When being gaslighted makes YOU seem unstable

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[NarcSurvivor]

They make you think you’ve got a bad memory or like you’re going insane. It’s a really sick game and they enjoy it.

[xkbx]

“They want you to look as unhinged as they feel.”

This really spoke to me.

[islandia]

Being psychologically destabilized into believing that you are the problem is an extremely traumatic experience that I’m sure many of us share. Thank you Dr. Ramani.

[SueP-D]

Being gaslighted is probably the most destabilizing thing a person can do to another. I *literally* thought I was going crazy. Such a horrible, horrible person that gaslights others for their own personal gain/amusement/abuse.

[teal]

"They want YOU to look as UNHINGED as THEY feel!"
* Let that "sink" in!

[Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

When I realize that the person with whom I am arguing:
a) does not seek to know the truth
b) does not desire to understand my perspective
c) is not interested in a positive resolution, even if it means we simply agree to disagree…



… I’m out ✌🏽

[peacefulliving]

Plain and simple everything is your fault. Their abuse, their lies, their double life. It's insanity. There is no love, no empathy, just hurt and pain. No contact is for our best interest.

[michelepascoe]

"This is about manipulating you, " they're not listening, so don't defend yourself.
"They want you to look as unhinged as they feel."

[jasmin]

They cruelly erode your trust in yourself. Years can be lost before you understand what's going on.

[akeyshamcgrath]

Reactive abuse..😔 When they provoke you to the point where you fall out of character, and end up doing things you normally wouldn’t do. This kind of situation can result in the non narcissist becoming verbally abusive/or even physical. It’s a tactic abusers use in order to be like “See... Your the crazy one Or Maybe you shouldn’t be around the children..” and they WILL use it against you to their advantage in their victim narrative. It’s so frustrating! 🙄

[Layla-frmf]

It’s even worse when golden child joins in on the gaslighting when dealing with a narcissistic parent because it becomes mobbing. My golden child sibling told me “I have an illness” because they know just what to say to get an emotional reaction out of you. I stopped reacting emotionally by singing songs in my head and doing my breath work not to absorb the gaslighting and I was then called “arrogant” which is much better than being called insane because LOVING myself includes not explaining myself to bullies.

[freerobuxcheckmychannel]

The biggest shock of my life was when my therapist told me that it wasnt my fault. My entire 20 year marriage was a lie.

[roseannecurtis]

And you have no idea what they are telling other people about you, making you look bad while elevating themselves in the process. They are truly evil beings.

[rubensmacedo]

"Please practice holding on to your reality..." Write this down on a piece of paper and put it in your wallet or where ever. This is more important than you can possibly imagine.

[machinagirl]

I’ve gotten the I’m too dramatic and I’m too sensitive. The narc makes it look like I’m the one that’s unstable to others but all I’m trying to do is defend myself.

[Oncearanger]

“ I’m not the enemy”

That’s what my mother says when she provokes me into my episodes

[c.o.s.ismyname]

"Your sense of feeling unsettled fosters their sense of power". This is powerful.

[karmagal]

I got to where I spoke with no emotion. I responded with, ”Whatever you say.” I realized that he only hears himself. He has no intention of trying to understand my side, his sons side, or ANYONES side that does not serve him completely. Now that his sons and I have survived his discard and abandonment, he snaps and says, ”Glad you all are so happy now.” He’s so disappointed that his loved ones survived his abuse. It’s chilling.

[chanteall]

When you come back into the room and they ask “have you calmed down now?” As if I’m the crazy one!?!

[Subspace._tripmine]

My mother did that so many times to me when I was growing up. I was told I needed counseling, wo I'd go. But the Therapists told me I didn't have a mental illness. It left me very confused. I was a minor so I listened thinking I could always fix something. I never knew what the problem was. And I finally learned that she was toxic. Sad thing to know that my mother was broken. As she got older she got meaner.