4 words you should never say to a narcissist

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[agnieszkaponka]

What I should have never said to a narcissist... "Hi"

[generally_good_guy]

"I do." Two words you should never say to a narcissist.

[Dana-iotf]

Love this lady. Never give them any information on your struggles or personal problems. It will always be used against you later.

[JL-znme]

If I said “ I feel……”, the narcissist I’m dealing with would say “WELL I FEEL…..”!!!! There’s no communicating whatsoever with a narcissist! If you’re not talking about them, they don’t hear! I love Dr. Ramani!

[Dodge]

They don't have conversations, they gather useful information.

[grannyweatherwax]

Say " You make me feel like dancing " Then dance your way out of the door, and out of their life :)

[brendensellers]

The 1 Word the NARC never wants you to say: “No.”

[crystalsoulysr]

1.
⛔ "You make me feel ...."
✅ "I feel..."
💡 Don't go into victim zone and give them the power to control your feelings

(Did I get it right?)

[rachelmcroy]

Sharing feelings with a narc is like blood in the water to a shark 🦈

[edgreen]

Never give them data to use later, never tell them about your triggers. They will make a note of using it against you at a later date.

[annebodee]

I believe the best thing to do, what I've learned to do, is to not engage. As soon as you engage (and they KNOW your triggers) you will end up explaining/defending and the narcissist has just gotten what they wanted, they walk away happy and you end up frustrated and wondering what the heck just happened. Don't engage. They don't like that. Too bad. You're no longer their supply.

[laneyykayyy]

These videos/comments have become a safe haven and I don’t feel alone anymore . I’m 22 and on day one of leaving a narcissist and rebuilding relationships that were damaged because of it. After 4 years and with a 5 month old and being cheated on multiple times throughout my pregnancy along with other mental and physical abuse, I’m ready to heal and move on. Trying to be strong for my daughter and hoping these next few months can be good to us.

[iamangeldior]

Me “i feel unheard when...”
Narc: how do you think I feel?

[RN-gxwt]

Working life saving hacks:
- Do not invest.
- Do not play their game.
- Stay away from their reality.

[sophiegrattier]

True, I realised that seeing me upset gave him a sense of achievement. He actually said to me one day that making angry was his oxygen. I started becoming neutral by not showing any emotions, or making a joke instead. It's hard but it worked

[patriciac]

The narcissist will also use the “you made me feel……” to avoid taking responsibility for their own attitudes and bad behavior.
As in “You made me feel angry and that’s why I…..( fill in the blank with bad behavior)”. Blame shifting and gaslighting

[kathrynmolesa]

They really don't want to hear anything you have to say unless it is about them.

[scottgealow]

"I will no longer load the gun for you to shoot me with it"

[susiefoxy]

Best thing someone ever told me was when you feel anxious, sad, upset and want to speak with them is to stop the begging, pleading, countless ignored phone calls, messages etc is DONT! ..IT DOESNT WORK!....however hard it is for you ignore them, its quite empowering and they can't understand the change in you

[mimisart]

JADE
Do not Justify. Do not Argue. Do not Defend. Do not Explain.
This is helping me tremendously trying to communicate with my ex and father of the kids. Trying not to give them fuel to fan their fire trying to burn you down. Businesslike almost and understanding what kind of personality I’m dealing with is helpful. Fear gets in the way sometimes, but making baby steps and moving on, rather than staying stuck in that vicious cycle.