Why Narcissists DON'T like being at Home?

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chapters
00:00 introduction

00:58 Why some narcissists do no stay in their home

01:20 SPECIAL OFFER

02:26 narcissists are child like

03:56 Narcissist gets stuck in the sensational state

05:06 Why do they get bored easily at home ?

06:30 They make you fall in love by behaving as your reflection

08:08 They go out there in search of something new

10:58 The conclusion

[janedoe]

My ex was like this. I met him at church. We went to a "mega-church", there were thousands of people there and so they had LOT of activities to be involved in. The whole time we dated, we were doing church activities and fellowships. It was a lot of fun. But when we got married, we didn't stay home together more, but we kept up our busy schedule: teaching classes, being in music ministries, Bible studies, etc. My ex was at the forefront of these: doing the teaching, playing the guitar, facilitating the fellowships. When we had kids, I stayed home, and he was at church EVERY night of the week, and Saturdays. I would say, "please stay home with me at least ONE night a week. He literally said, "I am not going to promise you one night a week, because something important might come up". I could not explain or complain to anyone because they saw him as a "spiritual giant" because he was at church "giving" all them time. They saw me as a "backsliding, complaining, un-submissive wife" because I was not as involved as he was. Now I understand that his SUPPLY was all the adulations and attention that he got from church. He was always on stage playing the guitar. Always in front of the small group doing the teaching. Always entertaining everyone with witty sayings and verses. That's the person that I fell in love with: the mask he wore while "performing" at church. At home, he ignored me, bossed me around, and complained. No one believed me that he was a different person at home.

[Peacealways]

They go go so that they don't have to sit with the demonic spirits in their mind. A peaceful person enjoys being at home, quiet or watching movies, etc. Peace kills narcs.

[winnieteikawairangi]

Because they constantly need an audience to validate their lies and self importance

[nnncusp]

Beware of anyone who cannot sit in silence...cause they aren't interested in introspection

[kimkimmy]

Narcs only functions when they have an audience — with an audience they get to put on a show but with you they can’t because you know who they are.

[jocelineblerot]

Because they can't stand their own company. Self-reflection is Not in the cards for the narc. The narc is much more comfortable out ?there abusing, bullying, gaslighting, etc.

[stephaniemccleskey]

My ex would go to parties we were invited to without me. Dinners too. Couples parties. Leave me at home sick. Instead of saying ok i will let them know we aren't coming he'd just say ok well im going, hope you feel better. His need for supply was more important than a sick wife.

[Shawn-eyoy]

They want your attention and admiration BAD!! Ignore them. Reflect to them their empty nothingness. They FREAK at the truth!

[nahidkaramali]

Driven by their senses and power-it is so exhausting-as they are aging, it is so sad to see a human being in that state-a child in an old body-it is so painful to witness.

[II.PP.]

Sometimes they don't like to go out but they love having people visiting them all the time. Their house is always full of people, even at the point there will not be privacy and peace for their family members, just to give the appearance of social beings and give themselves self importance.

[markh]

Sounds very familiar. I keep my distance from her because she can get mean in a minute but is a social butterfly. These people will make you nuts, please stay away. They will promise you a cookie and only give you crumbs.

[lachanna]

You just described my ex husband PERFECTLY. He was ALWAYS gone but I didn’t even care cause he got on my nerves so bad I was glad when he was never home.

[direstraights]

Have you ever noticed that when texting the NARC they OVERLOOK importance in what is trying to be conyed.?

[sloppypoppie]

They are addicted to a lot of things. Whatever they do it's because of addiction.

[dinolemma]

I am suspicious of people who flew into a depression from lock down. I find it odd that being at home is so terrible for so many.

[colleenshea]

My sense is that part of this has to do with the driving need for admiration, opportunities to self elevate, and meet and influence new people - for the purpose of gathering brand new narcissistic supply.

[lakshmineuroscience]

My narcissist wife will gaslight me that staying at home is definition of being lazy and home is worst place to be and exploring world is only way to become better.

[ShamooStu]

Because if narcissists don't have people around, to throw their BS off them and onto others, they die from an overload of their own crap.

[jimmypena]

You described my ex fiance well, she couldn't sit still, always needed to be at other people's homes, when at home couldn't sit at home to have simple conversation about anything, 0 empathy, 0 ability to be romantic, she masquerade herself well, I'm glad I dodged this bullet

[constancedenchy]

My husband had to: go surfing, go golfing, go hunting, go out with buddies, go gambling, go philandering...and any where he'd go if it wasn't stimulating enough ( aka about him?) he'd be bored and have to go, go, go...always had to go somewhere better