Signs You're Not Crazy, You're Being Gaslighted

Ever felt like you're questioning your own sanity in a relationship or situation? It might not be you – you could be experiencing gaslighting, which is a form of emotional abuse and psychological abuse.

In this video, we'll uncover the signs of gaslighting abuse and shedding light on this manipulative tactic used by narcissists and master manipulators. From subtle twists of truth to outright denial, gaslighting can leave you feeling confused, invalidated, and doubting your own reality. We'll explore the different types of gaslighting and provide insights into recognizing manipulation tactics employed by gaslighters. Whether you're in a toxic relationship, dealing with narcissistic abuse, or simply want to understand the signs of gaslighting, this video is your guide to reclaiming your truth and sanity.

#gaslighting #manipulation #narcissist

Writer: Sara Del Villar
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Georgia Whitbread
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

SOURCES:

[rednath]

To everyone thinking they're being gaslit, always keep trusting your own instinct.

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 intro
1:49 lying
2:44 discrediting
3:36 minimizing
4:15 blaming
5:47 outro

[JustaNobody-jx]

It’s like being on rollercoaster of emotions that never ends in which where what’s real keeps changing because someone’s messing with your mind like a puppeteer.

[JDiology]

This happens alot at work. Very disgusting of ppl when they're supposed to be professional.

[Grounderboo]

A year ago, i was in a situation where i was being gaslighted and bullied by one of the people i called a friend, this video describes the way they shift your perception of reality and make you doubt yourself

[the_yurest]

pretty sure I'm just gaslighting myself

[TTime]

Living in a dystopan police state, I think this is a message more people need to hear. Thanks for the video.

[jinx_rat]

Just realized my mom gaslights me in way more ways than I realized.. hm

[HereIAm]

Setting boundaries don't always help, unfortunately. Some gaslighters seem to take it as 'encouragement' to push at those boundaries, and that is where they will really start to devalue your perception. If anything, in some cases setting boundaries can show them they have an effect, where your 'weaknesses' are, and motivate them to keep going. As much as I despise it, everything they do is strategic, so you need to have a counter strategy for being around them. Hold your cards as close as you can, bluff if you can be convincing enough, and try to make them show their hand. Use their own strategy agains them. Or at the very least understand it, so you can know how not to trigger it, for your own safety.

The trick about writing it down is very helpful in remembering how things actually happened. And the more you read and remember, the easier it will be to trust your own perception. Because that is really the main goal when dealing with a gaslighter. If you are not constantly scrambling to figure out what actually happened, you can see through their games, and see what they are really doing. That means you spend less mental (and physical) energy on confusion, and you can spend more on figuring out how to deal with them; every gaslighter is different.

[mikesmith]

Thanks I've been gaslit for a while now ! Least I know I'm not crazy . Gaslighting is insidious !

[neuzkochan]

Can you make a video about tips to make your mental health better or how to get rid of toxic friends without harm? Thank you for this beautiful content.

[victornguyen]

I knew someone who had such a twisted perception of the real world that they formed a group of people who felt the same way to feel safer, and anyone who told them reasonable truths were allegedly gaslighting them. They were all good people at the heart. I frequently insisted that anything I said was just to try and help, or even ask for help, only to be hurt and bullied for trying to do the right thing. When I got away from that group and spent more time around reasonable people, suddenly I realized I was being gaslit, not them.

*If you believe me, I am the victim. If you don't, I did the gaslighting.* The entire interaction hinges on an unbiased third-party, which almost never exists because of the way group dynamics work and tribalism.

A lot of people who do the gaslighting genuinely think they are the ones being gaslit. This video, I think, dangerously under-explores the depth of what gaslighting is and where it comes from. All of us have done the gaslighting thinking we were doing the right thing, it isn't about being a gaslighter or not. It's about having warped perception, which this video can create if you follow it explicitly.

[Lotuslaful]

Thank you for this clear distinction
I am experiencing this and feeling bullied by it and grateful for the support of mind and instinct ❤

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Lying 1:49
2). Discrediting 2:43
3). Minimizing 3:35
4). Blaming 4:14

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[Jenny__Calendar]

That hurts like hell and takes a lot of time and effort to recover from…

[sussekind]

Gaslighting is closer to brainwashing than it is to lying. Although, lying is a necessary part of it.
The difference is the intention.
There is a huge difference between lying to protect someone's feelings and lying to convince someone that a certain thing happened when it did not, or vice versa. Especially if the goal is to make that someone believe that they are at fault for the phantom event or for convincing that someone the non-existence of one.

[KannaKandy]

I just got out of a relationship with a narcissistic person who managed to slowly manipulate me for over 5 months. Around the last week they hit a wall and got even worse, coaxing me to reveal things about myself I would rather not have other people know. It was only due to a gut feeling that on the final day I finally cut them off, where they revealed their truest colors and faked an attempt at kicking their own bucket, where supposedly their cousin took control of their account in a panic. When they went to me about it, because allegedly I was directly associated with their "ending attempt". They outed themself by using the exact same gaslighting techniques that they used, and it was again, due to instinct and a new set of eyes that I was able to figure it out. I'm glad its over now.

[hummerjeepfanforlife]

been through narcissistic abuse, and my abuser did this to me a lot since he basically used my empathetic tendencies and kindness against me through all the listed gaslighting techniques

[Redheadbelle]

It’s good on educating! At least I can say that in person, it’s very difficult to decept me. Ian proud of being vulnerable, open & honest with my feelings. Trust your instinct with persons usually the way you are feeling around them is telling you the truth.

[EmzBJD]

3:14
he has said this to me a lot after hurting me
i know he gaslights and manipulates me but watching this is 100 percent clear clear 😭
along with comments like
''i wasn't mean''
''it was mean to you''
''it was mean but in a good way''
''i love you so much''
''i can't lose you'
''do what ever you need to do, go away and come back when you feel better''
''i will not talk''
''stop talking about the past''
''your wrong''

and it's so draining and constantly sending paragraphs after paragraphs as to why he hurt me and that i really upset and just to be ignores and he says ''i aint reading all that'' or ''i would prefer not to read'' or ''your doing this to yourself''

and note it's a long distance relationship
It used to be amazing and he was kind now he is really mean and saying im the problem and that im the one manipulating him when its the other way around
i just take his bs when he's mad or upset and he becomes really mean and he can even do all that when he's not upset or angry.

he always say
''there's a reason i was that way'' and that reason would be me btw and he has clearly stated that

I told him ''never a reason to be mean to anyone'' and he denys and denys IM RALLY FED UP and ive been taking his bs for months now holding onto what it could be and how he used to be...