5 Types Of People You Should Stop Being Friends With

Are you dealing with toxic friends? Having bad and toxic friendships has always been a very common occurrence. Toxic relationships can be very damaging for your overall wellbeing so it’s very important to cut toxic relationships off as soon as possible. So, we made this video to help you identify whether your friendships are healthy or toxic.

Disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.

Writer: Xinyi
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Lily Hu
Animator: Lesly
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

[ComicalRealm]

"1 loyal friend is worth 10 thousand relatives" - Alfred Pennyworth

[TEAforMIND]

"Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends." Don't let loneliness make you connect with toxic people. Even when we're thirsty, we shouldn't drink poison. Stay strong!

[heatherthehylian]

During these times, I feel more and more people just don't care about maintaining a possible good friendship. Feeling like you're the only one keeping it glued together is very draining on your mental health.

[narayanamlalitya]

my best friend always use to make me feel so small and dumb next to her. she used to always talk about her things and when i do something she makes it look like i am wrong. she always argues with me and told bad things about me to me and maybe (not sure) even others. now i have a good best friend who actually cares for me now.

[nono-blhs]

I'm still trying to let go of a toxic friend, he just keeps coming back. I've known him for years now and it's so hard to let go of something I felt was so special. But I know I will never be as special to him as he is to me, and I need to let it go

[spasticfurchild]

Sometimes the "friend who never reaches out to you" is going through some mental health issues and isn't doing it to intentionally hurt

[abhisheksapkale]

Being alone is more meaningful than stay with the wrong individuals. everyone arrives when they need or want something from you....

[alphalunablue]

Keep in mind: when it comes to 3 and 4, it can get a bit tricky when it comes to people with neurodivergencies! For 3, people with ADHD, ASD, depression, anxiety and more can tend to flake (not always). It's usually nothing against the other person. There are a number of reasons. For instance people with ADHD have an issue with maintaining relationships, people with depression may lack the energy and people with anxiety may be too afraid you are mad at them for not talking to you for so long that they're afraid to reach out at all. Keep in mind anyone with neurodivergency has the potential to become exhausted from or at the thought of social interaction, irregardless of whether they want to interact or not.
For number 4: people with neurodivergencies tend to console and relate to others in a different way. 9 times out of 10 they are not trying to make it about themselves. They respond with a similar story to show that they were listening and can relate. It's a way of saying "hey, you're not alone in this. Ive been through something similar, so I know you're struggling".
Sometimes within the stories they may even talk about how they dealt with it. Again, this is not to belittle you. It may in fact be them trying to give you ideas. Also, if they do this for a happy occasion, they are usually not trying to 1 up you, but share in your joy.
If you feel bothered by any of these, it's important to communicate. During communication it is also important not to belittle them or their struggles. I won't lie and say there aren't jerks with neurodivergencies out there, but most of the time it's just how our brain works and there's not much we can do to help it. (Also keep in mind that just because someone doesn't seem like they're neurodivergent doesn't mean they aren't).

[MzNoir_Rain]

#6 the gossiper: If they spend time talking to you about their other “friends” then you better believe they’re talking about you to them. There’s an old southern saying “Bring a bone, carry a bone”.

[therelaxedpokemon]

“ The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.”

[DaydreamDeluxe]

I once had a "friend" that constantly made me feel inferior and often gaslighted me into believing I was a narcissist. Only to find out a while later that they were not only the one who was the true narcissist, but was also a compulsive liar.

[Ludik_punk]

Recently I ended a 7 year friendship because I started to notice that this friend would talk nonstop about themselves and their problems and I would always try to give advice, but when I wanted to talk about me she was almost always like “idk what to say” or just tried to ignore it in some type of way. The last thing I couldn’t bear was her justification of people who leak your intimate photos (I was one of victims) just because she fell in love with one of those people. She knew how hard it was for me, how much I cried and how it triggers me to this day, but still chose him. And in the end she looks only happier now that I’m gone from her life and I don’t have any best friends anymore. For whatever reason it makes me feel guilty and lonely, even though I know she’s wrong in this situation. :(

[lonewolfnergiganos]

Sometimes being a loner is the best and only option to avoid having toxic friends.

[Dragunov]

1. The friend who only needs something
2. The friend who gas-lights you(manipulating you)
3. The friend who never reaches out to you
4. The friend who only talks about themselves
5. The friend who only talks down on you

[ArminciaEdwards]

I’ve been friends with all these people… another one is that “friend” who’s around until life gets better for you & then they disappear or make you feel like a burden. Got a new job, was able to take care of myself a little better…they asked repeatedly “how much do you make?” Then right after I answered..every conversation is like pulling teeth, talking to a wall or far & few between. It hurts & it’s hard but in our minds, we know we have to let it go.

[justami]

I honestly think not every "friend that never reaches out" is toxic.. Speaking from personal experience I also often don't reach out for longer periods of time.. I let my friends know though and also tell them that if something is the matter I am tjere for them

It's not possible for some people, including me, to just open up and talk about problems. Sometimes we need space to sort things out or to prevent hurting our friends unintentionally.

It's always about how you communicate. Even when, at the moment, you aren't able to express that you need time alone.. At least let your friends know when you feel better so that they know..

Also don't forget that the video stated that this type of toxic friends also makes you feel like they did you a favor.. Which people who isolate themselves to protect themselves or their friends or just to deal with their problems don't do.

But keep in mind that some of us are trying our best to reach out but aren't able to bc of different reasons and not because we are toxic or don't care about you. Trust me, we do appreciate you and your support greatly but sometimes we just need that space. Sometimes we are too overwhelmed to reach out.

[owens.studios]

"I don't need friends, they disappoint me"

[igcometa]

Friendships evolve. Its ok to let go of someone even if they are not toxic because people grow into different versions of themselves and that version may no longer be fullfilling or may no longer contribute to the current relationship.

[princessmarlena]

I’ve had friends like these, who didn’t start out like this. Sometimes people can change, and not for the better. Or, you see them for what they are but didn’t notice at first.

[brandonbogott]

I’ve been slowly growing with the changes and noticing more and more of it in my life time. The older I’ve gotten the easier it’s become to distinguish the good friend from the bad friends