Should you tell the narcissist you are leaving? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 776

should you tell the narcissist you are leaving them when you are finally done? The answer to the question really depends on who you are with and how you are holding up. Safety should always come first in theese situations with narcissistic people because a lot of the people think you belong with them and to them.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[gigicooper]

I tried the civil route and wound up in the hospital, a trauma surgeon had to put me back together...he got 6 months probation. BE VERY CAREFUL and DO NOT GIVE THEM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT. Leave quickly and quietly without discussion, you and your attorney can sort it out later... it can be very dangerous leaving a toxic person - diagnosed or not.

[deannawilliams]

Never tell a person who is toxic or abusive or just plain crazy that you leaving them.. It will not change them nor will they become the person you need them to be . Just leave when they are not there and go to a place that the person has no way of contacting you. Telling them can is putting yourself in danger. Lee has good advice in all his videos he has helped me and he can help you!!!. Dont tell them!

[jaig]

They will find a way to stop you! Just silently walk when they aren't around.

[norcal]

The constant ruminating on "how can I get this person to do what I want" in my opinion is utter madness!! Between that and the "how do I get away with blah blah" ruminations will drive a toxic arrow right through your soul! 😢 Safety first, your life first! ❤

[bettycarmella]

NOOPE!! I packed up and got out overnight. No regrets…

[islayqueenintv]

I just walked away FOR GOOD GOOD 🎉 IM DONE IN JESUS NAME ❤ 🙏🏽!!! First I felt ashamed and stupid because I let him back in some ..yesss even after no contact, blocking, watching you, RC and Leon, Ace Metaphor and Weav told us lol😂 but I realized I had to be ready and done done..THANK YOU LEE AND THE OTHER BROTHERS AKA ALL KINGS . You made me see yet forgive what I needed too but to also move on to what God has. I'm a 37 yo virgin..why waste my time on a counterfeit (was a friend 1st so I thought for 17yrs and only my 3rd relationship) my biggest regret yet lesson and blessing 🙌🏾

[MoKurls]

That was the worst thing I could have done! He tried his best to make my life a living hell. He did something to the air and we couldn’t use it. He forged my name on the divorce paperwork. He bolted the door to the living room amongst other things. Just leave without them knowing.

[dittehompoth]

Once I told to the narcissist and the person closed the door and I had not a separate key- so I faced imprisonment. Another time I went to the dentist early morning; he believed that I want to leave, and he was running after me half necked on the street. When I returned all my money was missing, and my bank cards disappeared.

[hijabiclothing]

I was blocking him but he kept making fake account, DMing me three times from different accounts. After the fourth, I just ended making decisions, that I will not block any of his account again, and I am the one who will comment in his account, mirroring his sadistic personality.
I might be an empath, so I have mirroring capability, and I gave him the taste of his own medicine. And I gave him the best narcissistic injury the best I can.

[xXChandriaXx]

dont say a word. I did... i regret it a lot. i should have just silently take my stuff while he was at work, leave the keys behid and dissapear.

In my Opinion, every Narcissist will make it as hard as possible for you. Maybe not Physicly - but psychologicly and changing the door keys. Making this all about him having all Power over you in how and when you get you stuff in the most humiliating way and ofc with a lots of threats.

Just leave silently.

[LYP]

Can you make a video or videos on narc family structures and how to get away from them? ☺️

[travishall]

I just gone threw that. I had to be silent and just go.

[GLsJAwtomatica]

Her insane reaction when I told her I was moving out is what sent me looking for answers...

[michellecarr]

Thankyou so much! I Really Appreciate Your Honesty and Strength. You came Forward and Turned something Dark into A Beautiful Sun.Knowledge Speaks..Wisdom Listens! 🌞🌞🌞

[Price]

He blocked me because I ignored his message thanking me for the abuse. Funny how he accuses me of abusing him because I told him he was being emotionally abusive using blocking as a form of control. Every time I said something he didn't like or may have perceived as criticism he turned into a heartless psycho hanging up and blocking me. He knows how much it hurts me to be blocked and hung up on yet he doesn't care. Shows zero EMPATHY right after saying things like "you mean the world to me." I so want to tell him to get help and that I'm done with this behavior and toxic relationship, but for now I'm just not saying anything, it's been almost two weeks. Do you think I'm doing the right thing?

[danigirl]

Thank you so much. I left a situation with a covert narc when I found a picture of an underage girl in his Reddit history. Once he knew I had a screenshot, I thought that he was going to kill me. This all really good advice. Mine was not violent but I believe he was becoming a family annihilator when he was looking up guns before I left. It was the scariest time of my life to get him out of my house and to keep my kids safe.

[bellaluv]

No kids involved here, I put off divorce for a year for his health problems. Now that is resolved and Im looking to file again...I'm not leaving and he's not leaving, so IDK how it's gonna end up..He's not violent but has "jokingly" put his hands around my neck recently, which I kindly asked him not to do that again. He got his feelings hurt that I would think he would actually mean harm against

[sweetoneloves]

HECK NAW, if he or she is a screw-ball and they are dangerous???? 😱😱tip away safely. The Narc I was with, he went to Vegas with his so call friends or his new girl, OMG, I WAS SO HAPPY, I went he lied and said he was going to Vegas with his family and friends???? when he left out??? I waited for 30 min to make sure he did not do a turnaround and come back. I had already hidden clothing I packed, soon as he left, I pack quickly my personal things, and got the heck outta there. I left for another city where he could not find me, and when he came back I was gone. WAYYYY GONE. I did not change my address, I just called my credit card company and gave them my new address.

I tore the screen door off, running out of his place. Yes, he told me to come back, I said Hell No ! I changed my cell phone number, and I have been peaceful, argument free, for 5 years now. I AM SO HAPPY NOW. Never saw him again, After I left, he tried to contact me through my cousin, but I blocked her as well. I don't know if he is living or dead all I know I am free and happy as a bird in a tree. So happy.

If you must leave PLEASE BE SAFE ABOUT IT

[jaig]

My ex told me if I brought someone new to my home he would burn it down. And he was living w his new gf.

[stinkey]

Imo when you really mean it you just do it.
If you live with them, you make a plan and go.
For me the only time i wanted to let him know. Was when i felt if he thought i was leaving and i gave a reason. I was hoping he would see the light.