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[lucillebittinger]

It's become so comforting to see you pop up on my YouTube everyday. No matter where iam emotionally, when I hear you talk, it's like I'm sitting down with someone who actually cares and I can trust that you will be honest and the sigh of relief sometimes, ....🙂 it's weight lifting and vital. Thank you so much. ❤

[kuntogdi]

If someone claims something is a grape and it looks like an apple, tastes like an apple, smells like an apple, feels like an apple, then it is an apple, don't let them break your relationship with reality. Truth and reality is one of the most important concepts for me... Stay healthy and respect to truth and reality even when it is not beneficial to your short term benefit.. Don't distort reality and don't let them distort your reality either...

[ElCineHefe]

My response to gaslighting is a very sarcastic, "And for a completely different reality, I will always ask YOU."

[astralcreek]

My mom, a couple days ago, said "you didn't let your father be a parent" ???
ummm, i didn't realize i was raising them when i was growing up

[jlynngambler]

I've dealt with it so much. It's not a simple misunderstanding. It's someone deliberately being deceptive to both make you doubt yourself while the gaslighter has another excuse to avoid responsibility. In the last couple years, I started calling mother f***ers out. Not quite sure if it's the best way, but it's the I've-had-enough way.

[renscorpio]

Just had a conversation with my nan about my narcissistic mum and she told me to "grow up and get over it" "she's changed" "you're the one creating problems" and it broke me down. I just want my views accepted or respected, they don't have to accept it but I'd love to be respected but sadly I don't think they ever will and that's ok. It's just in certain moments it breaks me down and invalidates my feelings and experience. I have two scars on my body from my mum that were given to me before I was 7. It went on for years, I'm allowed to cut her off as an adult without feeling pressure to put her back in my life.b

[lisadodson-newton]

As always, thank you for the content ! This is a MUST for people who deal with Narcissists as they feed off of your reactions. I cannot stress it enough how you have to be so careful not to fuel the fire ! Thank You for helping everyone as you do ❤

[dr.fatemaomran]

Narcissist holiday’s syndrome. They are the best one to ruin holidays

[Swami]

My narcissistic mother lives rent free in my head even at 52. Thank you for easing the pain Dr. Ramani.

[AndreaMartinez-qube]

This is really cool. I went from being excited to watch Saturday morning cartoons as a kid, to being excited to watch Dr. Ramani on Saturday afternoon as an adult.

[tlove]

You definitely can FEEL it, as well as hear it, when they’re gaslighting you. 👍🏼💯🙌🏼

[masoncaffey]

I love how with holidays there’s almost “Seasonal Narcissism.” Always important to be prepared! Thanks Dr Ramani!

[iamgolden]

A side of gas lighting with the mashed potatoes and turkey! That’s perfect!

[mantharie]

My family is so excited for this holiday season! After 30 years, my aunt finally divorced her narcissist husband. We used to always have to tiptoe around what we said and cater to his moods, which was exhausting. Our family is so relieved not to have to deal with him!

[imtired]

The best for me is to continue to believe my own truth no matter what the F anyone is *telling me. I’ll keep on keeping doing this until I am institutionalized for believing that my lamp is talking to me or something completely outrageous.
Because people are crappy.
*telling me = not just what they say but what the DONT say. What they do. What they don’t do. Because sometimes people are so focused on meeting their goals that they will practice all sorts of psychological crap without even knowing it. The bosses. The CEO. The cheating husband. I can go on forever.
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I wish I could never have to see people by going to work.
I wish I was rich enough to stay home and work on a garden and art and listen to Isco and read books.
I hate that I live people…..because I hate people.

[mos]

I once told my narcissistic mother that I’m not going to participate in the arguments that I’d seen so many times from her family on holidays…the gaslighting was so bad that people couldn’t remember who said what. I actually thought my mother would say ‘you know what…you’re right! Let’s stop this’. Then I learned why she didn’t say it when I started my research.

[claratreeborn]

I'm excited for this. Gaslighting is a tricky thing to understand. I think I've only just begun to understand it across the last couple of months.

[Aanframe]

Absolutely essential.
The Cores workshop was overwhelming in terms of self-knowledge, with a great impact in the therapeutical work with my psychotherapist

[winterso]

"Family also means a side of gaslighting along with ur smashed potatos and gravy" 😂😂😂😭 so true and u had me rolling with that intro!

[lasphynge]

Time is your friend. I have memory issues so I usually stall taking any firm stance on important or conflictuous subjects until I've had time to check informations, back-ups, personal notes, e-mails and try to summon my actual memories in every possible way. My gut feeling is getting more reliable with time and learning, but for the bigger part of my life, it has been a broken compass too. So I kinda have to doubt my reality methodically, because if I'm forced to answer "on the spot" there's a 50/50 chance I'll be wrong and regret my choice. And I notice manipulative people seem to know that and to use it, like marketing experts, they want to make you feel like you have to decide now, commit now, take sides now. It's like the whole react versus respond matter: as much as feasible, use time to your advantage. I don't mean procrastinate forever, wait out issues or dwell in neutrality (remember not choosing is a choice as well), but do give yourself the time to cool down and check things if you need to, take a break, have a bit of time on your own, maybe sleep on it, and THEN come to a decision. And beware of people who won't allow you that.