.
18. You make time to examine your life.
19. You are able to identify inner traumas you received as a child and avoid acting on impulses instilled by those experiences.
20. You understand that true friendship is about exchanging a personal story, rather than best advice.

[coloredCYANIDE]

20 signs for the busy schedule.
1) People are nervous and anxious or messy, don’t be black and white about how you feel on it
2) articulate intentions and feelings, no one reads minds
3) admit you’re wrong, apologize
4) confidence, everyone sucks but we try anyway lol
5) forgive parents for being humans
6) small things on mood— take care of yourself physically or don’t approach situations drunk or exhausted
7) don’t sulk, tell them and if not it’s cool move on
8) perfection isn’t real, you’re gonna hurt yourself getting there or thinking it’s out there
9) virtue of pessimism, calm and patience from it/lower expectations
10) people can be great in some ways and crap in others, no one’s perfect
11) fall in love less easily, everything looks perfect far away but chances are they’re annoying
12) you’re difficult too lol get over it
13) forgive yourself for your stuff, be your own friend because who else will
14) peace with your inner child
15) no grand plans for happiness and celebrate little things, aka lower expectations part 2
16) stop caring on what people think on you, small friend groups rule
17) hearing feedback and not reacting negatively
18) don’t live too close to problems, get out and make perspective, nature and animals have it right anyway aka get off social media and go move like a human
19) your past colors your response, accept and work with it
20) share vulnerability to build better relationships, not just joy

[jessicablackmore]

Parents had a choice, and chose to be bully's. They have had opportunities to apologise since, and have chosen to not.

It's not usually the action, it's the reaction. When you say how they've hurt you down the years, and they don't care or say they can't live in the past. They are happy to talk about their own past, but not acknowledge the suffering they have caused. I acknowledge how I mess up my kids, it keeps me humbled. And I really do want to do better.

[kalifazwawi]

"Of course you're an idiot, but you're still a loveable one, as we all are".
that's really touched me.

[sadmanrafid]

"Friendship is really about sharing vulnerability."
Couldn't have said it any better!

[JellyLancelot]

I learned a lot of this in my early 20's just from life coming hard and fast, but life is forever a persuit of being better in ones self, to be better to those around you. So much of this I need to work on again as a refresher to myself, and some of it is new. This is a brilliant life guide - some top level bullet points!

[leasofie]

can I just say that the lessons learnt from these videos are major and significant, but only because there's a perfect narrator to it. The man voicing these videos are what make me come back for more. Big credit.

[toto-wtoq]

I clicked on this video hoping that i could identify myself with some of these signs. Instead, this video taught me how to give life a better approach

[luv.my.pencil]

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in life is that emotional maturity is not about being perfect, it’s about being aware of yourself, and forgiving to others.

[Otaku-noiv]

I'm a student and I have to say I must thank my mom and dad, my hardships and my friends (good and bad or both in one) for helping me on this path to become more emotionally mature. A few things that I've learned is, everyone is complicated and have demons that come back to haunt them. Humbleness is different from submission and speaking your mind is not hurtful in correct circumstances.
Being rational is okay but being too rational isn't. There has to be a balance between rationality and emotionality.
Making comprises for someone is different from breaking your own rules to please someone you care about.
Betrayal is hurtful and can drown you but it is one of the best lessons you'll ever get in strengthening your emotional maturity, train yourself not to give too much of yourself (lessens the pain) and teaches you how to spot similar personality traits to the person that hurt you.
Letting go is okay

[AudioTruyenLangQue]

I just love how they explain everything to us so we can understand them, and they make it fun so we don't get bored or distracted ( which happens to me very often) plus they are having fun to which is amazing. So thank you! You're amazing guys!