The DANGER of trying to outplay a narcissist

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[p.w.]

Trying to outplay a narcissist is like underestimating a narcissist. Never underestimate a narcissist. They will say and do things that you would never stoop to doing. The drama isn't worth it.

[aparsons]

Normal people aren't willing to go to the levels most narcissists do! They are relentless!

[kimberlyvergez]

So right. The narcissist will always escalate in vindictiveness to a point that a normal person doesn't have the stomach to continue. My father once told me, "never play the other person's game; they're better at it than you are." Especially true with narcissists

[angelacahill]

One of the sickest things about them is they believe they have a right to their anger and spewing it all over you all the time. If you try to give them a taste of their own medicine, they see that as an unprovoked assault, and plan revenge for it. They never acknowledge their own continual venom as the precursor. They're insane.

[weaviejeebies]

Always remember that you have moral limits. You have a stopping point that your soul just won't let you go past. A narcissist doesn't. They will only ever continue to escalate.

[VRSWGN]

It's the same as trying to show them how they are hurting you. The only thing that will happen in the end is they will blame you, make you out to be the problem, and you end up losing more in the end. It's not worth it. The only way to outplay them is to disengage and walk away

[ashton]

Stay a step ahead by seeing through them and not letting on. Don't get drawn into fights, remain indifferent, be unabashed and do the slow fade.

[virginiabraden]

The best advice that I have discovered is don't go DEEP: don't Defend, don't Explain, don't Engage, and don't take it as Personal. It works. You win and it feels like it because it is a drop-dead end for the narcissist and you have taken your power back.

[CowgirlKim]

Not recommended but can be accomplished. I did at a cost. I exposed him publicly through criminal court, putting him in jail for 2years and took everything, farm, 40 acres, and personal assets (cars) in the divorce litigation. It cost me aspects of my physical health and certainly my mental health with CPTSD. I am proud of myself for finally standing up and following through with what I said would happen.

[blairewood]

The sad part is they really believe they’re good people 🤡 pitiful. The best revenge is being nothing like them

[elaynepallist]

I had this issue with my narcissist sister. But ultimately I realized I’d have to be as obsessed, nasty, deceitful and conniving as she was. I had to let it go. As your videos on proverbs reminds us, “Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it"

[marypatriciawarming]

I've outplayed narcissist a few times while using extreme patience. I got what I wanted while they belittled and blamed me. You just can't fall into their games for one minute and you must be extremely patient. Let them take their time and slowly, slowly, get your way while smiling. They don't want to look bad so they'll do the right thing sometimes if you can wait long enough. I wasn't out for revenge, but I didn't let them take advantage of me in the long run.

[almcelroy]

My narcissistic friend came back via Facebook after over twenty years. They don't forget. I froze him out. You can't give them ANY access! They don't change!

[jokendrick]

I think, , , , I could outplay them but life is too short and I prefer taking the high road and walking away. There is more strength in walking away than staying and fighting day after day.

[SurvivinThrivin]

"They have no problem using a sledgehammer to kill a mosquito". 😉 Dr Ramani's got a way with words. Thank you!

[IzabelaWaniek-ix]

I think the best way to outplay the narcisist is not to play. No supply to be had here. Cutting off all forms of supply, healing and moving on to live your authentic and peaceful life is the best way to walk away from them.

[thesoulfoodpodcast]

The best way to outplay narcs is to move on with your life in silence with a handful of people that truly understand what you’ve been through as your support system. Enablers are just as bad as the main culprit. Avoid them too at all cost!

[moniquejackson]

Brilliant and a Must See. When it comes to outplaying them, Narcissists are Inexhaustible, they will NEVER fight fair, and they ALWAYS come after you in some way. Know the risks. Thank you, Dr. Ramani!

[jhoughjr]

Only way to outplay them is to not play.

[sushmayen]

We cannot win in any situation. Only staying away works.