Gaslighting, Signs in a Relationship

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[le_th_]

The recordings are DEFINITELY for your own sanity...and you will be glad you have them.

[rexbennett]

Got a recorder. Brought it home. Felt a little guilty about it. Stored it. She was suspicious of me due to my already having been withdrawn. She found it. The went off about it. Laying all kinds of guilt trips on me. Threatening divorce if I ever used it. Sadly I never did. At the time I was gaslighting myself into believing that 2+2=3.75. Instead of accepting that it was 4. 15 years later. Thank God for finally bringing me to my knees without dying. Accepted the 4 and took my loss. This short has served to reconstitute my belief in myself. Thank you.

[DHRodriguez]

If you are in a relationship where you’re questioning whether the other is gaslighting you and you feel you need to record that person … They Are. And you Should.
And you should also know by that point, You Need to Leave Them STAT !!!
They Are TOXIC

[izawaniek]

Yes, Spot on! Absolutely. If you feel you need to record what they say, it is sure sign of being gaslighted. We need to do it to protect our sanity. Thank you.

[randyrobinson]

When you have anxiety you tend to forget

[remnant]

My comfort wasn’t in video/audio recordings (though I did keep the enraged voicemails). My comfort came from holding onto the text messages. Every single one after the first rage-out. I found myself going back to text conversations we had just to prove what he’d said and what I said. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t tripping when he came back either acting like it never happened or claiming it never happened. I also wanted to always have a reminder of what I went through when he’d return to the Hoovering stage. Never directly thought about it until just now.

[randomcrap]

I started recording my mother last year and keeping what I call a "crazy journal" lol when she starts losing her mind over being told no about something or accusing me of whatever thing she has made up that day and screaming at me and calling me names, I record it now. She likes to say that stuff doesn't happen and "I'm just exaggerating" when I am still understandably upset about the incident hours or days later. It helped soooo much in drawing and sticking to my boundaries and working on my self empowerment to do so to be able to play it back and hear that I am not crazy. And just like Dr. Ramani said, being confronted with the recordings doesn't help...my mom told me I was just doing it to try to make her look bad to other people. Like...I'm pretty sure you did that all on your own, but thanks for playing, lady! 😂

[SanctaJives]

I'm glad JD and AH recorded so many of their fights. It was SO CLEAR that SHE was the one gaslighting and abusing him!

[niasymphony]

I said this to someone the other day about recording them so they can hear themself Im happy I came across this video this is confirmation

[sarahtilahun]

Whoo...look how quickly God will answer your questions and prayers and requests...Thank you Lord for this divine direction and divine discernment.

[scottryanjohnson]

I wanted to record and video my experiences with my abusive ex after the first year when the verbal/emotional abuse and gaslighting started happening, shortly after the first year of a false persona - he was horrible and I'm still overcoming the PTSD and CPTSD from it all

[anastaciaperriello]

So, the bottom line is to just get away from the narcissist at all costs. If for some reason you're stuck with them (they're a parent or a spouse and you're financiallydependent) start making a plan to get away from them and make sure you stay in touch with someone who can help you keep your sanity until you can get away completely.

[angelicahernandez]

I’m literally in this type of situation now. To the point, where it’s definitely impossible for myself or anyone to have a conversation with them.

[Growbacktoyourroots]

I told my mom just this evening that I’m going to start recording our conversations. Today she told me, “Amanda you can’t have an opinion on this matter because you no longer live in this house” and after more arguing, not even 30 seconds later she goes, “you’re entitled to have your own opinions” 😂 makes me feel like I’m INSANE talking to her. She contradicts everything she says.

[JenGable-Justeson]

She is always spot on ! I enjoy listening to her discuss the concepts behind NPD abuse/other personality disorders.

[TonalliZeleste]

YUP this was LITERALLY my abusive parents when I recorded their abuse they totally denied it, but ive been no contact for years now, my ex was the same too BUT I HAVE freed myself from those toxic relationships 😊🕊🌅🧚🏽‍♂️

[joshgorsky]

Yep and the reaction is exactly as you Foretold

[DavidYisrael-um]

I remember a grieving person said something they don't remember saying at all and I counted it as part of a grieving process. There have been plenty of circumstances where people are grieving and at times overwhelmed. Gaslighting is a conscious effort to decieve.

[praggy]

Ohhh oh my goodness!! You said it so well. You infer it so so well. It’s for your sanity that you record so you can take next steps.

[colton]

Omg I need someone to talk to immediately